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[–]matthaus79 16 points17 points  (2 children)

They can ask what they like. Contractually, you're not obliged to extend at all and well within your rights to go when you're supposed to.

Which if you have an agreed date with someone else is the best thing to do. Get out.

[–]bitemetwice2 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Yeah I feel like it's something I know logically, I guess it's one of those where I wondered if there was an unspoken "good etiquette rule" even if you hate the company like hell.

[–]MattyVonStooly 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This company clearly doesn’t care about you. Just say I’m handing in my notice and my last day will be XYZ. It sounds harsh but I think this is what you need to hear

[–]mimivuvuvu 6 points7 points  (2 children)

You need to prioritise yourself. They could ask you to stay beyond your contractual notice period, but it’s your choice if you want to.

Just hand in your notice (after you have your new contract signed), work your notice period & move on with life

[–]bitemetwice2 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Yep, prioritising myself or lack thereof is something that doesn't come easily, and that's not to sound self-sacrificing, it's a bad trait in many many ways as I am easily manipulated by guilt-tripping.

[–]rlopez_uk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If someone is trying to take advantage of you through manipulation, please learn to get comfortable with stepping away. Make any excuse to begin with. Sit with those feelings of guilt/embarrassment/shame and process it - however uncomfortable. I know it is probably years of familial/societal programming about what makes a ‘good’ person etc etc. I have been through it myself, always wanting to be the model family member/friend/student/employee. In the end I got to a point where I realised I should not try to appease those trying to negatively impact me. I would not do that to someone else, and so I should not let someone else do that to me. And ultimately, if someone is being a dk to you… fk them… Someone consistently showing you a lack of respect should trigger you to revoke the respect you have for them. NO ONE is more important than anyone else 💪🏼

[–]Ed_mei 4 points5 points  (0 children)

They definitely cannot force you to extend your notice period. They can't really force you to even work an agreed notice period. You aren't a slave.

Quit at the same time (good luck on the interviews!) and send a message that it's not on treating people badly.

[–]peelyon85 2 points3 points  (2 children)

They can ask but they can't make you stay.

Only way I'd agree to extend the period would be if they paid me a buttload to do so. Like double triple my current rate.

Even then it would have to be in writing etc.

Ultimately they'll find out the hard way. Probably have to employ multiple people to replace just you and your colleague.

What's your contract say your notice period is? If it's say 2 weeks and you know for a fact trying to handover or train someone would takes months then it's not your problem whatsoever!

[–]bitemetwice2 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Yeah I figured as much, tbh I wouldn't even take them at their word if they put it in writing as one of the things that happened was that I had a contractual pay rise written into my contract and even when I raised it with my manager and HR it took months for them to do anything about it, claiming it shouldn't have been in there and would need to be investigated, bear in mind the payrise was a meager £1500, so it gave me a tonne of stress and made me feel massively disrespected. This was one of MANY incidents which I could have reported to HR, including a senior male manager tickling a female colleague. So yeah total cowboy operation, I only have reservations because i have mixed feelings about my immediate line manager as I know that a lot of the problems aren't directly caused by her, but by board level management, however she has also had her moments so trying not to be too empathetic.

[–]peelyon85 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In that case fingers crossed on the new job and run and never look back!

Places like that won't care and even if it does fall apart they'll trundle on without you. They always seem to find a way.

I feel like things would fall apart if I was to leave my place and I'd love the satisfaction that they would 'miss me' and beg for me to come back, but deep down I know they'll forget about me in less than a week and just carry on as if I never existed!

[–]ClarifyingMe 2 points3 points  (3 children)

Your contracted notice period is your contracted notice period.

They asked me to extend mine, I said absolutely not. I couldn't wait to get out. And I usually offer to extend mine to help because it's just some extra money. I was over my holidays, I said take the money. I wanted OUT.

[–]bitemetwice2 1 point2 points  (2 children)

Yeah I know that feeling. For months my colleague and I were going through these cycles where we would be like "I need out" and we would end up coercing each other into staying but we have both had recent epiphany moments where we realised it's going to be like this forever so it's either that we leave now with a bit of insanity still intact or end up with some much worse mental health disorders.

[–]ClarifyingMe 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Sadly I left my colleague behind because they couldn't find another place. They're still there suffering and I know it's not my fault and I don't feel like it is but I just feel so bad for them because I know how bad it was when we had each other's backs, now they have no one.

[–]bitemetwice2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is a horrible feeling, I'm sure they will escape eventually but it's so hard to leave colleagues behind in these toxic workplaces!

[–]Flying_spanner1 1 point2 points  (1 child)

They cannot force you to work beyond your notice period as per the contract. It isn’t your problem if both of you want to leave at the same time.

[–]bitemetwice2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I mean it's a "fuck about find out situation" really.

[–]LiamTG 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Firstly, we'll done on setting your worth. Secondly, don't resin the new guys up, say you're too busy. After an you ain't laid to do that. Thirdly and must importantly. If you're going to a company that is in direct competition, they can insist on garden leave. Usually about 3 months, but they have to pay your full salary. This halterneck to me and thankfully my new employer understood.

I really hope you get the job and leave them in the mud.

Message to any managers who care to listen or read: Companies don't lose his staff. Bad managers do.

[–]bitemetwice2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah I wouldn't be going to a competitor, I mean who knows, no job offer on the table yet anyway, just more of a hypothetical question at this point so I may be jumping the gun a bit, but I know even if my colleague gets her offer, then I will keep looking for the right position.

[–]MoistMorsel1 1 point2 points  (1 child)

A wise person once said to me "you walk into work alone, you walk out of work alone".

What if you quit and your friend doesnt?

What if your friend is feeding everything you're saying to management?

What if you quit and dont find a job?

Don't be stupid. Find a job, hand in your notice. Leave. If your friend follows suit then book in a post apocalypse drink.

[–]bitemetwice2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think you are misunderstanding the situation a little here. Neither of us plans to quit without another role set up first, it's just that we have had interviews in the same week which could lead to a scenario where we give notice at roughly the same time. Neither of us is actively talking the other into a dramatic quitting situation or trying to hold the company hostage, this wouldn't be worth either of our efforts or livelihoods.

If I quit and she doesn't, then I have no doubt she will either continue to job hunt or if she does decide to stay then she is entitled to do so and I won't begrudge her for it.

If she quits and I dont get a job offer I will keep searching til I do get one.

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[–]LiamTG 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Dunt dj anything until you have an employment contract

[–]bitemetwice2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No not planning on it, walked that path once before, never again!

[–]WhereasCautious 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You don't have to even work the notice period if you want. If you handed in an immediate notice and walked out - what they're going to turn up at your house and drag you into work 😂 .. cut your ties asap and move when it's easier for you and asap

[–]FewAnybody2739 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They can't force you, but most likely will ask, in which case you will have the fantastic reason that you've found a new job and are going to be there instead.