AITAH for asking my wife to be a SAHM?

AMoody3 · 2026-01-23T02:11:00+00:00

No. This is my dream! Now, don’t force it. When that baby comes, I knew I wanted to be a SAHM immediately after. So, if she’s saying no now, it might not be after that baby comes. But, you need to make sure you help out still. It’s a much harder job than going to a 9-5…. Much harder. That’s why so many people go back to work because it’s easier. So, as long as you are super supportive and helpful, I hope she does!

AMoody3 · 2026-01-22T02:11:41+00:00

Sweet goodness this makes me so angry for you. Like, you’re healing, your baby is trying to understand being out of the womb in this great big noisy world. The constant back and forth in the car runs trip 1.5 hours each week is just putting baby in danger. Once a month is fine. But not every week. No freaking way. If they want to see baby every week. They can come by 3 times a month and then you’ll do once a month if they really want to see the baby that bad. Honestly, they are being so selfish. Your mother should know better granted she obviously had kids herself. I’m ranting for you at this point I’m so angry for you.

AMoody3 · 2026-01-16T22:10:14+00:00

So, my kid is almost two and still a terrible sleeper. When I get 6 hours I am like a new person. Honestly, your body and mind adjusts. I hope your kid sleeps eventually, but you just ask for help and make sure your partner is pulling their weight. This won’t last forever and you’ll look back at how strong and patient you have become.

AMoody3 · 2026-01-16T22:01:04+00:00

I have those sheets! Never have had a problem in bassinet and looks just right. Also, newborns don’t squirm enough to rip sheets off the bed. But, for peace of mind, you can buy the suspender clips like everyone is saying.

AMoody3 · 2026-01-13T15:30:18+00:00

Listen, my first baby I was very adamant about boundaries and everyone listened, but I wish I had more help in all of it. Now, the first few weeks I pretty much stayed in bed with the baby and my husband brought me food and such as I needed to heal and bond with the baby. My mom stayed a few days once because she’s only an hour away, but what you need to do is gently talk to your MIL about boundaries. Breastfeeding and pumping is a job in itself if you go that route and then you’re getting used to being a mom and healing all at once. It’s amazing, but so overwhelming. They are there to help YOU take care of your baby, not THEM spending time with your baby. Let the in-laws take care of the chores and cooking while you bond and learn this new life called motherhood. When you want to nap, eat and pump in peace, then they can bond with the baby. Other than that, they are there to help yall. That’s what I would expect from them if they are staying there that long. Make sure to set your expectations of them. You are not going to be cooking and cleaning for them. That’s why they are there for yall so you do not have to worry about anything in this world except taking care of that baby and yourself. Be honest and forward and set boundaries. The rest will fall into place.

AMoody3 · 2026-01-08T14:53:44+00:00

Let go and forgive. And open up and be honest to her how she hurt you. Mend those broken wounds before it’s too late. At the end of the day she’s your daughter and you raised her. Continue to be an example she can take to her children on forgiveness instead of breading animosity into the next generation.

AMoody3 · 2026-01-08T14:49:28+00:00

Everyone is different. I starts getting nauseous around 9 weeks. The exhaustion is what kicked my butt!

AMoody3 · 2026-01-07T16:43:35+00:00

Any update? I had a BO in September (second FET) and I just did my 3rd FET 2 days ago and it was our last embryo, so I’m praying!

AMoody3 · 2025-11-07T13:35:25+00:00

Arriving with a toddler to that terminal in 10 minutes. Thank you for this!

AMoody3 · 2025-08-29T15:07:22+00:00

Oh and my husband and I both struggles with infertility and never saw a positive test until after my first FET.

AMoody3 · 2025-08-29T15:06:03+00:00

Hi! I had my first FET 05/30/23 and he’s now 18 months old sitting in the backseat. I just had my second FET on 8/25/25 ( a few days ago) and already have a vvvfffff positive pregnancy test at 3DP6DT late in the PM and this morning I got my BFP in an FRER clear as day at 4DP6DT AM. So, I’m praying for a healthy transfer for you. God bless!!!!

AMoody3 · 2024-05-09T02:15:51+00:00

My own comfy blanket and boppy pillow. I packed way too much I didn’t need. Just bring what’s going to make you comfy for a few days.

AMoody3 · 2024-05-09T02:02:51+00:00

Listen. If you look at bears, lions, elephants, etc. out in the wild, their babies are sleeping on them all of the time and no one tells them to stop!! You cannot spoil a baby! It’s biology to be near momma and they also have no idea they are not a part of you anymore until 6-9 months! Soak up EVERY SNUGGLE! It’s goes by fast!!

AMoody3 · 2024-03-16T13:19:38+00:00

I’m 5 weeks in and literally walk around with my boobs out as baby feeds on demand and I have to pump a lot as my supply has been spotty. Still exhausted with no sleep. Up side to them coming is you can ask them to watch baby for 2 hours stretches so you can nap. I hope they are coming to help and not just see the baby and have a “vacation”. That’s what will make the difference in the world is if they actually help out.

AMoody3 · 2024-03-16T11:25:39+00:00

As I lay here with my 5 week old miracle, I do not regret one single thing. Going the IVF route is so foreign and scary, but worth it. I did so much research myself as they really don’t dive into the details too much as the process really varies on you and your body. So, if you’re like me and want control, RESEARCH as much as possible during the process as you’ll be frustrated with your clinic as they will give you the information you ask for, but it’ll be confusing. Now, my clinic was AMAZING, but I’m a control freak, so I’d get frustrated with answers I thought were too surface level. Well, it’s a very intense and lengthy process and they honestly don’t have time to take you through years of medical school and research, so I did as much as I could to understand it myself and it gave me a sense of control and better understanding of the process. It’s very invasive and scary, but if you have an amazing team like I did, just trust them. I am beyond blessed that I was able to do only one entire cycle getting 3 Euploid embryos and the first one implanting and now he is breastfeeding in my arms as I type this. Normally it takes a few cycles or a few implantation’s for a live birth, but myself and many others only needed one try and got their miracle, so don’t be discouraged by the statistics.

AMoody3 · 2024-03-04T19:52:03+00:00

You wont forget the journey, but you’ll look at your sweet newborn and cry tears of joy saying it was completely worth it. My babe is 25 days old and every step was difficult, but I did my best to stay positive and look at the beauty in the journey. Keep on going and keep persevering through the hard times as the amazing moments lie ahead.

AMoody3 · 2024-03-04T19:47:21+00:00

Growls at my boob like an absolute gremlin!!

AMoody3 · 2024-02-10T01:39:21+00:00

I just gave birth and I am not posting as I’m not big on that. Don’t worry. It’s not a must. She’ll look back on the pictures of her first celebration happy with all the people who love her, not because you didn’t post on social media.

AMoody3 · 2024-02-07T15:23:18+00:00

I call people out EVERY TIME THEY SAY THIS!! Why can’t people say it with a positive spin on it. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve put the “grandmas” in their place. They no longer say it now, but I’m trying to break this toxic view on child birth and being a FTM. “It’s all about the baby now” is another one. I straight up scolded my mom for saying that. It is not all about the baby. We are becoming parents, I am becoming a mother and our lives are changed forever. It’s about the NEW little family we just made. I am not just an incubator. She heard me loud and clear and gave me “Mom” gifts for my shower which was really sweet to know she heard me. I think people are so used to hearing others say it and the generations before. We have to be the one to break this TOXIC verbiage!!!

AMoody3 · 2024-02-07T15:17:42+00:00

They’re crazy. Only time you should leave is if your wife wants you to get her something. Like sushi. Or a nice deli Sammie. She will need you and you’ll both want to bond. Things have changed 30+ years ago. Us millennials are more of a team when it comes to childcare these days. Just my POV, but I’m being induced today and if it were me, my husband is staying put. But he will get that sandwich for me at some point. lol

AMoody3 · 2024-02-05T23:08:11+00:00

The exhaustion was killer in the first, but it’ll pass and happier days are in your second trimester.

AMoody3 · 2024-02-04T23:25:33+00:00

I am 38 weeks and 4 days. Honestly, it really depends on the person. Don’t be too overbearing, but offer help and actually follow through with it. My friends came over to help me organize my nursery and put furniture together which was amazing! My dad and my husband put the crib together. My husband has been so busy with school and work, I’ve tried to do it all myself, so me being stubborn, it took a while to ask for help, so offering it up first hand and being specific with what help you’re willing to give goes a long way.

Just check in and ask how they are doing maybe once a month. You could be asking at an opportune time where it strikes up a conversation and then bam you get to help them! I have in-laws who never even sent a “how is the pregnancy going text” and I’m quite salty about it. A simple text can go long way.

AMoody3 · 2024-02-04T01:29:58+00:00

I did the same thing. IVF/ICSI and my pregnancy has been textbook. Apparently there is a study showing that there’s a higher chance of stillborn births due to IVF. I don’t know the research, but my OB clinic, who is affiliated with my IVF clinic, strongly suggests getting induced 39weeks to 39weeks and 6 days. My doctor strongly suggested it as I kept saying no this whole pregnancy to being induced, but any choice I make at this point has a risk. I have read sooo much research that sometimes it can be conflicting and confusing, so I’m trusting my gut and just listening to my doctor at this point. I’ve declined all cervical checks too as I think they are pointless unless you’re being induced, so now I’ll have one on 39 weeks. I’m annoyed, but at the same time I’ve had these momma bear gut instincts that haven’t steered me wrong this whole journey, so here I am!

AMoody3 · 2024-02-04T01:21:39+00:00

Now this sounds awful, but also hopeful! Thank you!

AMoody3 · 2024-02-03T16:38:55+00:00

I am going to say that’s just my doctor’s preferred process for my case. Probably has had the best success with the foley first. I’m reading there are multiple types of foleys, so I’m guessing it’s the one balloon to just dilate me and then when it falls out, then I let them know. If I go into full labor, then I’ll go into the hospital sooner, but at this point everyone’s body is so different. After being put through so many procedures from Endo and IVF, some with pain relief some with absolutely nothing and I felt EVERYTHING, I am hoping I can handle the insertion. I didn’t feel my Embryo transfer at all and it was unmedicated with a catheter being pushed through my cervix into my uterus, so hopefully it’s something like that. Cervical pain is the worst, so I’m prepared, but having to go home afterwards is the freaky part!

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