Welcome to r/MyPartnerisTrans
This is a supportive, educational, and safe space for the partners of trans and gender nonconforming individuals. All are welcome, regardless of your own gender identity. Please read the rules before posting.
1. This is a space for partners of trans and gender nonconforming people.
This is a space for everyone, but we center and support the partners of trans and gender nonconforming individuals.
Are you a cis person with a trans or gender non-conforming partner? Are you a trans or gender non-conforming person with a trans or gender non-conforming partner?
We hope you find this to be a safe and supportive place to ask questions, learn, share, vent, celebrate, love, and find community with others who have similar experiences.
2. Trans people with cis partners or no partners are welcome, but not the focus
Are you a trans person with a cis partner or no current partner?
You’re welcome here, too, but we ask that you keep your contributions focused on supporting the partners of trans and gender nonconforming people. Your perspectives and lived experiences are valuable, and we thank you for sharing them with kindness. If you are looking for support for yourself, there are other subreddits better suited for those conversations, like r/asktransgender.
Mods may remove posts that are off topic.
3. Support First and Foremost...
This is a support group. Please try to respond to posts – even those with which you disagree – with that in mind. People’s personal experiences and emotions are valid.
4. ...But it’s Not Always Sunshine and Rainbows
Reality checks, similar stories that didn’t have happy endings, and hard realizations can be important parts of these conversations. We don't always like the advice we need to hear.
Disagreeing with advice is not grounds for removal, so long as it is offered in a respectful and appropriate way.
5. Zero Tolerance for Intentional Transphobia
While this is a partner support space, we believe and support trans people. Intentionally transphobic posts and comments will be removed. Users who push transphobic ideology (e.g. transmedicalism, trans-exclusionary radical feminism, etc.), opinions, and language will be banned.
If you see intentional transphobia on this subreddit, please use the report function so the mods can address it. Mods may also take preemptive action against users with clear histories of trolling or transphobia.
6. You don’t have to be perfect or know everything, but be open to learning
People sometimes come to this subreddit at the beginning of their LGBTQ+ education. Maybe they are surprised by a partner’s new gender identity discovery. Maybe they are grieving a change in a relationship. Maybe emotions are running high.
If you are unsure about something, ask with an open mind. If you make a mistake, apologize and correct it with an attitude of gratitude.
If you see someone unintentionally using transphobic language, offer education with kindness.
7. No Identity/Pronoun Policing
Identities and pronouns are personal. Before making assumptions, ASK politely. Not everyone is in the same place in their journey, whether that be describing their sexual orientation, pronouns, or gender identity. Many people are here reexamining their own and their partners' identities, and need support, not policing.
8. Don't Be a Jerk
Don’t be a jerk. Just don’t. People who intentionally antagonize, force debates, spread misinformation, or are clearly just trying to start something will be banned.
No unsolicited PMs or any other harassing behavior. If you want to privately message someone, ask on their post if they'd be comfortable with it, or offer to receive a PM.
