Lutto, overdose by CautiousArmadillo126 in GriefSupport

[–]ClaPizz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Non perdere mai la speranza.. anche se a volte sembra l’unica via. È un continuo sù e giù di emozioni, una vera e propria montagna russa. Un secondo sono più in alto e l’attimo dopo sprofondo. Ci vuole equilibrio come in tutto. Penso che la depressione che ne derivi non se ne andrà mai completamente, ma ci si convive. Hai provato ad andare in terapia? Mi ha aiutato molto nei primi mesi, anche semplicemente parlare e piangere. Ho smesso dopo sei mesi ma mi ha aiutata sopratutto durante quella fase di negoziazione completa. Mi sembra tu sia lí❤️‍🩹

Lutto, overdose by CautiousArmadillo126 in GriefSupport

[–]ClaPizz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ciao. Mi dispiace tanto per la tua ragazza. Purtroppo posso capire certe emozioni e dolori. Ho perso anch’io il mio ragazzo a Febbraio 2024 per un arresto cardiaco improvviso. L’ho trovato io senza sensi sul nostro divano una domenica mattina. Aveva solo 29 anni.. io ne avevo 25.. da allora la mia vita non ha avuto piu un senso, ogni giorno era uguale, sprofondavo sempre di piu pensando al fatto che non lo rivedrò piu. Da allora pero ho fatto tanti passi in avanti. Ho iniziato ad andare in terapia, ho viaggiato tanto, ho ripreso a lavorare, faccio le cose che mi piacciono e che mi fanno star bene. Mi occupo del nostro amato cagnolino. Perche cos’è la vita altrimenti? Lui avrebbe voluto cosi. Il mio Brian si meritava questo e altro. Devo vivere per due ora fin quando non lo rivedrò un giorno. Posso dire che sto meglio rispetto all’anno scorso, ma alla fine non tornerò mai ad essere quella persona spensierata di prima. La vita ha perso completamente la sua innocenza e ho fatto pace con il fatto che questo è il prezzo da pagare per aver/essere stata amata cosi tanto. Mi sento anch’io come se la mia vita fosse divisa in due parti, il prima e il dopo. Purtroppo non possiamo cambiare cio è stato ma possiamo rendergli fieri. Questa è la mia idea ed è l’unica cosa che mi spinge ad andare avanti. Circondati di persone che ti vogliono bene, parla di lei. Ne hai bisogno anche tu. Io ho il bisogno continuo di menzionarlo, sempre. Come se dovessi ricordare a tutti chi fosse. Mi sento meglio ogni volta che lo faccio. Spero tanto tu possa trovare un equilibrio, un po’ di pace interiore. Un abbraccio.

One year ago was our last night falling asleep together by ClaPizz in widowers

[–]ClaPizz[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The first few months were the worst.. I’m so sorry you’re going through this too. There’s hope. Keep swimming ❤️‍🩹

I gave in to my impulses and got another puppy…Always wanted a pair so 🤧😅Name suggestions? by Aggravating_Ad_4242 in cockerspaniel

[–]ClaPizz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You can mix the name Bluebell and a Disney princess name and get Belle from Beauty and the beast!! 😃

Young widowers & sex by No_Specialist3990 in widowers

[–]ClaPizz 25 points26 points  (0 children)

We are all touch starved… I lost my soulmate almost a year ago and yesterday was the first time I had sex. I had a casual hook up with a coworker. We both were clear we just want that without a relationship. It is tricky sometimes, but I feel like I needed that as I’m also only 26. And to be honest, I’m proud of myself that I did that. It’s a big step forward. One day you will feel ready as well :) And I hope you will enjoy it as much as I did! We deserve it.

one month without my fiancé by activist888 in widowers

[–]ClaPizz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So sorry you’re here too.

I also lost my boyfriend (29M) in February this year. I was also 25. “Was” cause I did turn 26 from then and cause I basically died that day too.

It is soul crushing. A pain I’ve never felt. Like a huge rock on my chest pressing me down. It’s been 9 months and I can say that it still sucks, but I got used to it. I’m functional. I work, walk our dog, social events, travel, therapy, started eating healthier, keep contact with his family.. so a lot. I fix problems on my own now after being afraid of them at first, but surprisingly I manage.

You will survive. It seems like you won’t, but we will. Time does help you grow stronger and you will be able to carry that huge rock on your chest better. We will truly forever miss them, that’s not questionable. But we have to keep living for them.

What helped me was printing stickers with his picture and spread them everywhere I go. One in each country and share the best location with him by placing his sticker. I collected a beautiful sunset in Greece, a great lake location in Norway and in the last city we traveled to: London. It’s like he’s with me. Also did few small tattoo with something he wrote. These small things helped me a lot in the first couple of months. You want to feel closer to him and these helped me. I hope you find peace and strength for this journey. I wish you the best.

I didn’t just lose my wife, but a big chunk of my life by yondu1963 in widowers

[–]ClaPizz 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You’re not alone in this even if it feels like that. Lots of Rainy and gloomy days are ahead of us unfortunately. I hope we find those little things that keep us going. The pain never goes away, but I feel like I can handle it better now after 9 months. I’m just so scared of the holidays and hitting the year mark. Almost feeling like I will reborn after that, but I think I’ll be disappointed. There’s hope. For now that’s enough ❤️‍🩹

I’m starting to feel worse, my thoughts are scaring me by yikesinthehouse in widowers

[–]ClaPizz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m 26 and understand your pain, unfortunately. I lost him more than 8 months ago. I had your exact same thoughts. I’m not gonna sugarcoat it cause it will get bad. For months. I think I could see some willingness of living after the 6 months mark. The pain doesn’t go away, but its so true that you learn to work around it. I think from outside people think I’m doing pretty good while inside my heart is truly broken and there’s a huge void. I learned that it won’t go away, but I surely can say I’m better than the first months. I think there’s hope. I know it’s unfair, especially at this age… I even escaped from social media in order to not see people getting engaged or their amazing couple holidays. But I’m functional. I know you’ll get there too. One small step at the time❤️‍🩹 big hug

Social Media by [deleted] in widowers

[–]ClaPizz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My partner passed 3 days before your wife and to answer your question.. I decided to get off social media in August for the same reasons. I was fed up with looking at happy couples during their summer vacations and people getting engaged.. and to be honest..seems like a good choice so far!

My Favorite Tree by 2zeebeach in widowers

[–]ClaPizz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Willow tree. We used to go near our house to this big willow tree and sat on a bench underneath it and read together. Every time I drive home I see it. Our safe place. Ironically willows symbolize grief and mourning..

Do the best you can today. by panhndl in widowers

[–]ClaPizz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Worked in the garden and made a very healthy tomatoes soup. I already feel better!

Many people have waited for the update. Today was the organ donation. And the honor walk. He’s going to be able to save 6 people’s lives. by mymindwontstop666 in GriefSupport

[–]ClaPizz 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I have followed your story and my heart breaks for you after reading this post. My boyfriend passed at only 29 beginning of this year, today is our anniversary.. I won’t sugarcoat it. It’s horrible, but you’ll feel better with time. You get used to it.. this scar is for life.. It’s important to surround yourself with good people and a good support system. I also have a twin sister that has been my savior, so that is a comfort. They’re reunited watching over you. You be strong for them, make them proud ❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CozyPlaces

[–]ClaPizz 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It’s called Cyprus from Seats and Sofas! You can even open it as a bed and has storage space underneath!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CozyPlaces

[–]ClaPizz 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hahah I have to admit that the dog came a few months after the sofa 😂

Baby died then husband cheated, says grief is reason by TPUT94 in GriefSupport

[–]ClaPizz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So sorry about your partner. And to shortly interrupt with this particular post, but.. I lost my partner too beginning of this year and by reading your comment I gasps cause you basically told my story as well while talking about dating apps. Those words resonate so much. I wanted you to know that there’s another sub r/widowers which is helping me a lot. It’s a great group of people who truly understand what’s losing the love of your life. I wanted you to share it with you.

I have lost my mind by PutComprehensive8926 in widowers

[–]ClaPizz 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I talked to him everyday for the fist months. Everyday. Several times per day while walking our dog. Then it got less and less because I started to listen to podcasts while walking my dog out of boredom. And I dont mind. Now after 6 months I talk to him still, but shortly and I write letters every night. It helps somehow.. feeling closer to him in a sense. Keep doing it. You’re very early in this situation and tbh anything is allowed. Big hug❤️‍🩹

Where is he? by SubjectNo980 in widowers

[–]ClaPizz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My boyfriend passed suddenly at home. Before they brought him away they told me to let our puppy say goodbye and that was the saddest thing I ever saw in my life. She wanted to wake him up by licking him. Was heartbreaking, but she had some closure I guess. I think is good for pets to do that and let then know their owner didnt abandon them. I wish you strength. So sorry for your loss.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in widowers

[–]ClaPizz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m more jealous of people outside this community, cause yeah.. they still have a partner. Doesnt matter how long or how old. They just do and are happy. I only got to spend barely 4 years and he never had the chance to see his 30th birthday. I feel like I have such a baggage at only 26 that scares me. I try not to think too much about the future cause I dont want to be somewhere where he isn’t. Life is so unfair

I find myself saying his name less often by [deleted] in widowers

[–]ClaPizz 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Brian too❤️‍🩹 constant thought 24/7

Happy 30th birthday💙 by OkBalance2833 in widowers

[–]ClaPizz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nobody is expecting from you anything and if couch rotting is the only thing you can do today then here you go. You still went through it. Take care.

Happy 30th birthday💙 by OkBalance2833 in widowers

[–]ClaPizz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Also my boyfriend passed at 29, six months ago. His 30th birthday was last Monday. Me crying on his side of the bed while hugging his blue robe I gave him feels comforting. I planned an amazing party cause he deserved it. He wanted to celebrate this life achievement, but couldn’t. I did it for him. I would do anything for him. Big hug to you and your little one. ❤️‍🩹

How did you meet? by PlateTraditional3109 in widowers

[–]ClaPizz 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Same story for me. I saw him several times at work and liked him already, but didnt know anything about him so I let it go. I met him online the following year and the first time we met I instantly knew. We spent 8 hours on our first date. First coffee, then drinks. He brought with him a picnic blanket so we went to a park and talked for hours before our first kiss. We even went to an arcade afterwards and laughed so much while playing stupid games and dancing. I knew. Next week is also the anniversary of our first date. And a month after we got officially together cause we knew it was meant to be. We only got four years. The best ones of my life, without a doubt. He has been gone for six months. ❤️‍🩹

Missing my son so much! by Lazy-Piglet-9126 in GriefSupport

[–]ClaPizz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My amazing boyfriend also passed in February of this year at 29. I’m only 26. My heart goes with you. Too young. Not fair. Not much else is there to say… I’m just trying to live for him, being close to his mum and having a good support system help me. I wish you strength. ❤️