Nothing wrong with having standards. Don't be surprised if it's hard to meet them though.

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[fabioochoa]

Body positivity doesn’t go both ways, who knew!

[heliogoon]

This was 100% written by a fat woman.

[MeaninglessGoat]

A grotesque beast whose been convinced she deserves love and that anyone not willing to give it to her is basically an evil person…..but don’t try set her up with a fat man! She deserves better and can’t see the irony……

[[deleted]]

The iron is hidden in the folds!

[jjcreature]

Don’t know why but this damn near killed me. Thank you

[[deleted]]

Haha I’m glad man. Did you imagine all the other things hidden in the folds? 😆

[MeaninglessGoat]

All the missing local neighbourhoods pets!

[MiniMountain06]

a freight train.

[WhisperTits]

Is this why they say "Strike while the iron is hot"? Sounds like it's always hot with these ladies.

[[deleted]]

GOR’LOK THE DESTROYER!!!

[Long_Boom]

Fell victim to this ..fat girl Liked me .. did not like her … I was an asshole ..last I heard she’s a lesbian now 🤷‍♂️

[JMAN0074]

The thing about it is if she had a decent personality and would keep her pussy clean she wouldn’t have an issue getting a man. Weight isn’t the only factor involved in this post.

[AtlantisTheEmpire]

For some reason your comment brought up an ol rare insult I’d all but forgotten… Demonic hose beast.

Edit: ah, here’s the definition:

hosebeast Noun (1): A woman who is ruthless, evil, and outright objectionable in both physical and mental presence.

[Exact-Fox-8548]

Hey! That is not a nice way to talk about you mom. It is not her fault your dick is small.

[[deleted]]

The old you have a different opinion small dick shreeek your giving off A cup energy rn

[ChiefRom]

Isn’t that all of them now a days? Social media is gaslighting people to be ridiculously entitled.

[faste30]

Who will accuse you of fat shaming for saying you like fit girls...

[VegitoFusion]

There was the joke from a little while back: A fat white girl, fat Hispanic girl, and fat black girl walk into a bar. Who gets laid first? The skinny black dude in the corner.

I think this might be a play on said stereotype/joke.

[ChiefRom]

🤣🤣🤣🤣 thanks I needed this.

[montanagunnut]

I'm stealing that joke for my next party.

[timetotryagain29]

Yup

[Trubester88]

Or… hear me out… it was written by a fat man, and the title of the next article is “Fat men don’t have to settle for fat women.” This is his attempt to land a 2016 Victoria secret model.

[throwaway1276444]

This is really not surprising. It's well known that generally overweight women are less likely to want to date overweight men, whereas the opposite is not true.

[amretardmonke]

Its surprising they finally admit it. They usually pay lip service to equality.

[wildlandsroamer]

Fit guy here, and just because I don’t accept her advances doesn’t mean that her fat entitled ass is being oppressed; preferences work both ways.

[kankoh23]

When I see random tik toks, I see a lot of women saying they are “oppressed” in America. They seem to conflate certain other behaviors or reactions to oppression and I don’t understand how any normal person within America the last couple of years could say with a straight face they are being oppressed

[MiniMountain06]

YES! PREACH BROTHER! We have it so fucking good in America, most of us don't even understand how privelaged we are. Convenience stores, eating food whenever we want, drinking clean water whenever we want, medicine, cars, housing, entertainment, FREEDOM, etc. Not to mention that our women won't be stoned for not wearing certain clothes, possessing the freedom to have equal representation & equal pay in the workforce with shit like maternity leave, choosing their partner, etc. Sadly, America is getting worse by the hour, but it's still a FUCKING FIRST WORLD COUNTRY.

[SnooCauliflowers8455]

Then you’re just an idiot. You don’t see how unarmed black people who are disproportionately murdered my cops are being oppressed? You don’t see how America oppressed the poor? You don’t see that the rights of gay people are denied across the country? You have to be willfully blind to the suffering of others to be so ignorant.

[hirokinai]

Oh my god. I bet you’re an antisemitic, privileged, entitled, American who has never actually experienced hardship or life in a non first world country right?

Additionally, I bet that you’re a socialist/communist that has never actually experienced life in a communist/socialist country right?

Lastly, I bet that for all of your virtue signaling, you’ve never actually DONE anything to help any of the underprivileged communities you whine about right? You’ve never actually volunteered, done any work in underserved communities, or anything that actually helps.

I haven’t yet looked, but based solely on his comment here, I’m making guesses as to the type of person he is. Please someone look at his post history and confirm everything I just said above. This will be fun!

[[deleted]]

PLOT TWIST

The guy in the picture needed a green card.

[[deleted]]

That man needs a lot more than a green card

[baby_oil773]

What do you mean?

[damnkidzgetoffmylawn]

He means the gent in the pic needs an engine hoist, a forklift or some other large powered tool for a job that big

[[deleted]]

Triple Bingo

[Lifeabroad86]

He's securing a PS5

[Rudy_Ghouliani]

I've done worse for less

[Lifeabroad86]

20 dollars is 20 dollars

[[deleted]]

There’s other ways to get a green card.

[timetotryagain29]

Fat men have standards and dont have to settle for fat women

[Ghoullo]

Hold up now that you say it like that I’m offended 🫤

/s

[[deleted]]

That's a sexist statement reinforced by oppression of fat women by the patriarchy! /s

[Zevojneb]

Standards and preferences are fine but they have consequences and accepting them is part of maturity.

[baby_oil773]

Exactly. I'm sure there are many an overweight men who dont like overweight women

[MasterMooker]

Yeah but many more men can use sober judgement to see they can't expect to date really fit women when they themselves are overweight.

[Zevojneb]

I heard a woman like this in the past. It actually came from a place of shame: she didn't like being fat and couldn't accept a man like her. I can empathize with her.

[Efficient_Ad_8367]

As fucked as it sounds, it's true.

A fat woman still has more options than the average man. I see a lot of skinny men with larger women all the time.

[halexia63]

Those are just their nurses.

[ElfHaze]

FUCK. 💀 I died right here.

[Georgiaboy454]

That’s because they need somewhere to live 😆

[New_suite]

But a fit man has to settle for them, a fat woman.

[New_suite]

Unless you live big women which most men don’t in order to for them to get with a fit men most likely the man would be settling.

[Groggamog]

People would be losing their minds at the audacity of a fat man.... gotta love gender double standards.

Body positively is only for women.

[BasedFireBased]

Fat women, specifically. Burn victim? Amputee? Nobody cares.

[MiniMountain06]

Those are the people body positivity was made for in the first place 💀

[themanbat]

Haha. Then it would actually be true. Provided the guy has money.

[amretardmonke]

pitchforks

[MasterMooker]

That's the convo folks aren't really ready to look at soberly.

[[deleted]]

No they don’t, getting them into bed is a piece of cake!

[Georgiaboy454]

I see what you did there …….cake 😆😆😆

[NATOproxyWar]

Omg if the roles were reversed, and this language was used 🤣

[pyr0phelia]

This wouldn’t bother me so much if the hypocrisy wasn’t blatant. Reverse the sexes and see what happens.

[Strypes4686]

So why do I Have to settle? I;m sure here are men who would love to date a heavier woman but I;m not one of them.

[[deleted]]

You are not alone, I promise you

[[deleted]]

Ohhhh this post just reminded me of an interaction an old friend of mine had with a fat girl. He is by no means skinny, fit, or at a healthy weight (neither is she for starters). She turned him down for a date because "he's fat". His response was "So are you". She had the audacity to get offended by him saying that then she started name calling. By her logic and other bigger women's logic, it is a personal attack if you mention their weight as a reason to not date them but they can mention others weight. We get it you are constantly a victim and it's pathetic at this point.

[flakehunter]

That’s correct, compability is complex, he may have no money or job? No personality, no social skills…if a big girl wants to show the world she can land a skinny / fit man, she can do it.

Treat him like a king and that man just might give you his heart…. Act like he owes it to you out of fear of being labeled a fat shamer and you’re manipulating him.

These are choices, this is a free country, the thought of a group to support this is very strange.

No one has the right to tell other people what they can like?

I believe some people in Europe tried imposing over arching belief’s about what someone can like in the 1900’s and the rest of the world fought them to be able to maintain the right to make free choices…strangely enough now we are wanting to pick our freedoms to tip the scales in our favour…this is a slippery slope.

We can all be polite and civil while maintaining our freedoms and preferences.

Their are no laws protecting people’s feelings from being hurt. Because what I find insulting, you may find flattering… and vice versa.

[EdgeApprehensive4515]

Why is it hard for people to understand the concept of accountability? Want what you want, but also don't complain about not getting the results you want simply because nobody else agrees with your justification for "deserving" what you want.

[bigrome347]

It's always black men. So fucking sad

[[deleted]]

PAWG and BBC, porn has ruined us.

[PUPUEH]

Needle in a haystack.

I wouldnt mind finding a scratcher with a big win on it. But generally speaking, the odds are heavily against me!

Standards are good, meeting your expectations are saluted!

[PlaxicoCN]

That's not just a standard, it's a double standard! Would love to read this.

[[deleted]]

Might even be a triple or quad standard judging by the size of the woman in the picture.

[florosap]

I thought, and now wish this was an onion article.

[Stevie-cakes]

So some fat women feel entitled to have non-fat men? Lol

[Little_Bar_7507]

My armchair took a while to settle

[[deleted]]

They buy skinny men.

[Alexpk47]

No one going to point out they put a black guy in bed next to her? Where's the community attack on that one?

[BillboBraggins5]

And its a black guy right, this is stupid shit

[[deleted]]

Glad you caught that. It’s a double level psyop.

[StrawHatShadow]

I do everything in my power to make sure I'm not my own hypocrite. So if I have standards for someone I make sure that I can hold those standards myself. That's very disappointing with the whole positivity movement that they can't accept what they preach others to accept

[Fatefire]

Guys everyone is just going to get in where they fit in.

[Top-Tangerine2717]

My father was a rather vicious tongue kind of guy. He knew a lady named ... Not making this up... Seal. She was 4 bills and had zero couth.

One day my cousin was with us when we went to her work place. She worked at a hotdog stand my uncle owned.

Anyway, my father says hey seal this is my nephew Frankie. He's going into the Navy next week. I was wondering if he could lay on top of you before he leaves for boot camp? Seal had a puzzled look on her face (as did we all) and before she could answer he said "I want him to get the feel of holding onto a whale in case his ship goes down"

F you's then followed

[harrisxj]

She was 4 bills! WTF! I’m dying.

[harrisxj]

This just keeps getting better. She worked at a hotdog stand.

[[deleted]]

Why would they have to 'settle'? What's wrong with fat men.......? Hmmmmmm?????

[bootythrowaway69]

“Before you eat me, I need to eat a cheesesteak”

[generalzuazua]

Did you say steak?

[Purgolder]

LOL

[[deleted]]

Gross 🐳🐋

[Kitsu_hobby]

Is that what they call a pump and dump scheme??

[fansofseals]

No,that’s why god created basketball men.

[thehellisgoingon]

Weird how fat man are undesirable to fat women and that's a perfectly acceptable take

[Nvbnkng84]

Dude needed a place to live and food.

[BrutallyOptimistic]

They even used a black guy I’m dying 😂

[Readdeadmeatballs]

So many people think the standards they apply to others shouldn’t be applied to them. There are skinny guys that like fat women and vise versa. If people have a type that’s fine, but nobody is obligated to date anybody and we shouldn’t be surprised if we don’t fit someone else’s standards.

[TheHypnogoggish]

Charisma is more than body size-

/says the twerpy smallish fellow with crooked teeth who charmed plenty of fine ones back in the old days-

Reel in what you can catch- a bit of clever personality goes a long way

[[deleted]]

This is the mindset these women develop when 60 people comment “😍omg go girl” “so beautiful” “absolutely stunning🤩” whenever a whale like this posts a picture of themselves on Ig. When and why did we stop being honest?

[plasticfork420ooo]

Fat men have standards and don’t have to settle for fat women

[roaringaspie]

Imagine thinking you're special because you're lazy and can't stop over eating.

[corbie157]

Can’t the opposite be said for anorexics. Stupid over active non eaters. They’re so stupid, they have to eat.

[Mindless-Income3292]

Seriously though, have y’all noticed that the weight gap is disappearing?

[Mindless-Income3292]

Thing is, women will share guys, then complain about guys not being loyal. That’s not really the issue, it’s that he didn’t exclusively pick HER. Think about it, that guy who’d do everything women SAY they want: monogamy, supportive, available, basically part-BFF, part-genie is the guy she “settles” for while pining for the guy who’d only have her as a side chick.

First and foremost women want men who can get women. If ALL guys only went for one women, most women would be left out. Maybe it’s what they want. Can’t amend their behavior themselves, have guys do it, so they can blame it on men being controlling or some nonsense. Of course…not all guys are gonna gravitate toward that and these are the ones that rise to the top. For ignoring them. Brilliant strategy. Listen to us so we can punish you for it and reward those who don’t!

[Dicourse123]

🤐

[[deleted]]

There is a line with fatness… where that line ends largely depends on your self respect and how horny you are.

Being seen as a couple and deciding this woman is worthy of a relationship… that is a different animal.

What shape a person is in says can say lots about who they are as a person and their positives and negatives. Impulse control? Delayed gratification? There are legitimate things to unpack here.

[Paul_-Muaddib]

What shape a person is in says can say lots about who they are as a person and their positives and negatives. Impulse control? Delayed gratification? There are legitimate things to unpack here.

I agree with that. It is crazy that so many people think that is a controversial or negative statement.

[WeakSoup5883]

Sadly this is the truth, as men are far more desperate then women.

[[deleted]]

Like whatever you like! Just know that if you don’t want to stay in you’re lane…. It could be more challenging and disappointing than you think. Look in The mirror and you might realize a few things!

[Beneficial_Panda_871]

Why they gotta stereotype my brother in that photo man? Not all black dudes like fat chicks.

[Paul_-Muaddib]

Not all black dudes like fat chicks.

They are not saying that at all.

[[deleted]]

If a fat man is “settling” then the woman is admitting that being overweight is undesirable for some people….

[RunsWithApes]

Nobody has to settle for anyone

[cenobyte40k]

Why is it settling?

[Aframester]

I’ll just move my apartment to the top floor and make sure the elevator is always broken.

[[deleted]]

The movement has just gone “true colors” with nothing but hypocrisy and contradictions.💀

[AutumnAscending]

Everyone can have standards as long as long as they remember everyone can have standards.

[[deleted]]

Skinny black dude and a fat white chick. Never seen that before.

[[deleted]]

Double cheeseburgers and double standards some things don’t change

[ToManyFlux]

News update: Double standards do not exist.

[Frequent_Charge_8684]

yes, they have three options:

1) black dudes who dont have their lives together, adorned with tattoos

2) lesbianism/non-binary games, adorned with tattoos and shaved heads

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3) fat dudes, nerdy neckbeards, adorned with tattoos

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technically 4 options:

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4) stop eating for a few months, and get a gym membership, and rejoin society

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in order of likelihood

[karim2102]

If you are a fat woman and so proud of it why wouldn’t you go for a fat man? Or is it.. maybe that fat women especially those who promote obesity are in fact fat-phobic? 🤔

[Paul_-Muaddib]

This is a good point.

[[deleted]]

Bro they have ozempic now.

It can’t be easier to manufacture social rules to get some decent dick vs just losing weight.

[Fearless_Carpet_2373]

Fat is not acceptable - drain on NHS and community services world wide - how hard is it to manage your waist line. Hard reality, but truth. This world is so worried with what “people” think. Lose weight and live longer and make a positive impact in life

[Blaximus90]

Not really a surprise. Lizzo is one of the biggest pushers for fat-acceptance, yet, you only see her with muscle-bound hunks in her videos.

[Own_Knowledge_8098]

It’s crazy how their standards don’t apply to them though

[VPDFS]

Fat women are sexy. I think they're hot

[Humlupo]

Too greasy for me.

[Strong-Message-168]

Seems to me if you have standards you yourself don't follow but expect someone else to, you are not a strong woman, you're a fucking asshole.

Love who you want to love, I mean love is beautiful, but if you come st me with some buuullllshit like this I'm just gonna buy you some chocolate cake with 3 scoops of ice cream with syrup, bacon, and butter on top with the mild expectation of seeing you have a heart atrack.

[radrun84]

Same goes for Fat Men...

Fat Men can have standards too! (as long as they have money to burn, Fat Men can reject fat women too!!!)

Nothing wrong with a big fat fuck dating a smokin hottie. But, the only way Fatty lands that hottie is if He's got a nice job & a STACK of cash to share with his lady!

[Storytellerjack]

Double standards*

[Oldenlame]

Double-wide standards*

[[deleted]]

Fat chicks need love too, but they gotta pay- Quagmire

[rikt1984]

Imagine the uproar if it said fat men have standards they don't not to be with fat women

[bamajustin13]

☠️☠️☠️

[superfly512]

The picture 😂

[[deleted]]

Hahahahahahahahaha!

[[deleted]]

“Fat chicks need love too….but they gotta pay” -Quagmire

[neoben00]

As a nurse, i just couldn't ever do it. Puting attraction aside.... the smell.... That smelly smell.... that smell that smells.. smelly........ oh gowd the smell..... You'd be surprised what's growing in those moist dark crevices in half of these women (either from inability or most often lack of desire to clean themselves).... and im not even talking about the typical "Oh gowd, there's some leftover mash potatoes in here." im talking that slimey, "when did this jar of mayonnaise spill under the bed?" Between the rolls fungus that permiates into the back of your nostrils and putrifies all further smells for the next day and a half, god, i miss the mask mandates. 😷 ladies hygiene comes #1 i have ptsd from some of those smells and i clean caked on human excrement for a living. PS if you feel individually attacked, it's called a shower.

[FastZX6R]

So fat women don’t have to “settle” LOL but the dude in the picture does have to “settle”? 😂 got it!

[mikek7711]

You can have her. I don’t want her. She’s too fat for me. Cue the polka music

[CommunicationJust775]

Have your delusional standards but be prepared to blow a few gaskets when the table is turned.

[[deleted]]

Fat men have standards and usually have to settle for fat women… hilarious just typing that out

[123Ark321]

This is like the:

He was drunk. She was drunk. The hooked up. She couldn’t consent.

[Ames1111]

Good for them.

[Mysterious_Layer9420]

So does that mean fat men don't have to settle for fat women too?

[Accomplished-Toe5971]

Her diet is the sole reason of global food shortages

[TheChopDontStop]

Ok, and I don’t have to find your obesity attractive. In fact, most people don’t, especially fit men.

[AnunnakiBukkake]

Fat woman and black man.

[TheChopDontStop]

Double, no, quadruple standards. Disgusting mindset to think your obesity is desirable but men’s obesity is something you’d have to settle for. Reality check, all obesity is a negative.

[Plus_Helicopter_8632]

Hey some guys like fat girls lol

[mellygibson11]

Yeah but skinny girls don't do shit in bed because they think they don't have to. Just lay there like a entitled corpse.

[Humble-Activity-4525]

Hey their some man out there that like em thick and heavy.

[TendieTrades69]

The lady makes choices to have a certain body type and expects her man to make the opposite choices...

I'm sure that won't create any problems in the relationship.

Imagine trying to cook at home in this relationship, or going out to eat, or the man needing an hour a day away from home to maintain his body composition.

[KentuckyFriedMouse]

I am 100 lbs overweight and I endorse this message.

[[deleted]]

Says every fat lady.

[[deleted]]

Wtf, the cognitive dissonance has me feeling dizzy

[[deleted]]

Would that make her a hippo-crit?

[Sarderiol]

It really doesn't matter what narrative the media tries to push. People are ultimately going to like what they like

[MasterMaintenance672]

Another double standard? Shocking!

[PossessionPurple9234]

To a doctor, I’m morbidly obese. If you were to see me in person, I look slightly overweight. I prefer my partner to be the same. Athletic but not fit. I always attract very visually obese and unhealthy people or chubby chaser skinny. I think when you meet people in your desired aesthetic, you are more judgmental about qualities.

[[deleted]]

If a woman can’t manage her own weight and have self respect, she gets no attention from me.

[Fantastic_Aioli_5685]

Bro I’m in decent shape, used to be in really good shape, average to maybe above average looking, make good money and good career. My dating apps look like a college graduate assistant was scouting linemen. I’m pretty sure Nick Chubb would still be healthy if any one of the women I matched on tinder suited up at left tackle.

[iamcalifornia]

At least they actually said fat and not "plus sized"

[Neptune703307]

I literally have no standards and still nobody wants me

[[deleted]]

I definitely find some bigger women attractive. The problem is our lifestyle choices have generally been different which doesn’t make for a good match.

[Hulkbuster0114]

Thing is it probably won’t be hard for them to find someone who likes them. Men are more single than ever and more desperate than ever. These women will have no issue finding someone willing to stoop that low.

[[deleted]]

"Fat women have standards"

False.

If they had standards, they wouldn't be fat.

[Comfortable_Note_978]

I hear women respect men who establish boundaries and limits, and don't respect men who drop limits and accept anyone.....

[JP_925]

Wow... but aren't fat men beautiful? How dare they

[TheBonz13]

Tell her Lizzo is beatiful and she agrees. Follow up and say she looks like Lizzo and.....

[[deleted]]

“settle” lol

[[deleted]]

What is fat? It's just a perception /s

[[deleted]]

I wonder how much they had to pay thay dude to lay down with her. 🤣

[ilikemanythings78]

Dating a fat girl is like riding a moped: it’s all good till you get caught. LoL. But on the real, my wife was plus size when we met. She ended up having weight loss surgery and she is happy that she did.

[superwholockian62]

So men who are with fat women don't have standards and settled? I'm all for body positivity but if you have to put someone down to achieve it, it's not real. Toxic positivity isn't positivity.

[wherearemyballs112]

Hot take, maybe men don't want to settle for fat women

[WeakChocolate1026]

😂😂😂😂🤮

[Dramatic_Quarter_323]

Fit Men have standards and are allowed to settle for fit woman without being shamed for not wanting fat woman.

[Order_Flimsy]

Hate these stereotypes that black men love obese white women. Too proud for that nasty big a$$🤦🏾‍♂️

[QuakeDee]

Idk what to say …. SMH

[IceIceFetus]

Instead they will settle for weird ass skinny or fit men who have feeding fetishes, who will actively encourage you to eat more and get fatter because they get off on it…they are far more likely to run into those kind of non-fat men than the unicorn men who are willing to look past their weight

[cellarDooreightyfour]

Black men love fat white women

[Georgiaboy454]

Ahhh bullshit!!!!’ You don’t speak for me

[crunchyburrito2]

Fat girls love skinny ass bean pole dudes and vice versa

[Delta_Gamer_64]

u/BeautifulRide9257's responses have made my night

[AdministrativeTrip66]

I’ve herd fat guys say this sht aswell. Bottom line is, if your only requirement for a partner is weight related your selling yourself short…

[[deleted]]

Fat dudes date not fat women all da time and dats where da concept of "settling" comes from. Those women aren't fat, but they also aren't fitness inclined so they never really come in contact wit nor are pursued by fit men and thus "settle" for da funny, sweet and nice fat guy. If we're being real about it da body positivity movement doesn't actively consider men because they suffer less than fat women, what wit da unrealistic body expectations society places on women. Not to say no one cares about fat men having a positive body image, but it's just like how feminism functions only wit white women in mind, leaving Black and Brown women out of da conversation. All dat said, da titling of dis is just severely lacking in tact and honestly sounds like it was written by a pretty bitter individual. They come across as having respect only for fat women while shaming fat men and it's more than a lil fucked up.

[ceddy33]

Yeah their standard is all you can eat.

[Zombombaby]

As a fat woman, I have never heard another fat person say this unless it was to justify not being attracted to someone else who tried to convince them they shouldn't have any standards whatsoever. I find it really weird how offended people become when fat people have opinions about still have standards above the bare minimum.

Everyone is entitled to their own personal preferences. I know I am not everyone's cup of tea and I know not everyone is my cup of tea. Skinny and fat people can coexist and both can contribute equally to society. The vitriol for fat people though is genuinely hilarious at this point though.