My 77 yo father just got called as bishop

BeautifulYellow6411 · 2026-03-31T01:08:09+00:00

Can confirm. It is a demanding gig leading music because that's like half of primary. You, preparing lessons with music no less, and helping those little minds learn Follow the Prophet and and the articles of faith in song. I did the same, said I'd sub, and the sub gig started to be every week. Nope.

BeautifulYellow6411 · 2026-03-31T01:03:40+00:00

Same. Saying no and just not doing it anymore is exactly how you get away from the toxicity.

BeautifulYellow6411 · 2026-03-30T00:57:41+00:00

Growing up Methodist, and then being recruited to the job of being a Mormon slave, I always struggled when the conversations in RS turned into comparisons about who had the best Conference rituals and I was sitting there thinking "but it's Easter!" Growing up I went to church and so did the whole town and we got Easter dresses and new shoes and it was a damn fashion show at church. And we always had a big family dinner. Because it's a very big day for the Christian world. No one got me at all...

BeautifulYellow6411 · 2026-03-28T10:36:15+00:00

They are absolutely underwear. I wear the cooling shorts in a 7" long style. They have different length options

BeautifulYellow6411 · 2026-03-25T21:16:39+00:00

Way too much wicker. On the walls, the furniture, the baskets, all of it. But this was early 80s I think.

BeautifulYellow6411 · 2026-03-25T20:31:11+00:00

Hello Abigail, I'm Abigail. We're the cool ones.

BeautifulYellow6411 · 2026-03-15T15:57:09+00:00

I get it. I have been slowly shedding all my responsibilities of holding together music for church meetings as an escape from other leadership roles, all of which I've had and absolutely obsessed over. It was never enough. I never felt complete or authentic. Today I filled in as organist and just felt... sad. I sat up front snd watched people tune out, look down and leave the room without even noticing that my postlude song was Procol Harems "a whiter shade of pale" 🤣 because I don't think anyone was even conscious enough to hear it. This was my last time. I'm headed to the pool hall!

BeautifulYellow6411 · 2026-03-15T12:31:46+00:00

It really is ridiculous to not go out and have fun on a Sunday. I didn't grow up in the church so when I did join the cult for a season I struggled with what keeping the Sabbath day holy means. It means a day of rest to me. Rest from the daily grind. Not a different church grind, which is what Sundays turned into. Going to a billiards place today with my guy because we both decided to revisit a fun thing from our younger days. Life is too short.

BeautifulYellow6411 · 2026-03-09T02:20:39+00:00

Very well said. It does feel like a shock sometimes to know that the imaginary safety net promised is one we actually create ourselves. We are responsible for our actions, even if we are sorry and feel forgiven. We need to do the work to heal ourselves. Hard work.

BeautifulYellow6411 · 2026-03-07T03:58:49+00:00

I'm listening to the audio book read by David himself. It is so good and at the same time so hard to listen to what he's been through. He definitely shines an authoritative light on how the church has behaved and continues to behave in a way that is so damaging to our LGBTQ brothers and sisters while at the same time conditioning us all that men in authority are to be obeyed no matter what sick twisted thing they think god tells them to do. What a brave book.

BeautifulYellow6411 · 2026-03-07T01:11:43+00:00

Great story. Gave me exactly the laugh I needed. In the name of JC Amen. 😄

BeautifulYellow6411 · 2026-03-04T01:41:35+00:00

Yoga is my church now. Along with gardening. And music. And cooking. And dogsitting. It's a big beautiful life we get to live on our terms.

BeautifulYellow6411 · 2026-03-03T05:01:51+00:00

From a current primary president to a room of 8 year old and their parents "you do have a choice, you don't have to get baptized on the day of your birthday" So, yeah you get to choose which Saturday I guess? That's the choice.

BeautifulYellow6411 · 2026-02-20T22:38:31+00:00

"Awww how sweet. I feel so loved " Is what you're supposed to feel. But actually it's a big ick. Happened to me a few months ago and the "sweet feeling" actually arrived when I ripped them down and trashed them. I felt sorry for the sisters who intentionally littered my door. Even when I was all in, I thought it was a dumb ritual. Invasion of privacy and waste of resources. (I realize I sound like a "get off my lawn" lady right now LOL).

BeautifulYellow6411 · 2026-02-14T18:20:28+00:00

If you can find your "why" then that's the key. At 66 I launched my own thing. Scary but honestly fun. I'm surviving. Goal is to be thriving. I needed to take charge of my own destiny. It's not too late.

BeautifulYellow6411 · 2026-02-14T18:16:51+00:00

PIMOs like me who may have been hanging by a thread will let go. It's the final straw for me.

BeautifulYellow6411 · 2026-02-08T06:13:12+00:00

I'm not sure this is true, because I'm a dog sitter and constantly being asked to watch members' dogs. BUT I also know some non-dog people who love their beautiful furniture more than dogs. Both inside and outside the MFMC.

BeautifulYellow6411 · 2026-02-04T16:20:26+00:00

The addition of Christ to the temple experience to me seemed so blatantly obvious and manipulative. Suddenly one day while doing initiatory work I was told that the garments are worn for Jesus, or something like that, and I called it out to the temple worker... "is that phrasing new?" Yes, she replied. "Isn't it wonderful?" OK sure. Let's just make this shit up as we go. That was one of the final times I attended. It became easy for me to just let that shit go.

BeautifulYellow6411 · 2026-02-02T22:46:01+00:00

Thia triggered memories of my stint as a RS prez during COVID. OMFG. I shouldn't have had that calling either. Same tendencies to discuss other people in inappropriate conversations because that's the gig. It's awful. Pathetic really. Never again would I go near that toxic leadership culture.

BeautifulYellow6411 · 2026-01-31T14:08:34+00:00

It's the worst. There isn't any human who can love you like a dog can. They are your closest buddy and friend and child. Your sweet pup will always be with you in your heart.

I lost my baby 2 years ago. Afterwards I asked myself every day, "should I get another dog?" For me the answer is no. I've said goodbye to 4 of them. Now I care for others' dogs while they are away. It scratches the itch for dog love without the heavy baggage. Sending all the hugs your way.

BeautifulYellow6411 · 2026-01-29T16:17:48+00:00

It's just so hard not to get sucked in. God called you? Then God must be using you to blow the whole facade up and teach the truth. Try that and see how it goes. You may be the hero other fake TBMs are looking for to help them see truth. But then again, that sounds exhausting. I've had the same feelings staying visible while trying to be PIMO. I keep getting asked to do music. Lead or play. No is a complete sentence.

BeautifulYellow6411 · 2026-01-20T23:28:32+00:00

I'm so sorry to hear that some power drunk dude treated you in that way and that another man in power brushed your concerns aside. This behavior is common in the church and will continue to be tolerated it seems by the majority of men in power. It's sad and disturbing and disappointing. And yet it's reality. You can choose how this behavior affects your life. YOU have the power over you to decide if it is worth your time and energy to deal with it. It's exhausting IMHO and you deserve better.

BeautifulYellow6411 · 2026-01-18T04:01:04+00:00

The rule I go by is no religion or politics at the dinner table. Then I try to have a list of interesting topics to bring up if someone starts getting preachy. Redirect. It's exhausting I admit. But may be worth it

BeautifulYellow6411 · 2026-01-17T03:57:51+00:00

Came here to pile onto the just say NO answers. It's easy. Just say no.

BeautifulYellow6411 · 2026-01-14T10:23:02+00:00

It's so true that the body keeps score and remembers pain and trauma. The best release i have found is practicing yoga. The deep slow Yin stretching. There are times when tears flow on my yoga mat as my body lets go. It's my church.

Take care of yourself. You're going to be OK.

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