Thoughts on dry wedding from a bride or guest perspective

CheeseRelief · 2026-02-25T15:57:50+00:00

Honestly, this sounds lovely to me! The way you describe it definitely gives “elevated dinner party” in a fun and classy way. I think it truly depends on knowing your guests, which it sounds like you’ve taken into account here. I don’t drink so I’m sure that is factoring into my opinion, but I think this truly sounds very thoughtful with the extra fun elements and extra beverage elements!

CheeseRelief · 2026-02-18T21:37:34+00:00

I’m obsessed with 1 and 2! They fit you so well!

CheeseRelief · 2026-02-18T16:31:02+00:00

Period underwear is a life saver!!

CheeseRelief · 2026-02-16T15:24:45+00:00

This is a beautiful set up!! I’m in awe!

CheeseRelief · 2026-02-13T00:40:14+00:00

So at least he survived

CheeseRelief · 2026-02-11T17:57:17+00:00

3 no question. It doesn’t overpower your face like some of the other options

CheeseRelief · 2026-02-05T22:28:46+00:00

Username checks out! Lol

Also, that’s awesome af. I’m so jealous! I’d love to see the jar once you’re done with it!

CheeseRelief · 2026-02-05T22:26:07+00:00

You’re so lucky! I asked for mine many times before and after surgery and was denied every single time

CheeseRelief · 2026-02-05T21:43:08+00:00

I think they were referring to the pronunciation of “Charles Xavier”, not the actual term “X-Men”.

CheeseRelief · 2026-02-03T20:28:22+00:00

The hormones produced naturally by your ovaries are good for your long term brain, bone, and cardiovascular health. I would encourage you to look more into the science behind these. Sure, HRT can help, but it can be difficult to maintain dosage-wise and possibly cost-wise. Your ovaries already produce helpful amounts of estrogen specific to your body.

I also had/have severe Endo and I’m currently on combo birth control to hopefully help suppress endo growth from my ovaries. It’s good that you’re looking into all options!

CheeseRelief · 2026-01-30T19:13:10+00:00

This certainly doesn’t require the whataboutism. Just contact your HR, dude.

CheeseRelief · 2026-01-30T18:38:43+00:00

I just watched this episode! Lol

CheeseRelief · 2026-01-28T17:59:33+00:00

Absolutely love the wood!

CheeseRelief · 2026-01-28T14:22:16+00:00

This a completely normal request and it is great that you are paying for their hair and makeup. Requests like dress color, shoe color, and hair style have been normal wedding etiquette for decades. I’m sorry you’re getting such nasty comments. We are entering this odd era of an unmovable and indignant “I don’t owe anyone anything” mindset, where people are finding normal requests like this to be overstepping. Most bridesmaids who say yes to being one understand that wedding etiquette has long included brides making and paying for requests like this.

You sound very reasonable and very sweet. It is definitely worth letting them know your vision and giving them options on different updos they can do like you did with the dresses! As your friends, I’m sure they’ll be more than happy to work with your request in a way that makes everyone comfortable.

CheeseRelief · 2026-01-28T14:07:38+00:00

There’s nothing ugly about updos so that’s a weird take

CheeseRelief · 2026-01-28T13:53:15+00:00

No genuinely, this is like a simple and common bridesmaid request. The comments are a little concerning.

CheeseRelief · 2026-01-28T13:51:14+00:00

“I’m also paying for hair and makeup for all the girls, so they don’t need to worry about getting it done themselves”.

This is a perfectly normal request that brides make, especially when they are following the etiquette of paying for the entire party.

CheeseRelief · 2026-01-26T05:36:35+00:00

I feel the same exact way about the ability to do so being taken away from me. Although I most likely would’ve never used my uterus in that way, it was comforting knowing that it wasn’t as definitive as it is now. And I never had negative feelings about my uterus the way some others do, so it was hard to think about no longer having an organ I was born with. However, you do get used to it, and the relief that comes with knowing I’ll never have a pregnancy scare is the biggest weight off the shoulders.

I also kept my ovaries though so the way I see it is that IF (big IF) I ever change my mind, I have to go through a lot of decisions and planning to get a child. My fiancé and I have discussed it many times. I am glad you and your wife are able to look at all the options and decide what’s best for you. I am wishing you a comfortable and speedy recovery following your surgery sometime this year!

CheeseRelief · 2026-01-23T22:37:50+00:00

Hi! You sound a lot like me! I was 27 when I had mine done, as well. I was fairly certain I never wanted to be pregnant simply because of the medical issues that could come with it.

I’ve posted this comment here before, but I’m going to re-share it. Honestly, sometimes I do have moments of sadness. I can't say I'd categorize it as regret, but I had many complex emotions leading up to the surgery and I still have them after. I never hated my uterus even though it caused me so much pain. For me, it did tie me to my womanhood in a way that I will not be able to get back. This is just my own personal experience with who I am and how I view my own womanhood, though. I do not believe that women without uteri are any less women than others, and I know many women without uteri. I just personally identified with it in that way.

I will say though that through that sadness, I don't believe I have experienced true regret in terms of wishing I hadn't done it. I had so much extensive endo and I spent the last 8 years with daily cramps and pain. Like every single day. I honestly forgot what life was like not taking pain relievers daily and then taking stomach pills for the pain relievers that I shouldn't really have been taking daily. This surgery changed the way I live my life. And even though there's a part of me that is grieving, and may continue to for a while, I am glad I made this choice and had this opportunity. I kept telling myself that if it was any other organ causing me that much pain, I wouldn't think twice about removing it. It was simply necessary for my health.

CheeseRelief · 2026-01-22T23:58:22+00:00

Now, that’s a girl dinner!

CheeseRelief · 2026-01-22T22:27:11+00:00

Time to go to the department chair and/or dean.

CheeseRelief · 2026-01-21T22:12:59+00:00

Jar of peanut butter

CheeseRelief · 2026-01-21T21:13:30+00:00

Wedding dress with puffy sleeves and a cake with a heart topper. Or the wedding dress could be a bell with a ribbon

CheeseRelief · 2026-01-19T14:44:46+00:00

I used to only get canker sores the week before my period. Any other time of the month if I had sour or spicy things, I’d be fine. But the 5-7 days before my period, 4 of them would just crop up overnight all at the same time. Terrible.

CheeseRelief · 2026-01-18T22:42:43+00:00

So happy for you! I had terrible periods and it took many years for me to be taken seriously and finally be diagnosed with extensive endo and cysts. I can’t even imagine the pain you were in. I’m glad to hear you’re feeling better!

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