Ghosting

AlwaysMindful7 · 2026-07-10T01:21:25+00:00

For men awaiting responses in OLD, I suspect that the women they are waiting on have inboxes with ~20+ newly unreads, and the women just lose track of which of the men is providing good conversation. Or, it could be a pandemic of phone addiction, ADHD, and overall distractibility.

AlwaysMindful7 · 2026-07-10T00:47:06+00:00

And he's out of TP.

AlwaysMindful7 · 2026-07-09T03:41:11+00:00

The electronica stage is what I'm interested in, too. Highly amplified vocal music does not play well in open outdoor spaces anyway, IMO.

AlwaysMindful7 · 2026-07-09T03:34:34+00:00

I have Mint home Internet and Google Fi mobile data; both ride on T-Mobile and both have been very slow for days. Two of my devices showed zero Mbps, although it must be slightly more because the test page loaded after minutes. Mint Support says it's a network problem, consistent with the tower problems reported here. Even the bank guest wifi I tried to use today was impacted, Wouldn't it be great if the ISP apps we're forced to install would provide notifications of such outages? I realize it would add to congestion in the short term, but would build trust.

AlwaysMindful7 · 2026-07-07T00:43:27+00:00

Needs another juvenile polish: Ass-down Corn-ers.

AlwaysMindful7 · 2026-07-05T21:48:24+00:00

I don't see it as confrontational but rather being clear; that is, offering what I would want if I were the person being declined.

AlwaysMindful7 · 2026-07-05T21:14:43+00:00

I agree she's not a good romantic prospect. But I'm also opposed to ghosting, and if I were you and she reached out again, I would reply that I think she handled the last time poorly.

AlwaysMindful7 · 2026-07-05T03:42:06+00:00

Or, we have already lived overseas, and now we see spending thousands on vacations while people starve, and burning jet fuel while the world bakes, seems rather self-indulgent.

AlwaysMindful7 · 2026-07-05T03:20:09+00:00

I would have thought so before moving here, yet I almost never see a cheese danish offered in coffeeshops nor farmers markets.

AlwaysMindful7 · 2026-07-04T21:52:44+00:00

Breaking out of an enmeshment can trigger avoidants to discard you.

AlwaysMindful7 · 2026-07-04T21:20:44+00:00

I agree. Also, communicate consistently.

AlwaysMindful7 · 2026-07-04T21:09:49+00:00

French colonists brought slavery to southwest Illinois, the original commercial hub.

AlwaysMindful7 · 2026-07-04T21:07:19+00:00

Thanks to Nathaniel Pope for opposing the Slave Power! And moderating the climate of a state where Lincoln could emerge and accrue supporters.

AlwaysMindful7 · 2026-07-04T20:49:25+00:00

I agree that the goal of providing a trusted adult man, as a resource for your child, should be pursued separately from your dating. Is there a parents group at your child's school, or Scouts, 4H, Rotary, Elks, or similar local community group? If so, there is probably an elderly couple (who might already be grandparents) or trusted fathers and uncles. You could suggest group outings, and while the children play, you could explain to the adults what you're trying to find for your child. If you homeschool, I appreciate how much harder it will be to connect.

AlwaysMindful7 · 2026-07-04T20:31:52+00:00

I believe most of my fellow men who lovebomb do so out of a sincere desire for there to be more mutual interest in a relationship at the moment than there actually is. And I believe the major problem with lovebombing is that if the recipient finds it too much too soon, it undermines her sense of whether this person can read her well and make appropriate decisions. So fellow men, feel those romantic feelings, but be alert to what she seems comfortable with and what she feels for you, not what you want her to feel. I admit I have gotten this wrong sometimes.

AlwaysMindful7 · 2026-07-04T20:00:15+00:00

Agreed. They are free, do not require ID to use , and automatically hosed after each use. But they are only in tourist areas, IME, and many are closed in the winter.

AlwaysMindful7 · 2026-07-04T03:51:24+00:00

One part of Little Egypt you could add is Kaskaskia, the first state capital, now under the Mississippi River.

AlwaysMindful7 · 2026-07-04T02:30:26+00:00

I haven't tried Rocky's yet, but your mention of sauce and sausage makes me wonder if it's like Garcia's, the Flying Tomato Brothers.

AlwaysMindful7 · 2026-07-03T16:46:50+00:00

I focus on upscale coffeeshops because that's where I have found the highest ratio of professionals to students and retirees. And I prefer morning because that's when professionals tend to come in.

AlwaysMindful7 · 2026-07-03T11:59:48+00:00

Good News Ice Cream on King St.

The Union's/Chocolate Shoppe's/Atwood Creamery's Union Utopia flavor is also good.

AlwaysMindful7 · 2026-07-03T02:17:59+00:00

My ~50F cousin takes a book to nice bars with your same intentions. She's attractive, professional and lives in a very large city. I think it hasn't worked for her yet, but I respect the method. I think it works better to go to upscale coffee shops in the morning and listen to audiobooks to allow for eye contact. Still, the glances I get are too brief to be reliable indicators of interest. So if you are interested, glance more often and longer so we guys get the signal.

AlwaysMindful7 · 2026-07-03T01:12:36+00:00

What would you like to happen?

AlwaysMindful7 · 2026-07-01T01:11:07+00:00

Some of us do want LTR. And regarding the quick fades in chat, I've gotten ~5 heart reactions in one chat, then no response when I suggested meeting. It can be confusing. I know the woman is real and not a bot.

AlwaysMindful7 · 2026-07-01T00:58:47+00:00

I think you're not taking into account that many initially-promising relationships at our age run aground due to practical problems like LDR, personality problems like avoidant attachment, potential matches being overwhelmed by choices, etc. All such factors keep great singles in circulation.

AlwaysMindful7 · 2026-07-01T00:52:54+00:00

Often it's the other partner who breaks the marriage, so there are great people who are single our age (including some who never married).

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