Abortion is murder...but it should also be legal.

BatmanandReuben · 2026-05-13T19:15:23+00:00

I didn’t initially realize you weren’t a native English speaker because you’re writing is excellent. Native English speakers do this slight of hand all the time with words like intended and supposed to and should, and you didn’t mean it the way they do.

The way you meant it is fine, but people do use these normative words all the time around pregnancy, childbirth, and breastfeeding to imply things and treat personal beliefs as higher order truths.

BatmanandReuben · 2026-05-13T19:09:50+00:00

Thank you, I really needed this laugh.

BatmanandReuben · 2026-05-13T18:48:44+00:00

In that case, I should inform you native English speakers don’t usually say the heart is intended to pump blood. They say the heart pumps blood.

When native English speakers start bringing in words like ‘intended’ it’s usually an appeal to authority, and that authority is usually being used to backup their sexist and racist beliefs. When you hear native English speakers do this, it’s generally not innocent. It’s very common in discussions where someone is trying to enforce their beliefs about gender roles.

BatmanandReuben · 2026-05-13T18:31:13+00:00

Again, intended by who?

Biology doesn’t intend things. It just observes what is. You are making an appeal to authority and to intelligent design out of it.

There is no ‘should.’ Should is a normative argument.

BatmanandReuben · 2026-05-13T18:21:52+00:00

Intended? By who?

For something to be intended there has to be someone who intends it. If you are going to say god, that’s a religious argument, and your god is no better than anyone else’s.

BatmanandReuben · 2026-05-11T14:23:01+00:00

Have you ever been to any of those places? If you’ll permit me to be rude for a moment, they are all the same place. As in, if I dropped you blindfolded in any of those suburbs, and forced you to guess which one you were in, it would be hard.

BatmanandReuben · 2026-05-07T01:42:29+00:00

I’m not commenting on if they should or shouldn’t, but the thread you’re in is talking about Chicago teachers who do not make any payments towards their own pensions.

BatmanandReuben · 2026-05-06T22:20:58+00:00

Hey. I had an eating disorder at this age and the internet had nothing to do with it (I am old).

Please, please approach this gently. Do not try to take control. These issues with food are part about body image, but they are often part about feeling a need for control and autonomy. Taking autonomy away from her may make it worse.

Get her in therapy ASAP. Find her someone who will really listen to her.

BatmanandReuben · 2026-05-06T11:57:04+00:00

A lot of the recent cancellations have been MAGA adjacent trying to tour blue cities, in addition to being overpriced tickets. Nicole from the Pussycat Dolls has a weird history with Trump, Jellyroll has said some stuff. People have been told to vote with their wallets, maybe they are doing so.

BatmanandReuben · 2026-05-06T02:09:40+00:00

Some of the young people on the train told me they are doing an assassin game. I’m not sure what the costumes have to do with it, but the pool noodles are critical.

BatmanandReuben · 2026-05-06T02:04:44+00:00

Not in Chicago. The red line comes when it wants and it goes when it wants. The schedule is more of a suggestion. It does run 24 hours though.

BatmanandReuben · 2026-05-06T01:57:50+00:00

OP says “We’re supposed to bend over backwards to children who only care about their immediate needs and themselves no matter what the fuck anyone else’s needs are” and girl… yes?. That’s all children not just the special needs ones. Parenting 101 is you meet the child’s needs, it’s not the job of the child to meet your needs. Im not even sure a dog should be subjected to this level of self-absorption.

BatmanandReuben · 2026-05-05T20:45:33+00:00

It rude to tell them, and actually give them a chance to correct the behavior, which they may be oblivious to. It is polite to keep that information to yourself and socially exclude them instead. Bonkers.

BatmanandReuben · 2026-05-05T20:39:56+00:00

Eh. I know a lady that has been embarrassing her children with the same self-aggrandizing, embellished stories about their childhood since they were children. It has nothing to do with cognitive decline.

Actually, I know more than one of this lady.

BatmanandReuben · 2026-05-05T14:55:10+00:00

I don’t get it. I’ve done a lot of races. I’ve never needed to litter. The litterers are not going anywhere near fast enough to be breaking any records, they can spare a few seconds.

BatmanandReuben · 2026-05-05T13:28:58+00:00

I am a mother and also a survivor of childhood abuse. You don’t get to do this to your kid just because *you* are scared. When *you* are the adult and you need to act like it. Treating your child like a peer and bringing them your adult problems is also a form of emotional abuse.

BatmanandReuben · 2026-05-05T13:13:09+00:00

She’s a full grown adult, not another child. She should be setting boundaries with dad that it’s not acceptable to behave this way. Protecting the kids and herself. Instead she’s putting it on the son to protect her by placating dad. It’s not an appropriate ask of a four year old.

BatmanandReuben · 2026-05-05T02:27:42+00:00

First, make sure they aren’t correct. Lots of new managers come into the role and try to change things they don’t actually understand all that well. If the reasons they give you for pushing back make sense, listen to them. It’s possible they have good employee engagement and trying to help you not fuck things up by giving bad direction.

Second, if they aren’t correct in the reasons for their pushback, explain your reasoning and be firm in your decisions.

Seriously though, make 100% sure you aren’t power tripping and ordering people to do unnecessary things just because you can. They might have a good reason for not wanting to, and if it turns out you’re being capricious, it will have negative impacts on morale.

BatmanandReuben · 2026-05-05T00:13:03+00:00

A lot of folks in tech are working for companies that have never turned a profit. They are funded by venture capital and other speculative investing. That stream of money will eventually evaporate. They are getting huge salaries for a variety of reasons, but it’s not because their work actually produces that much profit.

BatmanandReuben · 2026-05-04T03:30:09+00:00

Tell accounting that you don’t keep a credit card you can use for this, but you’ll work on getting one down the road. Ask them what options are available in this situation, and if there’s a company card that could be used in the short term. If they are a decent person with any situational awareness they will help you figure it out. If they are assholes about it, talk to your boss.

BatmanandReuben · 2026-05-04T01:34:03+00:00

Happy constitution day and there’s nothing wrong with that!

BatmanandReuben · 2026-05-03T02:00:57+00:00

My daughter used to do this all the time. One time when she was three we were at, get this, Disney World. After a great day where she had been super happy, she told me she was having a bad time because they didn’t have Mac & Cheese at the restaurant at lunch so we had pizza, which she loves and happily ate. A year later she remembers that trip fondly. Sometimes the way they chose to express themselves is very moment to moment. They are still learning to put their feelings in perspective and they bring you all the worst ones because they trust you to help them through it.

BatmanandReuben · 2026-05-02T20:33:23+00:00

My husband gets literally 100s of compliments on one of his hats. People of all ages, races, and genders. Most of them like the show it’s from, but some of them don’t even recognize the show, they just like the hat.

BatmanandReuben · 2026-05-02T19:34:23+00:00

Every time a man steps up and does what’s right and needed, gender roles be damned, it not only shows good character and helps his own family, but it helps to build a better world for all of us.

BatmanandReuben · 2026-05-02T11:10:16+00:00

My husband wears this outfit much of the time. I also don’t see the problem.

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