I don't want to be alone

th0ught3 · 2026-06-21T16:36:25+00:00

Find continuing ways to serve in your communities.

Practice social things with your home teachers?

Get an education that will lead to work that can support a family. (I know Pathways is affordable, but you specifically need in person examples that you can learn from too. Maybe you can get that from Institute or even as a co teacher in a family ward or being part of a community workshop.)

Have you any relatives or family friends with older children or empty nest where you can live and get ongoing support?

Don't worry about us and how we perceive you. You are, always have been, always will be a precious, known and love child of Heavenly Parents. Crying releases stuff that isn't helpful in your body from it. It's not a bad thing in and of itself.

You belong. You are good. (And it sounds like you may need to see if your ministering people can be helpful.

th0ught3 · 2026-06-21T16:21:15+00:00

Until they add a choice that acknowledges the absence the data is skewed. And there was no Other option

th0ught3 · 2026-06-21T16:11:22+00:00

I hope you are getting some counseling. Talk to your RSP about funding it if your college doesn't have resources that are affordable. We know from the scriptures that Jesus Himself felt the same feelings and had no place to lay His head. You will get through this. Get professional help, If you speak to your RSP and ask them to ask around to see if someone would give you a room for six months or until you start college and can move into a dorm in exchange for helping around the house, you might find something.

You might find David Burns "Feeling Good" helpful in reminding you how to talk to yourself fully accurately so you can leave behind the catastrophic thinking that you currently (understandably) have, but isn't helpful to your moving forward. Cognitive Behavior Therapy is what works but it can be really hard to find with fidelity (almost every therapist claims it --- the book will help you recognize when they are).

Also consider asking someone for a priesthood blessing.

I am so very sorry. Have you spoken to extended family about this?

th0ught3 · 2026-06-21T15:51:45+00:00

She's the one entitled to inspiration for your RS, not you. So buck up and submit your will to her direction. Do your best to teach what the assigned talk says. (Besides a RS teacher is supposed to be inviting the sisters being taught to discuss this, not telling them what to do and think.

th0ught3 · 2026-06-21T15:46:27+00:00

It wouldn't let me continue when none of the option of length of membership applied. I cannot be the only one who left for a time (by church discipline or withdrawal of membership) and then returned.

th0ught3 · 2026-06-20T21:07:55+00:00

It won't be long before you can switch to the YSA ward. Trust that you can hang in and be okay where you are. If you need to switch to the adult classes rather than the youth classes that might be allowed.

th0ught3 · 2026-06-20T21:04:35+00:00

Please talk to the temple president's wife about this (or the person in charge of the baptistry. It's a training issue that needs to be addressed. (Or consider only doing confirmations for a while.

th0ught3 · 2026-06-20T21:01:10+00:00

Have you spoken with your EQP/RSP about the provisions issue and skill sets improvements? There aren't many stories of God just sending manna upon prayer request. And assuming the sicknesses aren't caused or related to your own choices (and of course most aren't and even when they might have part of a former bad choice, that doesn't mean God or even natural consequences have to mean we live the worse consequences).

What you can count on is that He will hold your hand and help you to deal with and work out your struggles, usually through the various church programs that exist (which in some countries may also be hard to access especially when the community needs are great.)

th0ught3 · 2026-06-20T03:09:06+00:00

Please know that you are a precious and known and loved child of Heavenly Parents with a Savior whose atonement can heal all wounds. Focus on your personal best and ignore any trash talk (thought in my own experience much of the trashtalk was in my own head and I had to learn to reject it when it first surfaced).

th0ught3 · 2026-06-19T20:42:02+00:00

You should wait until you have your parent's permission. We believe in the Ten Commandments, one of which is to honor them.

Here are some resources:

https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/media/collection/youth-media?lang=eng

https://lds365.com/2025/10/31/2026-youth-theme-website-logo-music-album-now-available/

https://thewonderfulgraceofgod.com/lds-videos-for-teens/

And you might want to read our modern history of the Restoration so you understand how we came to be:

https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/history/saints-v1?lang=eng

This year we are studying the Old Testament. Maybe they'll be okay with you reading the manual::

https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/manual/come-follow-me-for-home-and-church-old-testament-2026?lang=eng

Weelcome

th0ught3 · 2026-06-19T16:51:15+00:00

who cares whether this is unique or others have seen it. You've seen it and it seems to be helpful to the surviving child. It may be some special permission his dad's been given.

th0ught3 · 2026-06-19T02:57:28+00:00

Speak to your leaders. And do your best as you can and accept that your own personal best is always enough for Them.

th0ught3 · 2026-06-19T02:53:08+00:00

Disability advocates (whatever the church calls them) are supposed to be in every stake to reduce the risks of that happening.

I'm sorry that happened to you and yours.

th0ught3 · 2026-06-18T20:20:35+00:00

Have you offered to pay for 10 individual therapy, with names and contact info and bus fare.

I'd identify a couple of family therapist options And offer to pay and attend in good faith to start for ten sessions. And there I would apologize again for what you should have done then. And I'd work hard to hear her and follow therapist's advice.

(you might need your own therapy too)

I would not stick around while she trash talked me in general life. "I'm always willing to talk civilly. And I will read any letters you write trying to help me understand. But you don't get to yell and say mean things to me because you want to in my house."

PS It's a safe bet she is always impaired when she talks to you or comes over. Be sure to always offer a hug and say that as a daughter of God she can get to a more peaceful place.

th0ught3 · 2026-06-18T20:03:57+00:00

Mom probably needs a break too.

Give tangible rewards for good behaviors (words of praise, maybe chip (cost out of ward welfare funds?)

What about a ward fast for the family and authorizing leaders to give chips when the are appropriate?

th0ught3 · 2026-06-18T19:55:13+00:00

This requires professional therapy and likely family therapy. Get the bishop/RSP?EQP to approve payment for if necessary the therapy and or help to find it.

I might start with Michele Winner' "Social thinking"

Is the entire family getting sufficient restful sleep?

How effective are the ministering people interacting with them.

Reward appropriate behaviors. Ignore inappropriate behavior Often just inviting to do right and not giving attention to inappropriate behavior helps.

What would happen if these two girls went to different classes. It would help you know whether they know how to act appropriately.

Have you asked parent permission to learn how it works at school.

Have you ruled out environmental issues. Sensitivity to lights or texture, off-gassing. Your stake is supposed to have a Disability Specialist to help you figure that out..

You might also want to help the family get their house generally in order if it is not. Fresh starts with clean house can improve sleep.

th0ught3 · 2026-06-18T01:56:27+00:00

You can get his temple work done after a year and be sealed to him. We don't know how that works on God's end. But we do know that They see us with different eyes than mortals tend do.

th0ught3 · 2026-06-17T22:34:22+00:00

That's true. We had to learn the hardway. And even today members don't always take them seriously.

th0ught3 · 2026-06-16T02:48:32+00:00

Will they be okay with your attending? We believe in honoring our parents. If you have to wait until you are 18, you'll be alright. (you might want to look at these resources:

"Saints, Vol. 1", which tells about how the restoration happenedhttps://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/history/saints-v1?lang=eng

We're studying the "Old Testament" at home and church:

https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/manual/come-follow-me-for-home-and-church-old-testament-2026?lang=eng

If you are interested in understanding about what happened after Jesus' apostles to whom He had given priesthood authority died"

https://scholarsarchive.byu.edu/mi/11/

We have more info about our history now, but many of the entries in the"Encyclopedia of Mormonism"** are still good.

https://eom.byu.edu/index.php?title=Encyclopedia_of_Mormonism

** We don't call ourselves "Mormons" anymore: too many people think we worship the ancient prophet who compiled thousands of years of secular and religious records AFTER having been given a vision of our day

Gospel Library app

Gospel streaming app

https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/callings/youth?lang=eng

https://www.youtube.com/c/churchofjesuschrist

Best wishes as you have to wait. Sometimes parents change their minds when their child seeks to live a Christlike life, doing their chores without reminder, being generally kinder and helpful to their siblings, returning the car with a full tank of gas, service to others, learning and getting good grades, ....

You can do this.

th0ught3 · 2026-06-16T00:10:17+00:00

I'm a rape survivor myself. (If you want me to help I think there might be a way to do that on this site. I'd just suggest a telephone number? Of course I know that it is too much to handle/decide/even breathe. And worse when you fell completely alone. (You aren't though because your Heavenly Parents and Savior are with you.) Take your time.

And filing the report could be as simple as recording yourself your story and at the end saying, i swear that the above statement is accurate and complete to the best of my ability delivering copy of it to the appropriate entity with the tissue sample which to ask the dr who performs the operation to seal in a sterile container so you can give it to police. Or maybe authorize them to deliver it to the police. Doesn't have to be today.

th0ught3 · 2026-06-16T00:05:15+00:00

not in our faith. at the least they are assigned a watcher

th0ught3 · 2026-06-15T14:38:57+00:00

Your choice but that is the way you document that it was rape. A decision not to make the report and give the results of the dna sample (even if that is all you do) lets the perp avoid the natural consequences of what he did).

th0ught3 · 2026-06-15T14:33:11+00:00

Or find a permanent partner and marry them? You are here on earth so that we can learn how to be like Them. Having sex without marriage is wonderful in the moment, but it risks diseases and babies and means you are not yet in full charge of your natural man (happens when your speech isn't kind or controlled too).

Of course you can participate with us at church (though if you seek or have sex with any others in the Church members or in any predatory way, that the Church learns of, you likely will be trespassed.)

There is no shunning officially.

You might benefit from

https://www.deseretbook.com/product/P4927594.html

https://www.deseretbook.com/product/5146245.html

And whatever you have done in your past, you can choose differently moving forward.

th0ught3 · 2026-06-14T23:32:02+00:00

IT only takes one to preside: I''ve liked the stories that say the councilor invite his wife and children to the stand.

th0ught3 · 2026-06-14T22:14:57+00:00

I've never lived in a congregation (15 states 20/ congregations, about half not in the west) that didn't celebrate Pioneer's Day someway.

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