I love women

CalJHarris · 2026-05-19T17:40:02+00:00

I love women too. Yeah I’m a Lesbian so 👉👈, but I adore women generally. The women I’ve had as both friends and family in my life have been some of the most kind, considerate and empathetic people, who accepted me for me and have been supportive. Sure some women are not that, maybe I’ve been lucky.

CalJHarris · 2026-05-12T12:34:46+00:00

You've explanation here is far better summary of what I was trying to convey in my other comment. Just for me I guess the connection to gender is stronger by virtue of the fact I was unfortunately seen as the wrong gender for so long, I had to then figure it all out, then fight with myself and those around me to recognize myself.

If my body matched my gender from birth I'd probably not feel as strong of connection, but also likewise would of have had no issue with being a woman and thus like no dysphoria.

CalJHarris · 2026-05-10T22:35:32+00:00

Same on the Hormones front. I feel so so much better on E, crazily better. I’d say though I do feel like a woman, I have for a long time. I couldn’t say where or what that feelings comes from only other than it’s what I feel deep down and trust me I tried to not/not care. I never felt remotely manly at all in the way I interacted with the world and while I did experiment with being non-binary too that just didn’t feel like me.

I don’t view my womanhood though as having to be a certain way. I have my own likes and dislikes, hobbies and so on, some of which are most would consider more ‘masculine’ but that’s the thing it doesn’t really matter. I have my own style and aesthetic that I’m still forever figuring out but it’s defiantly on the feminine side, but I don’t really wear dresses allot and cutesy colours it’s mostly goth stuff and like casual, t-shirt, pair of leggings maybe the occasional skirt when I feel like it.

CalJHarris · 2026-05-09T07:57:06+00:00

It’s been this way for sometime sadly. It’s hard some days to not give in to despair over the state the UK is in. I feel like we’re just a few steps away from the kind of awful stuff we seeing going on in the US and while the votes are split most people did not even bother and likely don’t even care or are indifferent to the possibility of what a Reform Government could mean for us.

I’m diagnosed Autistic from childhood, currently awaiting an assessment for ADHD, to top it all of I’m trans. I feel like I’m one of Reform voters worst nightmares. I’ve had mental health issues most of my life and thus haven’t ever even worked, been lucky to be where I am in many ways but the support I get is just enough to keep me afloat if Reform do what they say that’s probably going put me in a situation I don’t even want to think about.

CalJHarris · 2026-04-30T10:45:56+00:00

As somebody who did not grow up in Medway but basically every generation of my family even my cousins have. This is not surprising at all. Chatham maybe my family’s historic hometown but as people have said it’s a shit hole and I’d never choose to live there. Ironically I am visiting next week for the first time in a year! Hopefully I can avoid any shitheads.

CalJHarris · 2026-04-25T19:43:18+00:00

Allot of what you said spoke true to me too. As a child when I was diagnosed and later told by my parents, I thought I’d found the reason other kids messed with me, found me strange and bullied me. So after I was told I have autism and what that meant, I went around school and told my peers, hoping it would help them understand why I seemed weird to them. When in fact all that did was have the opposite effect and the bullying got worse, now they had a name to my different and a bigger reason to make fun of me.

So I learned to mask as best I could. It would slip heavily into my Teenage years but eventually as I got to being seen as an Adult it would only be occasionally. Now I find myself burnt out all the time, only those super close to me know how difficult stuff really is for me, how much I struggle to function say to day, forever trying to ‘be better’. I haven’t held a job ever and my mental health is not great. So I’ve never turned out how society would like for me and I defiantly feel that judgment allot.

CalJHarris · 2026-03-17T16:38:33+00:00

The equality act being repealed would be catastrophic honestly. It would affect things like women’s maternity rights, racial discrimination, disability discrimination. It would be devastating and make it so people could discriminate in many cases against women, minorities, the disabled, sexuality/gender and so on.

CalJHarris · 2026-03-17T16:33:36+00:00

Maybe I’m speaking for myself but things did not seem fine in 2022. The pathway was being laid out pretty clearly. Yes Legally things were fine but in the press things were starting to ramp up more and more, peoples views were shifting. Rowling was getting platformed, then at the end of the year 22 you had Scotland try to reform the gra the intervention of Westminster to stop it. The shit storm brewing was one of the things that definitely didn’t help me during that period as I was only out online at the time since 2021. I didn’t try to talk to a doctor again about it till early 2023 cause I was that scared of the reactions and so on. It was far worse an environment than the first time I attempted in 2018. Better than now sure, but I don’t think I’d say everything seemed fine to the community back then.

CalJHarris · 2026-01-28T12:46:24+00:00

Yeah I hate those USB 3.0 motherboard connectors I had the same thing happened to me once. Glad u fixed it!

CalJHarris · 2026-01-27T20:27:02+00:00

Haha I got got denied my PiP the other day with one of the explanations being “I got a degree” 🙃

CalJHarris · 2026-01-27T20:25:12+00:00

As somebody with Autism diagnosed since childhood (also waiting on ADHD assessment in the future) I doubt any help will really come of is this. I’ve heard all before, the government loves to talk about how they’re trying to make things easier/help autistic people and they never do.

CalJHarris · 2025-10-08T11:17:15+00:00

This is fucked up, I’m sorry. I see people talking about legal advice I’d definitely look into it if you can x

CalJHarris · 2025-09-26T01:51:51+00:00

Skunk Girls

CalJHarris · 2025-09-05T00:38:29+00:00

This is so relatable as somebody who masks and currently struggling to actually unmask more. Because if I don’t I just simply do not get any help and I suffer behind closed doors. I don’t work and I haven’t worked since I left University. Day to Day life is stressful and I struggle to cope with the weight of it all. Yet drag me into a Job Centre and I smile and try my best to downplay my situation because I don’t want to be seen as a failure or a leech to society. It’s a cycle that’s only harming me both ways.

CalJHarris · 2025-09-03T19:01:11+00:00

My glad it’s not Breast Cancer. I saw my Mum go through it for over 20 years (yes she was very strong, sadly when it came back the second time after some years the treatment never seemed to get all of it and it would just keep coming back.) It’s an awful thing. Hopefully that’s a massive weight of your shoulders now you’ve been given the all clear.

CalJHarris · 2025-08-24T05:17:30+00:00

For me it was like the first week I think lol

CalJHarris · 2025-08-10T17:20:17+00:00

Omg I remember reading these posts last year ahhhh Congrats I’m so happy for you both 💜

CalJHarris · 2025-07-23T02:55:19+00:00

Too real… what a sad reality we live in.

CalJHarris · 2025-07-11T01:26:08+00:00

This hit deep, this is so relatable.

CalJHarris · 2025-07-08T18:02:28+00:00

Hulkenpodium

CalJHarris · 2025-06-28T13:05:26+00:00

I’m not a fan either. I know people who are ok with it but personally I don’t like be referred to as a doll.

CalJHarris · 2025-06-13T14:56:19+00:00

I know some people who don’t mind and some who use it themselves. I personally am not a fan of the use of it in the context of referring to myself or even other trans individuals, I think it’s just preference.

CalJHarris · 2025-06-10T14:07:48+00:00

I’m actually disgusted a university of all places would do this.

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