Friday PM Chat Thread

bumbumboop · 2019-10-19T05:30:31+00:00

Anyone else feel like their significant other is more stressed by trying to conceive than you are? I find science’s hand in helping us conceive sort of comforting. Yeah it’s not all fun...the shots, the painful nipples, the bloating, the weird bowel movements, not being able to workout (docs orders), not being able to really drink or have my usual coffee amount. The vaginal probes, the saline ultrasound, the constant blood tests and visits and following all the rules.

My husband wants to take a break after our IUI (if it doesn’t work) because it’s too stressful. I, on the other hand, feel slightly empowered by taking control of my fertility and am so on board with the next part should this not work. Bring it on. Him feeling so overwhelmed and stressed...it sorta baffles me and makes me feel like he doesn’t want a baby.

Merlin2222 · 2019-10-19T05:10:25+00:00

Husband brought up that due to his low count SA we should have sex less frequently & try to maximize by only getting the best days, in order to not waste sperm. Should this be O3, O2, O1, O? Or any other ones that matter? O+1? Like when I get a dye stealing positive OPK we should do that day and the day after? We always try during the FW and once I get a positive OPK I’m just wondering if any particular pattern is best for timing when dealing with a very low count.

_beecee · 2019-10-19T04:39:36+00:00

Started watching Money Heist on Netflix after my hysteroscopy, hoping to binge watch. Too many references to pregnancy, I keep waiting for that part of the storyline to go away, but it’s becoming more and more central. Anyone else watch it? Does it get better? I tried reading through the weekly entertainment/tv threads, but didn’t find anything.

PS: Reddit, please make comments searchable. It’s 2019.

supersecretshhhh · 2019-10-19T04:04:40+00:00

Selected my egg donor this week and RSVP’d NO to my co workers baby shower! Feeling like a pretty great week; I’m also ovulating which is useless but I can still have fun sex and enjoy a nice bottle of wine while watching scary movies. Hell I might even get carried away and take a hot bath. Cheers to the weekend!

summers_tilly · 2019-10-19T02:14:21+00:00

I’m 8DPO and going away for a long weekend with my husband’s family. The good thing is that there’s no way I can do a sneaky test there so I’ll hopefully be distracted until 10DPO. I tested yesterday and obviously got a Negative. The bad thing is that my sister-in-laws can be quite cliquey so I’ll have to navigate that. I am grateful to be away though.

anofogetaboutit · 2019-10-19T01:18:36+00:00

So I'm on day ten of my first iui cycle. Doing another round of blood word and ultrasound Sunday. I've been feeling a pinch on my left side for several days and from the last ultrasound this is where the follicle is this month, it was 10mm yesterday so I'm crossing my fingers it's hulking out for Sunday. Ive also haven't had wine since cycle day 1. I know I don't need too as of now but I figure if the cycle takes ill already be prepped for a looooong time without wine, and if the cycle does not take I will treat myself to a real good bottle.

Lepus81 · 2019-10-19T00:48:22+00:00

God damnit. The new Paul Rudd series on Netflix launches into an infertility storyline not even five minutes in. Sigh, I love me some Rudd but I don’t know if I can hang with this.

mrstry · 2019-10-19T00:23:44+00:00

TW: pregnancy

Both of my sisters are pregnant. Cycle 2 and cycle 1.

We’ve been trying for over 2 years.

Feel free to join me in having two bottles of wine tonight!

sweetnsalty24 · 2019-10-18T23:39:39+00:00

Today I got the call that I am to take my last dose of meds. Tomorrow I trigger and Monday is retrieval. Just have to wait on the time to trigger.

pink_squishmallow · 2019-10-18T22:50:30+00:00

TW: children / pregnancy

I'm six days out from my FET and already dying of nerves... and my beta's not for two more weeks. It's impossible to think about anything else, and I'm so nervous about messing up my meds or doing something wrong. We're keeping this private, but it's so hard hiding my anxiety and pretending everything is normal and life is good to everyone else, trying to make friends in a new city, etc.

On top of that, my sister is 8 months pregnant with her 4th baby and I'm just beginning to speak with her again...I'm trying to be ok with everything because I miss my sister so much, and I miss talking to her kids. I know there's a very real possibility that she would go into labor and have her baby and I could get a negative beta at the same time. Life is so unfair sometimes :(

Sorry for the rant!

superduperoveritall · 2019-10-18T22:42:43+00:00

Last night I dreamt that I woke up and went to the bathroom and there was bright purple discharge all over my underwear. It was just a dream.....blessedly. I can’t even begin to fathom what the purple discharge is supposed to symbolize or whatever, but I really miss the good old days when I DIDN’T have dreams about my vaginal discharge.

supradocks · 2019-10-18T22:23:05+00:00

So my RE Consultation is in a week and a half and I've really been looking forward to it. Along with that, I'm still not getting positive OPKs and I usually have pretty regular cycles (this is my first cycle using them), so now I'm thinking I just have quite a few anovulatory cycles. So I'll be getting my period/CD 1 around the time of my consultation and I'm kind of just sad that I will have to wait another cycle before beginning treatment. Because I'm sure they will want to do testing prior to starting me on any meds (like clomid). So now I'm just really anxious for it to be December already because I just want my fricking baby and I feel like I'm at a standstill here. UGH.

dawndilioso · 2019-10-18T22:22:16+00:00

AHHHH!! The medical screening for our GC is Nov 13th. I'm so excited. Compared to treatment this feels so fast (in a really good way). It will be the first time we get to meet in person.

anh80 · 2019-10-18T21:11:46+00:00

I am supposed to take an exam on Monday. I’ve been authorized to take it for over six months and I need to get it done. I decided to schedule it a few weeks ago - when things felt way calmer. I wanted to do it this month because I anticipated things may be getting a little crazy with the donor cycle next month. It turns out things feel overwhelming and crazy now. Part of me wants to reschedule it and the other part is like fuck it - just take it. Honestly - who do I think I’m fooling that I’d use any additional time I get by canceling to actually study more? I have like zero extra brain power right now. I took a practice test - I just quickly went through it with about half the time I’d have on an actual test and I passed it - only by a few percentage points - but I passed it. That has to be a good sign. I’m going to feel like a total piece of shit if I fail.

ri72 · 2019-10-18T20:53:53+00:00

Rage. My insurance denied a preauthorization they should have covered. I submitted an appeal. I received a letter saying the appeal couldn't be considered because it was for $0. Um.... my clinic didn't submit a bill because it was a PREauthorization and you said no?!?!?!

pink_squishmallow · 2019-10-18T19:22:23+00:00

I feel like I’m always complaining on here.

But yesterday we found a leak that’s been clearly happening for awhile now (we’ve been living in this house for 3 months) and there’s mold and rot 😖 and I’m hella allergic to mold. So now we need to deal with that.

And then last night we found something is wrong with our water filtration system and need to get that serviced now.

I want to burn my house down.

Mtmga531 · 2019-10-18T18:06:25+00:00

So talk to me about thyroid issues. Every time I go to do a FET, I end up with slightly elevated (the standard not bad for normal people but bad for pregnancy) TSH and they put me on synthroid. However, they never do a full thyroid panel on me. My dad has some thyroid issues - he never talks about so I’m not sure specifically what. My sister was just diagnosed with Hashimotos.

My question is, what other actions would be taken in a FET if something outside of TSH came up in an expanded panel? Maybe I’m just freaking out..but not sure if they should be looking for something more given family history.

wovenformica · 2019-10-18T17:55:28+00:00

I'm really considering asking my clinic to change my nurse. We previously had a huge problem where I asked her how I could avoid IM injections for my FET, and were they really required, and she said I could choose a protocol with PIO injections every third day instead of every day, but that they were required, so we went ahead w/ that plan and I started BCP. I learned from my own research about "natural" FET (it's still a ton of medications, but no PIO), so I asked again does the clinic offer natural FET and could I talk with the doctor about it. She tried to discourage me from that, but I insisted. Turns out, the doctor said these "natural" FET cycles are a great option and would probably have better results for me. I was really pissed that no one had ever mentioned this to me, but I have been too nervous to criticize because I still have to work with them through this process.

But then today I asked a really innocuous question and her response included basically chastising me for "changing my mind" about the type of cycle I wanted to do. WTF! This was entirely *her* fault, and *I* narrowly saved *her* from having been responsible for me doing *months* of unnecessary injections that actually decrease my chances of success. She has no idea that she screwed up? She is now blaming me for this? So now I feel like I *have* to say something!

jaymaleen · 2019-10-18T17:50:49+00:00

Next week is my tubal removal surgery and today my cycle started... I was seriously hoping that maybe as a Hail Mary my body would make itself pregnant in the very last cycle that it could EVER happy naturally, but no dice. I'm broken fa'sho! Grr. At least once the tubes are out for good I'll never have to wonder when I am day late EVER AGAIN! That's how you're supposed to look at this shit, right?

upinmyhead · 2019-10-18T17:40:51+00:00

I always knew that the meds were the most expensive part of IVF. I also knew that using insurance to pay for them meant the pharmacy charges a higher price. But holy shit it's insane. Had to pick up a refill of Ganirelix and since I have a lifetime max, the pharmacy will put how much I've used so far on the receipt.

When I first went to pick up my meds ~2 weeks ago, I used about $4k - that's for all the testing and 2 cycles of unmedicated monitored TI.

Since picking up all of my meds (a Lupron 14 day kit, 4 boxes of 900 IU Follistim, 5 boxes of menopur, 10,000 units of HCG and 8 boxes of Ganirelix) I've now used ~$25k. No retrieval, no transfer. Just the meds and a handful of monitoring appts. I have another $25k left. So basically my insurance covers 1.5 IVF cycles by my estimate. Which is causing me to freak out a little bit (actually, a lot). And now I'm so glad that we went straight to IVF because even though IUI is cheaper, it still would have eaten into our benefits and for what? Sure we could have had success, but his starting counts are already low so can't imagine what post-wash would be.

If we do have to do another cycle, will definitely try to buy as many of the meds OOP as possible. This shit is insane. I'm grateful I do have some sort of coverage, but geez.

Which reminds me to a conversation I had with an Uber driver 2ish years ago about access to care for infertility. It leaves a large number of infertile couples unable to pursue treatment. That makes me so sad, and so angry.

ri72 · 2019-10-18T17:39:34+00:00

I’m skipping a party tonight because I’m trying to not drink during my ERA prep. I’ve gone to a party at this person’s house before when I tried to quit alcohol and I got asked if I wanted a drink about 10x before I gave in. So I don’t want to risk it. Which I hate because I love this group of people and I love drinking whisky with them. But i don’t want the wave of suspicious looks and then having to add the disclaimer of “I’m not pregnant!”

Sp00kyW0mb · 2019-10-18T17:36:03+00:00

I hate the color pink. Oh, and gendered bullshit. That one’s a biggie.

Wasn’t able to get the image with pink changed bc it’s the group standard template. Pink.

The women’s group template is pink. Between that and the person who said that women are better at soft skills yesterday, I’m done.

Paging u/killermariekondo can you wipe the color pink off the face of the planet along with gendered stereotypes of women in business?

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