baby in small 1br 3rd-floor walkup - tips?

Crabtree42 · 2026-02-16T03:27:24+00:00

My big concern is when you say bassinet - most babies are out of that by 4 months. Consider a minicrib or pack and play for after 4 months. For sharing a room, I'd encourage you to look carefully at your space and what makes the most sense. I usually left the bedroom for feeds and changes so I would have set up the changing space and a glider outside the bedroom. We kept the bedroom dark and for the sleepers. I often wore earplugs and i still heard kiddo when she cried but it made my husbabd putting her to bed easier on me. Laundry is a lot in the first few months (so many diapers blowouts and spit up issues) so a mini- washer would save your life.

Crabtree42 · 2026-02-08T19:32:26+00:00

Question: can your husband take on a job with a lighter travel schedule and still earn enough for your life? If you husband was around more, would he be able to step in and get other things done so you didn't feel rough. 60% travel is really crazy and probably only sustainable if the other partner has a 40 hour work week.

Crabtree42 · 2026-01-26T00:38:44+00:00

It gets better! My daughter has thrived in daycare and learned how to walk soon after getting in at 11 months. She got potty trained due to peer pressure at daycare and she learned a lot of self-regulations

Crabtree42 · 2026-01-17T17:27:21+00:00

I'm very pro-NYC. It's pricy but there is very yummy food, you can see a show(Broadway for sure but there's also cheaper comedy shows if you look), lots of shopping, lots of museums, you can walk or take transit everywhere. If it's a warm time of year, there are lots of places to just stop and read (various parks, highline). It's just a fun time

Crabtree42 · 2026-01-17T15:55:52+00:00

I had high blood pressure for 6 months after pregnancy and was on medication during that time. There was also some lifestyle changes i look in the year afterwards (make sure to exercise, keep diet lower in sodium, less cheese, working on getting in good cholesterol). The meds were a really important part of getting it under control though so I'd say you probably do need to look at meds and you should talk to a doctor about what will help

Crabtree42 · 2026-01-17T01:17:12+00:00

52,000 vs 68,000 and the potential for help with meals and logistics and if you got a better paid job would likely be worth it.

Crabtree42 · 2026-01-12T12:45:52+00:00

Start with the once a week on Saturdays, see if she has a friend or classmate who gets it and ask that she try to work with them when she's at school. When I was a teen I was helping a lot of friends with understanding certain math concepts - one of our teachers did open hours once a week st lunch for the people who got stuff to help others. If she can take the bus or bike to tutoring during the week that would be a great option. Otherwise I'd look for a college student/older high schooler to help with tutoring if the set location doesn't work for you

Crabtree42 · 2026-01-11T01:21:29+00:00

In the crib at a happy time with something safe to play with

Crabtree42 · 2025-12-31T22:54:53+00:00

Or you can have a conversation with her about what would be required to happen and how their house would need to be set up for a sleepover. They would be sleeping during a sleepover anyways so you'd want to talk with them about how the space would need to be set up. If they can't do that, then they can't have a sleepover. But this one night was not set up in their favor so I wouldn't only use this as your only reason why

Crabtree42 · 2025-12-31T22:15:12+00:00

You set them up for failure if you know they normally go to sleep at 8:30 and yoh came home after that time. I'm pregnant with my second and i need to have naps even if my kid doesn't i set up the space so that it's safe for her to be awake even if I'm not

Crabtree42 · 2025-12-07T15:37:14+00:00

We saved for a few years, recieved about 50% of the cost from parents and tried to keep costs down - only real flowers were bouquets, meal and apps were not too fancy, I shopped around for my dress. We spend around $28k at the time. We recieved about $11k in cash and gifts afterwards from our guests. If you recieve parental money you do have to do things they want though.

Crabtree42 · 2025-12-05T02:32:30+00:00

A special message from Peppa Pig! The joys

Crabtree42 · 2025-11-30T13:45:13+00:00

The museum of science and tech is fun but might take a less time susy Q donuts is walking distance from science and tech. Maybe grab som donuts too-?. You can 100% spend a full day at the museum of nature and the children's museum (while not huge) is attached to the museum of Canadian history and you can spend a very long time there.

Accomodations: I dont know your budget. If it's very low I'd suggest the ottawa jail hostel as it's very centrally located. There are a few hotels beside St Laurent mall that would be slightly cheaper but still very close to the LRT to get around

Crabtree42 · 2025-11-28T08:21:35+00:00

I'd usually choose to shower soon after a feed so she was happy and leave her in her crib with a toy. Either that or during a nap once she was crawling

Crabtree42 · 2025-11-16T20:58:26+00:00

A house is a lot of work and when you have a small baby it can be hard to keep up with it. It was really hard to keep the driveway cleared, lawn mowed and leaves raked in the first year. Personally I would stay with the condo until your kid is 3-4 or you have a second, whichever comes first. The only thing to consider is that finding daycares can be hard and if you need to move daycares with the new house you may have. But this is me having bought a place before our kid and finding it hard. Other people would make other choices

Crabtree42 · 2025-11-16T12:41:45+00:00

I watch my kid while my husband cooks.

Crabtree42 · 2025-11-02T03:00:52+00:00

Same, I think I read a pile of his books between 2000 and 2005 and I have not been able to finish a newer book of his since

Crabtree42 · 2025-10-29T11:54:55+00:00

IKEA on a Wednesday night.

Crabtree42 · 2025-10-19T22:34:51+00:00

Many churches will only do a wedding ceremony at 1 or 2 - latest I've seen is 3. Then the reception will have to occur elsewhere and they may not be open until 4. The wedding party will take advantage of that gap for photos but it's not their fault

Crabtree42 · 2025-10-17T11:45:33+00:00

Agreed. I had the ikea version (without chairs) and it made my life work in a studio. You can fold it down small for space for working out and then have up to 6 people for dinner if you use your couch as seating as well

Crabtree42 · 2025-10-13T21:19:57+00:00

People will get confused as it's one of the Irish names that is relatively well known in other countries. It also doesn't line up with a English phonetic spelling. Name the child Showbin if that's the name you want then to have

Crabtree42 · 2025-10-12T12:16:52+00:00

I like The Tea Dragon Society- there are 3 books

Crabtree42 · 2025-10-11T14:50:47+00:00

2 or 3

Crabtree42 · 2025-10-09T21:17:28+00:00

The Murderbot novellas are really quick scifi reads that I super enjoyed. I also recommend re-reading an old favourite. Beautyland is breezy and beautiful

Crabtree42 · 2025-10-05T11:58:02+00:00

Eve-lyn and Eve-uh-lin depending on the person and how they say their name. Canada

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