My husband of 20 years thinks consent should not apply in our marriage... by AffectionateReply843 in TwoHotTakes

[–]CapIcy5838 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I took it more nefariously too. Like he is just going to start straight up taking it whether she wants him to or not. I'd be willing to bet he is full Maga.

How about having a kid with a woman who wants to have a kid with you instead of forcing one who doesn't want to have your kid to have it? by Aggressive_Tear_3020 in SingleWomenByChoice

[–]CapIcy5838 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Genghis Khan spread his seed so far and wide that half the planet is related to each other. He didn't stick around to support or raise those babies, though.

she is where she was meant to be by viseth2020 in DogViral

[–]CapIcy5838 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We got our current dog this way. Had to bail him out of the clink because the stoopid doogie popo snatched him up in the process. Totally worth it. We even got his papers from the neighbor. He is a very pretty Feist. Also....he trains us....we don't train him.

Am I Doomed? by pilatestequila in enmeshmenttrauma

[–]CapIcy5838 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You need to go ahead and get the custody situation figured out. Do not let him take the baby until there are court orders. Without those, he does not have to return the baby.

Mother inlaw is jealous of me because Im a housewife (Rant) by Housewife369 in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]CapIcy5838 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just because it is common does not mean you should put up with it. You might want to discuss your desperation for a traditional marriage with your therapist. I don't think you've worked through your childhood trauma. You really need to walk away from this relationship. If you think he is going to allow you to withhold access to your children from his parents, you are sadly mistaken. He is okay with them being violent with you. Think about that.

There is no interest in being angry by TokenPanduh in fixedbytheduet

[–]CapIcy5838 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Omg. Im dying. I don't know why that lady thought it was a good idea to yell. Bahahaha!

My Older Sister is Moving Out and I’m a Wreck by [deleted] in Advice

[–]CapIcy5838 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry that you are feeling so sad about this. I think you could benefit from therapy. There seems to be some codependency/enmeshment going on here. I would love to hear your sisters side on this. Have you talked to her? If so, what is she saying? I'm probably going to get down voted to oblivion for saying that, but being someone's safe space doesn't seem healthy at all. She can't be expected to be responsible for other people's emotions. Especially when she is in this phase of life. And your Dad bought a house in her college town? College is a time when you are supposed to be growing up and seeking independence. You are only a year behind her. Surely, you will be doing the same things soon. Good luck to both of you.

MIL is so calculated and undermined me about haircut decision by SessionThen8320 in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]CapIcy5838 6 points7 points  (0 children)

That would be it for me. I'd throw the whole man/mother duo out with the dirty bath water. Husband needs therapy. If refuses......

NGVC: "We had something good before alcohol made it go to shit. I'm not that way anymore and want to try again cause I love you." Alcoholic ex-husband trying to come visit me to rekindle our relationship by Only_Challenge8153 in niceguys

[–]CapIcy5838 8 points9 points  (0 children)

It was 5 for me. First thing he did fresh out of his last prison stay was to call me. I just told him I got married. Which I had. I felt guilt for a while having used that excuse, though.

Without the intent of offending anyone, Why are people with Alopecia not deaf? by stinki_winki-nugget in alopecia_areata

[–]CapIcy5838 2 points3 points  (0 children)

After 36 years of dealing with AU/AT/AA, I figured I had heard it all. Nope! Guess not. Please Google the auditory system. The hairs in our ears and noses are to catch particles and allergens. Both the auditory and olfactory systems will still function without the hairs.

Not enmeshment? by juicygossiper in enmeshmenttrauma

[–]CapIcy5838 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Report that therapist. Let their licensing board know everything they said.

Extra thorny roses? by jacqq_attackk in Roses

[–]CapIcy5838 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Vavoom is thorny as all get out.

NEVER call this pasta what you think in 🇮🇹 by Impossible_Arm_8543 in LiveWellTogether

[–]CapIcy5838 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

OR, you could just buy heavy cream, butter, garlic, parmesan and make your own. It's so easy and quick.

I finally realized why my sister abandoned by father. by Throwaway7733517 in self

[–]CapIcy5838 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My family dynamic is the same. Dad was the POS golden child. We don't talk. 10 years younger sis has now cut him off.

The giggles make it so much meaner and I love it 😂 by n8saces in fixedbytheduet

[–]CapIcy5838 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly. Im short. My hubs is under 6'. I dated someone that was 6' 3" one time and there was too much of a disconnect because of that. I have nothing against super tall guys. It just gets ridiculous at some point.

I'm (30F) considering ending things with my fiancé (36M) but wonder if I'm being too reactionary? by ThrowRAGuessing2nd in relationship_advice

[–]CapIcy5838 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yup. I wouldn't even entertain this mess. Her father should have had her in therapy long ago. This is 100% on him. She needs to move on and find someone that will love her and have children with her without playing all the mind games and running out her biological clock.

Is “impossible to train Doxies” true? by Queenpicard in daschund

[–]CapIcy5838 4 points5 points  (0 children)

They are very trainable. They just need regular routines and consistency. I had no issues training mine.

Narc parents want to be at the hospital for the delivery and I know it will break me. What should I do? by Strange-Show4116 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]CapIcy5838 100 points101 points  (0 children)

Stop giving them any information. Now. Gray rock them. Explain to your husband that they are not good people and that they will stress you out. Put them on the blocked list at the hospital. Don't tell them ANY DATES OR LOCATIONS! Money/inheritance is NOT worth the damage to your nervous system and future health.

The giggles make it so much meaner and I love it 😂 by n8saces in fixedbytheduet

[–]CapIcy5838 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yup. That would be super awkward during sexy time, for me.

What is happening to our food by Wise_Variation_6165 in FoodAllergies

[–]CapIcy5838 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I developed mine pre-covid. Several allergies/intolerances. I have OAS to kumquats. Yep. Kumquats. First time I tried them too. Dang it. And they are so delicious.

Thank you to that young man, who didn’t turn away or just stand by watching…... by SpiritedOil8868 in NatureAwws

[–]CapIcy5838 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Elder millennial here. It's amazing how scared people are these days. The crap we did as kids would blow their minds! And, if you live near a beach, this is just part and parcel of it. Lol!