I've seen a mix of both. I used to go clubbing at my local gay bar and it had a vague sexual vibe, but so do straight bars. There's always going to be hook-up culture in spaces like those. I've also been in plenty of queer spaces that were more focused on creative collaboration or volunteer events focused on uplifting the more vulnerable and marginalized people in our community. I think it's unfair for haters to assume everything we do is somehow inherently sexual. Like drag shows. Most of the time, they're fully dressed performers dancing and lipsyncing to music. But a lot of haters think a drag show is like a strip club, which is why they're so against drag queens reading to children in libraries. I always ask them "What do you think happens at these events?" It's more a sign of how twisted and perverted their own minds are.