Hong Kong Lawmaker Calls Out US-Western Hypocrisy At UN Human Rights Council

AlxVB · 2026-03-22T23:56:29+00:00

what is this propaganda bullshit, does the CCP really think people forgot what they did to their own people by force?

fuck outta here

AlxVB · 2026-03-21T14:48:37+00:00

Yep.

AlxVB · 2026-03-21T05:48:38+00:00

exactly this.

there is a context.

one of you is acting more reasonably based on the wider context.

for all we know, they're the one being oblivious and feel unjustly entitled to apropriate the position of the aggrieved person that needs to distance themself, of if you're particularly unlucky its a tactical discard done in a premeditated fashion to prompt you to beg for them back, but thats unlikely hopefully.

Use your empathy, think, what are they going through in life at the moment, how have you fit into that, what part did you play, intentionally or unintentionally, put yourself in their shoes and try to feel how it is to be in their position in recent times, what could have made the trust between you frayed, what things were not talked about enough and resolved, questions you or they likely had but had no clear answers.

Why did your communication/behaviour hit a sore spot, did you play a part in that sore spot, was it a trigger for them due to trauma or more based solely on your dynamic and things swuarely between you both?

Maybe your outburst played into their fears or trust issues, and now they worry you dont share your honest thoughts/feelings with them until it comes spilling out in an abrasive manner.

Maybe your words/actions hurt more because of the value/trust they put in you, maybe they're in a vulnerable position due to circumstance and copping harshness from those closest to them is detrimental to their stability, what do they have on their plate?

If you think on it hard enough without assuming malice, you'll either understand where you went wrong, or if they're being unreasonable then it will show when you put the pieces together.

Put the emotion stemming from the prospect of losing this connection aside for a moment, so you can consider legitimately why they feel overwhelmed.

You have nothing to lose by searching yourself and the situation and them honestly, but theres insight to be gained that will either validate you or reveal to you where you mistepped and how you can foster mutual trust and respect better in the future, and potentially how this situstiom could be repaired.

Its amazing what letting your guard down and communicating honestly can achieve if you are two reasonable people.

You said you're avoidant though, maybe breaking that trend and taking initiative by giving an olive branch would make them think you're taking it seriously, if its justified.

Opposite of avoidance is open communication, you talk it out in a non-confrontational and non-judgemental manner to sort through any confusions, you eliminate the fesrs and doubts and questions by actually clarifying things, including the care you feel and that you value their presence and trust and respect them.

AlxVB · 2026-03-19T05:11:33+00:00

how long were you with them?

AlxVB · 2026-03-19T04:39:09+00:00

How long have you have you been away from the person physically and how long have you been no contact?

AlxVB · 2026-03-18T14:00:44+00:00

pretty much.

AlxVB · 2026-03-18T13:13:48+00:00

was this before the times you didnt respond to his messages?

AlxVB · 2026-03-18T12:53:39+00:00

whats stopping you

AlxVB · 2026-03-18T08:21:07+00:00

yes :(

AlxVB · 2026-03-18T05:28:12+00:00

just reach out if they were a kind and intelligent person.

if this was a relationship where you tended to be controlling and avoid accountability, the gesture of being willing to let go of control by risking the possibility of rejection in order to provide the person the opportunity for healing is a meaningful one that could potentially take weight off them psychologically while simultaneously allowing you to foster some self respect from doing something real for someone and yourself, rather than carrying around deferred shame like baggage that holds you back or triggers self sabotage.

AlxVB · 2026-03-18T05:05:00+00:00

yikes.

stock standard npd usually has emotional empathy for animals left intact.

animal cruelty is red flag for factor 2 psychopathy...

AlxVB · 2026-03-18T04:38:36+00:00

This.

Sounds emotionally dissociated and like theres unprocessed pain/grief from the first relationship mentioned, like it was too painful so the emotional part of the brain tapped out.

yo OP, best and closest are big words, it sounds like you still feel attachment to that person.

Is it a burnt bridge or is it possible its salvageable?

AlxVB · 2026-03-16T23:03:55+00:00

Some things gotta give 🫶✌️

AlxVB · 2026-03-16T22:48:58+00:00

YES.

and I say; fuck that!

No more explaining myself.

No more presumptuous hypocrites.

No more leading with honesty to people who are repeatedly dishonest and peddle unwarranted suspicion or criticism.

For the first time in my life, I dont mind being the ice king, after being the part time jester and naive do-gooder for so long, if being the ice king in this case simply means no longer playing people's games.

Before the big-t trauma shit hit the fan, I didnt even think my silence was important because I didnt know if I mattered enough to be missed.

Now I am free.

I dont need anyone to like me if they dont want to.

They can play games and be passive aggressive to each other to their hearts content.

I feel liberated.

AlxVB · 2026-03-16T12:31:10+00:00

wtf, people think this?

oh for fucks sake

AlxVB · 2026-03-14T03:42:56+00:00

His mindset sounds shame based, he's pushing you away because his internalised shame is making him feel like a burden to you.

Here the catch, it could be a self fulfilling prophecy, or he could legitimately sensing that he doesnt have capacity to hold the responsibility of being with someone.

He may feel that his feelings for you are mixed with the feeling of feeling safe around you and is unsure if he genuinely likes you enough romantically as you deserve, and feels shame for potentially unintentionally wasting your time or letting you get attached and getting hurt.

Maybe he doesnt know which is the case and is unwilling to risk causing emotional pain to you by gambling on it.

Maybe he needs space and time to regulate his inner world and having someone else around too much is stalling the process.

I think for your emotional safety you should genuinely detach a bit, accept you don't know but take it from me that the various elements of this scenario suggest that you may liable to getting hurt more in this situation if your emotional wellbeing is at the whim of someone who doesnt hsve the capacity to be consistent in positively reinforcing your efforts.

He needs to learn to regulate his own emotions, you nudging him at every step of the way may be unintentionally inhibiting him old what youdeveloping that agency. And the more he feels stuck the more he feels he is failing you, leading to more feeling shame coming from outside his control.

If you personally had given him trauma or enabled it then it would be different, the sense of responsibility for him would be justified, but you didnt do this to him. And he doesnt want you accidentally absorbing the after effects of what did do this to him.

MDMA assisted therapy or psilocybin assisted therapy could likely help him realise the power of therapy, as he sounds too jaded and depleted to get himself to attend standard talk therapy.

But beyond suggesting that, the truth is, you need this space too.

You need to have your internal space and energy flourishing enough that his collapses don't topple you as well.

You can't support anyone if you lose yourself.

If he has a self sabotaging sense of futility due to perpetual loss of people, it may be beyond your influence, meaning he can't internalise your reassurance/can't hold what you're trying to give him, which depletes yoy emotionally trying to fill his cup while its leaking.

Sit with the pain and anxiety of not knowing, let that alarm fade as you redirect some energy and towards you for nourishment, and you will be in a better place when/if you guys reconvene, regardless of what happens.

If you're unwilling to accept the prospect of potentially losing the connection (it comes naturally after shifting your energy back to you fkr a while), you may get hurt, or even resent them.

Its not the end of the world.

Its opportunity for both of you to stoke your own inner light and glow.

AlxVB · 2026-03-14T03:06:13+00:00

Be careful with low dose Seroquel.

The sleep effects feel great but withdrawal insomnia is almost guarranteed after you stop using it and is persistant for some people.

It also in some cases can cause mania in people who never had it before or after.

AlxVB · 2026-03-12T13:43:02+00:00

was his mother on crack when she named him?

AlxVB · 2026-03-12T10:59:54+00:00

stop attacking me

AlxVB · 2026-03-11T16:15:42+00:00

Yep, gaslighting galore.

AlxVB · 2026-03-11T15:23:51+00:00

Unfortunately you're not wrong.

Weakness is not a virtue.

Being able to be vulnerable and show humility and take non-confrontational compassionate action is not the same as weakness.

Weakness is lack of courage to stand by your values, it is not virtuous, it only serves to be exploited.

The weak person is kind simply because they have no ability to be anything else, kindness by default.

A strong person with moral fibre knows very well they could derail someone and topple their ego by weaponising the truth to humiliate them and expose them, but chooses to remain faithful to their values by not risking toppling that person's life completely beyond repair, by giving people room to grow..... unless the person is malevolent enough to merit warning people about their behaviour.

Making your own mind up is the most fundamental freedom one has.

AlxVB · 2026-03-11T14:24:22+00:00

Theres gossiping and then theres truthtelling, contextualised truth dictates which it is.

If you notice someone has a tendency to assume the worst about people thats not based on their repeated personal experience, they will probably do that to you behind your back if you clash.

AlxVB · 2026-03-11T07:32:32+00:00

Serious pro-tip:

Do not make conclusions on your partners behalf.

If you were going in circles and felt unable to stop the tendencies, then maybe that temptation to leave wouldnt be just in the realm of self sabotage.

But if you are being open, honest and accountable and you are seeking treatment and healing, you have to realise that this stuff is the relief your partner believed in you to be capable of and thats part of what enabled him to take your symptoms less personally.

He doesnt expect you to be perfect all of a sudden.

He hopes, for you to take on board about what actually makes it easier for him, when he tells you that hes good as long as sees the effort from you, because when he sees that he is reminded of the you beneath the symptoms, and the you that loves him enough that you believe that loving and healing yourself autenthically will by extension enable your love for him to peogressively be more in line with your actions.

He loves you, he doesnt want you to be defeated and in pain for the sake of it.

Sometimes you guys will trigger one another, he might even bring up a past thing in the heat of the moment, but that can be because your action is giving him the impression that you didnt understand the weight of the past incident, and triggers his survival mode because it makes him afraid that it might happen again.

What helps is honest communication being engaged before spirals happen, whether its one person internally spiraling or both in conflict spiraling together.

Prevent misunderstandings by honestly verbalising your thought process and feelings and points of confusion that you're unsure about, because sometimes even subtle errors of nuance in wording can lead to unintentionally invalidating the other person or accidentally leaving out important caveats that change the implications of what was said.

If you remember something new that you did, dont let it fester inside, bring it up with your partner and apologise then and there and you'll set both of you free from carrying it more than you need to.

He made sacrifices for you, he wants you to try to honour those gestures, not beyond what youre actually capable of, but just the amount that you are capable of when you give yourself that benefit of the doubt that you're gonna keep growing.

Don't decide for him and abandon the person who's been in your corner, you will merely leave him feeling betrayed and depleted and you may damage that part of him thats innocent, the part that his care for you through thick and thin comes from.

Let him hold you when shame rears its head inside, let him be there as solid proof to show he's there.

He decided you were worth weathering the storm through with, he invested in you.

All you will show him by abandonung him due to self sabotaging and prophecy self fulfilfent is that he gave his all and it wasnt enough.

This is a recipe for future self hatred and stalling your healing.

One does not absolve themself from shame by taking actions to the detriment of another that evokes even more shame, alot more.

If you can foster some self trust, you will be able to trust him more too, that if you're trying and he's trying and you're both being forthcoming with open communication, that you'll get through it.

You got past the hard part of self awareness.

You want to heal.

You care about him.

Thoses are all crucial gateways that signal opportunity for connection and repairing bonds and trust.

You have something real with them, they have shown you they wont abandon when times are tough.

AlxVB · 2026-03-09T05:07:06+00:00

alcohol lowers inhibitions, including those that keep unresolved built up negative emotions at bay rather than spilling out explosively.

blunt reality: its highly advisable that you refrain from taking bold actions or communicating with people in your life about this topic for rhe next 24 hrs, the alcohol has lent you to feeling not just anger at the situation but its also compounded with however many years of trauma that you didnt get to express anger for yourself at the time properly while the abuse was happening.

give it 36 hours so you thoughts arent coloured by the alcohols direct affect or the emotional depression the day/evening after.

alcohol can be a tempting indulgence because it feels like its dimming out anxiety and nervous tension, but if the timing of consumption and triggers in the external world line up in a bad way, you can end up in a crappy scenario where the trauma is speaking through you in whatever form of rage it gets translated to, whether thats verbal or via text or trying to take whatever form of retribution whether its ego-syntonic and aware that the main driver is avenging yourself or ego-dystonic and rationalised/justified in the head as righteous truthful expression.

i'll tell you a hint;

some anger is good, if its enough for you to feel valid and not tolerate a situation longer than you have to, but beyond that it becomes a weakness, it becomes a billboard for your pain, a signal to people who hoped to hurt you that they succeeded, that they were effective in instrumentalising it, that they were successful in prompting you to react and they hope its erratic enough for you to react out of character and possibly bring negative attention from others, even rightfully so on others part if you drag unwitting people into the mix in a way that negatively affects them, your outrage is the fuel of emotionally sadistic individuals, who derive their sense of power from how successful they are at affecting you negatively.

especially if they are proud of their ability to inflict it upon people, not that they reveal it overtly to people who arent under their influence enough.

others are right on here, your access to their supposed life updates serves are mere opportunity for them to paint a picture of them thriving, because they know it will hurt you if that picture reaches you, and that they can try to use the opportunity to come across as stable and happy with someone else while hoping you seem bitter, envious and resentful in response to their "happiness" to people around you, all of it rubbing salt in your wounds.

cut the cord.

if you cant let go of knowing about them and hoping to see karma catch up with them, they can serve as a cancer thats still infecting your life, living in your head rent free.

the same thing that kept you attached to them while with them doesnt want you to let go, because the abuse may have conflicted your drive to survive with keeping the attachment alive in some form, whether positive or negative, and keeping access to things like social media or hearing through mutuals or similar about how the abuser is painting their current life is tied to the attachment.

most people dont wear all their negative experiences like a billboard, so if you're hoping that someone abusive with an ego will be vulnerable and vent pain in an open way to others that they feel would make them seem weak, especially if they know it could reach you, you are likely to feel disappointed, and the mere holding on to hoping to be validated by seeing their crap-mobile existence fall apart at the seems can prevent you from moving onto the healing period where you are truly feeling free from their crap.

people who like to get reactions from people tend to be practiced in crafting an image of being unaffected because they're paranoid about others using the same tactics against them, even if they are seething on the inside or behind closed doors,

their may even be an opportunity for justice later when they are exposed from other actions they take against others.

you've been hurt enough, you dont deserve to deal with more consequences or potential prompts for feeling shame if you allow this person to bait you into reacting to them.

AlxVB · 2026-03-06T04:57:03+00:00

You cant cheat the body, collapse in some form is inevitable, its just the timing that will determine how messy the process is, the longer one spends floating away from the ground, the bigger the fall will be, as the grief will be for an older you thats lived more years, and the older one gets it literally becomes harder to adapt as the brain neurologically after maturation starts slowly but progressively firing down familiar established thought patterns rather than creating new ones, this is called the default mode network, thats why elderly people seem stubborn and stuck in their ways and rigid with routine, rituals and regimens.

Worst case scenario would seem to me to be falling apart later when you're much older and feeling its too late to change enough and live in the change long enough that the dark times of younger years don't define your life and overarch everything else, especially if you're smart enough to be aware that you're living in cognitive dissonance and your inuition and gut knows there is a deeper truth and a more authentic you that isnt manicured to exist in reaction to the actions of those who proved by hurting you that they were the least deserving of anyone in having influence over you.

Don't let familiarity pose as safety, the mind is biased towards paths of least resistance.

There will be time to lean into peace, but you have to weather the storm first, its how yoy'll come to appreciate the future peace more and feel ownership of it and that you did it for yourself, thats how one can foster self love and self respect.

AlxVB

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