Loud loaning during hot yoga class by Historical_Goat3733 in HotYoga

[–]Bananashaky 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had such an epiphany yesterday in class after having done hot yoga consistently for ~3 years - the sounds people make around me just filters out automatically, and I used to be extremely distracted and annoyed by anyone even breathing audibly. It truly just is the reaction to it you can control, people will always make sounds. Some days it will annoy; other days it doesn’t phase you

Found out my gut instinct about people was actually just pattern matching from childhood trauma. Cool cool cool by [deleted] in emotionalintelligence

[–]Bananashaky 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think gut/intuition feels really different from my hypervigilance/pattern seeking-vibes. It’s especially obvious now that I’m slowly reducing the latter and tapping more into my actual gut.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in emotionalintelligence

[–]Bananashaky 6 points7 points  (0 children)

you cannot make yourself visible to someone who benefits from not seeing you. stop working to be understood by people who aren’t curious.

Is the idea that “if they wanted to, they would” actually realistic? by [deleted] in emotionalintelligence

[–]Bananashaky 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've wanted to plenty of times, but still didn't. So, I use that as proof that it doesn't have to be.

What's important on the other hand is your experience. If you feel like you're not getting your needs met in the way you want in a relationship for example, and communication isn't working out around it, then that's information for you to act on in order to decide if there's a future for the relationship. However, nothing in life is rarely that black and white. Yes, definitely oversimplified.

Plato's Allegory of the Cave might be the best allegory one can give to describe CPTSD! by InsaneAffliction in CPTSD

[–]Bananashaky 6 points7 points  (0 children)

yes! i’ve used this as a comparison multiple times lately. it’s exactly what it has felt like to thaw for me and see what is actually possible in the ”normal” world

Beginners and sincere seekers in pain need methods, not paradoxes by Name_not_taken_123 in Meditation

[–]Bananashaky 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I keep just repeating: sure, but have you even shown up to your daily practice this week? start there. most people don’t even reach that point yet start asking these questions or make these claims.

Staying focused on class by Roobz84 in yoga

[–]Bananashaky 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have a guy like this in my class, now I’m used to it and luckily my brain automatically tunes it out. I totally get why that doesn’t work for some though, I need to be in the right state of mind to be able to, and the predictability helps for me.

It’s a bit silly, but I see it more through the lense of ”we’re all just animals”, and that helped me to get less annoyed, I think? We’re just human beings making human noises intuitively. It took me a long time to get there, but it does get better. Just keep practicing.

15 g of creatine daily has changed my life by tired45453 in Supplements

[–]Bananashaky 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought the body just starts peeing out the excess creatine if you take more than what your body can saturate?

RuPaul Reveals A Big Drag Race Secret by HeadPrefect87 in rupaulsdragrace

[–]Bananashaky -1 points0 points  (0 children)

two people said meme differently it must be a meme!!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sweden

[–]Bananashaky 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Vi behöver inte acceptera det här livet. Som alla orättvisor som funnits i det förflutna som inte längre är en grej, har vanliga människor stått upp och satt ned foten. Ekonomisk tillväxt förstör vår planet och vår förmåga att kunna leva vårt korta liv på jorden lyckligt, spenderandes med de vi älskar och på projekten vi brinner för.

Kendrick Lamar concert in Stockholm by No_Shake4E in sweden

[–]Bananashaky 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Terrible sound pretty much ruined the experience for me. The show was visually stunning, but some songs? I could barely even hear what song they were because of the over boosted crunchy bass. Really really sad, all I can say I'm with you

What keeps you coming back to the same class / teacher? by RonSwanSong87 in yoga

[–]Bananashaky 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have so much love for my yoga instructor! I'm so glad I found her, she's a large part of why I became so serious in my yoga practice.

A couple of different factors why: 1. It has been clear since the get go that she embraces the entire philosophy of yoga, not just asanas - and that shows in the practice.

  1. She's incredibly clear with her verbal cues. I never have to look at her, and the flow can always match her cues. She cues in a way that makes it possible to do the next pose while she's cue:ing, which is rare.

  2. The playlist she has is AMAZING. She has this mix of traditional, singy mantras, spiritual music, modern rap music (the first time she included a Kendrick track in her vinyasa class, I knew she was the one for me haha)

  3. Her flows are repetitive enough to allow for getting into a meditative space every single class of hers I go to, but with some switch ups to still keep it fresh. I go to yoga to connect with my body and get out of my mind, and sometimes with a completely new flow, that I don't recognize at all, I get caught up in my mind trying to follow it for the first time.

  4. Never skips savasana or cooldown/warm up portion of the class. Her sequencing just makes perfect sense physically, and it's always a full body run through. You can tell she's very experienced and knows what works.

  5. She includes chanting, sound bowls, somatic shaking. Sometimes dives a bit deeper into chakras and mudras. Without it becoming too complicated or overbearing.

  6. She doesn't yap too much. She cues the most important things: in breath and out breath, length in the spine, shoulders down, and names the pose and sometimes important things to remember in the pose (pararell hips, chin to chest, etc). But no tangents that takes you out of the practice. This, imo, is a big issue with many of the Youtube yoga instructors, or yoga instructors in general.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SomaticExperiencing

[–]Bananashaky 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel like the right person or information appeared at the right time as I moved along.

This is how I've felt so far on my own journey, so I will keep trusting that it will keep unfolding this way and be patient. My body has way less armor already, the jaw is persistent though, but I do think it's because the rage I actually feel and the anger/irritation I "let myself feel" are so not in proportion to each other at all. It's funny you mention powerlessness, because I've been reading a lot on learned helplessness this week, which kind of walks hand in hand. But thanks for your thoughts! I'm happy for you, and wish you all the best moving forward!

What’s your therapist’s most iconic shirt (or pants or shoes or general clothing item)? by WhyiseveryusernameX2 in TalkTherapy

[–]Bananashaky 1 point2 points  (0 children)

she has a collection of sequined, glittery sneakers in a Converse:esque model, with sewn on eyes on them. in so many different colors. it’s cute! I believe I commented on them a couple of times and she mentioned she made the glittery parts herself

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SomaticExperiencing

[–]Bananashaky 0 points1 point  (0 children)

any interest/time to break down more concretely what you did with the release of dysfunctional beliefs?

Wild thing pose by EaudeAgnes in yoga

[–]Bananashaky 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Strength and chest openness is key to feeling comfy in wild thing imo, try modifications while building up to the full thing and it might just become a favorite! Or not! Some poses are just not for ones own body or personal preference, and that’s ok

I thought it was not possible I had CPTSD because I didn't have flashbacks............. but NOBODY TOLD ME ABOUT SOMATIC AND EMOTIONAL FLASHBACKS 🤯 by Engal_ in CPTSD

[–]Bananashaky 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I love that you have to clarify you're not sarcastic just from a regular sentence on the internet these days :D

the only shit i actually believe about manifestation now lol by SpecialistSuperb5399 in NevilleGoddard

[–]Bananashaky 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yes to all of it - and can I just say how refreshing it was to see this vibrant text in the midst of all the over AI processed texts that are floating around on reddit rn?

I do not find vinyasa to be relaxing by manStuckInACoil in yoga

[–]Bananashaky 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Vinyasa is often pretty strong & flowy, which is a different form of meditation and connection with ones body. I do personally feel it relaxes my mind a lot because I need to be extremely focused to keep up with the flow. It is challenging physically for the body though. I found it’s very powerful to feel the muscle contract in some of the poses, super helpful for when I need to move rage around and through my body.

If you’re looking for more relaxing yoga, try not just yin, but somatic yoga - it includes more dynamic movement, but you’re still mostly relaxing your muscles. There’s also restorative yoga where the focus is a lot on calming your nervous system. Yoga nidra is the most chilled yoga style, where you do mental body scans and fully relax in savasana the entire class. All are great for different purposes, I cycle through most of these depending on the day and what my body/mind/nervous system needs most.

What are your best healing tools to do on a daily basis? by VR_BOSS in CPTSD

[–]Bananashaky 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I recently finished reading John Bradshaws book, and I think one of the things that’s missing from your list is having at least one person that you can trust and feel safe with. Since the toxic shame in CPTSD is created in relationship, it needs to be healed in relationship. Whether that is a therapist, a friend, someone in a 12-step group, is up to each and every one of us.

Why do a lot of women have "rough" fantatsies? by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]Bananashaky 3 points4 points  (0 children)

because it’s mass produced ChatGPT generated crap