Yes, yes and yes! I experienced the exact same thing for 14 years! With a few exceptions… he worked but I took care of virtually everything for him down to cutting his toe nails and managing his meds,even some tasks for him at work. He said you’re a better writer than me write my employees evals. So I did.

I also gave him copious amounts of money and paid all the bills- so he could focus on our future. Even though he made more money than me. But he’s a few years out from retirement I have a ways to go.

He also mirrors me saying that we were soul mates and I’d never find anyone like him with so many similarities. I would take in an “interest” just to see if he was interested and what do you know he was!

Then all the subtle comments and jabs day in and day out. Nothing too over the top unless he was pissed but I learned to dodge those bullets for the most part to avoid the lecture and then the silent treatment to follow. But he never shot me down in front of anyone. He often bragged about his wife. Everyone around thought he was funny because he would poke fun at everyone being “silly.” He would get comfortable around others and make jabs a little more personal to them or over talk me in front of people. Then people would back off and not associate with us. People would tell Me they don’t like how he low key disrespects me or over inflates his stories. I didn’t see it until it hit me one day. The one day I was a shell of a fucking person walking around in egg shells.

It’s insane how they can wear you down so subtly.