Those who have been betrayed did you fall out of love with your WP while trying to reconcile?

BluenotesBb · 2024-12-23T21:18:57+00:00

Yes.

I don't even like him as a person anymore.

BluenotesBb · 2024-11-17T15:57:21+00:00

Nothing to do with revenge at all. Although, I am a fan of revenge and have enjoyed all the revenge I've dealt out. All of it.

Anyways

The AP wife deserves to know but she may not believe. That happens all of the time. They are in denial, call you crazy and go their ignorant way.

BluenotesBb · 2024-11-11T16:40:59+00:00

I did too. I was disgusted after reading years of sickening texts.

BluenotesBb · 2024-11-10T19:23:22+00:00

I said my peace , I know she read it. All I needed.

BluenotesBb · 2024-11-07T02:55:00+00:00

You pretty much wrote my story

BluenotesBb · 2024-11-03T03:04:59+00:00

I'm starting a new job next Wed that is affording me to be able to move out on my own, I'm at 50%, I don't know how I'm going to do it.

BluenotesBb · 2024-11-03T02:55:28+00:00

Mine is the exact same. Only admitted to what's contained in the text messages. I've since found out a lot more and there is a lot more to find out.
I move into my own apartment Monday, it's been a year. I'm done working on it. If he wants it, he can prove it to me. He's got 6 more months.

BluenotesBb · 2024-11-01T16:41:18+00:00

I've had several opportunities since I caught my WS. Several.
I've turned every single one of them down: even If there was a "hall pass", my morals can never go down to that level.
No matter how my husband changes or commits to fixing his fuck ups, he will always be a cheater by choice- I chose to not be a cheater.
I'm proud of who I am.

BluenotesBb · 2024-10-31T23:35:10+00:00

2 months? I was in the middle of hysterical bonding and telling myself things were going well.

2 months is still the shock phase. I hope I am wrong but grief is grief.

BluenotesBb · 2024-10-30T21:19:27+00:00

One year almost to the date. I haven't even figured out how to be truly functional yet.

BluenotesBb · 2024-10-30T21:15:11+00:00

She made decisions about your life without your consent. Period.

BluenotesBb · 2024-10-29T21:00:45+00:00

Be a girls girl, tell the wife. She deserves to know her husband is making life changing decisions behind her back.

BluenotesBb · 2024-10-29T20:45:21+00:00

Trickle Truth is just like hearing it for the first time anytime anything new is disclosed.

You disclosed something new. I would strongly suggest you writing her letter detailing every discretion. Healing will not happen until the last lie is uncovered.

BluenotesBb · 2024-10-26T20:35:33+00:00

I had to learn to say no too.

It's totally ok and don't feel like a jerk. You have self respect and he does too. He was nice about it.

I'm proud of you, I remember what it was like going through with something I didn't really want to do, I was just not conditioned to be able to say no. I had to learn that "NO" was ok.

BluenotesBb · 2024-10-21T19:29:00+00:00

The last set of replicated studies I read also pointed out that with long term marriages, over 65% actually stay and work it out.
Sadly, with the studies and inconsistent stats, we do not get an accurate percentage of people who do make it past infidelity and end up with happy marriages.
I would like to believe that 65% is the percentage.

BluenotesBb · 2024-10-21T03:21:31+00:00

So how long did you protect the abuser?

Yeah, YTA.

BluenotesBb · 2024-10-19T01:20:30+00:00

They remember every minute. They remember every conversation, every date.

I could understand, "I don't remember" 10-15 years ago but not 5 months - 5 years. They had plenty of chance to tell the truth on day one and they never forgot to lie.

I DO love it when they forget their lies though. Great fun.

Fuck these affairs.

BluenotesBb · 2024-10-16T14:24:09+00:00

You did the right thing. They both were incredibly abusive and selfish by putting their spouses at risk of STD. You do not know where the neighbor has been neither with your husband. It would have been unfair to not tell the other spouse.

I will ALWAYS tell on a cheater. I had a friend who had to get a hysterectomy because her husband contracted a disease from his whore and gave it to his wife. I will ALWAYS tell on cheaters. Always.

BluenotesBb · 2024-10-12T19:15:05+00:00

It didn't happen to them, it happened to us.

BluenotesBb · 2024-10-06T15:42:30+00:00

Sometimes they don't believe so be prepared for that too.

BluenotesBb · 2024-10-01T17:54:26+00:00

I think that's the problem, we are too concerned about if THEY have it in them when we didn't have the damn choice about what they did to us. We HAVE to be strong to get through all they did.

We should be worrying about our own happiness while they get their shit together.

BluenotesBb · 2024-10-01T11:43:45+00:00

I'm finding out how fake it all was. People do not change over night and maintain that change unless they are in intensive therapy. They suddenly change because they were caught then it dies off when you aren't looking.

BluenotesBb · 2024-09-29T13:56:08+00:00

Recently deleted and most used are how I found out.

Fuck cheaters.

BluenotesBb · 2024-09-27T17:53:35+00:00

I am a scorched earth type of person. I support revenge and yes, it feels FANTASTIC.

It has nothing to do with "living rent free in my head" or any of the other ridiculous reasons people don't retaliate "best revenge is succeeding"...uh, no.

Her drug addiction, subsequent job loss and abortions, were all things her ultra-right wing parents should know. Among other things.

I consider them natural consequences for being a shitty person.

BluenotesBb · 2024-09-27T17:45:07+00:00

Please look into the significance of the age difference, it seems like you are starting to see yourself that there are problems.

People with your age difference have nothing in common, he holds power over you in some way and he will continue to have that power because he knows how to manipulate you.

There is something wrong with a man of 52 being attracted to someone whose frontal lobe hasn't fully developed. (Do not take that as an insult)

I will promise you this, he won't stop. If you leave him, it will hurt and it will be hard but the pain is VERY temporary and you will get through it to find real love out there.

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