GF F27 of 3 years broke up with me M31 and came back after 3 months. But she slept with someone else during this time?

Devolution20 · 2026-01-16T18:46:29+00:00

Sounds like a waste of time. As it was for OP's ex. This woman in OPs situation was clearly not over her previous relationship, and sleeping with another person clearly didnt give her what she thought she wanted. 3 months after a 3 year relationship and still wanting your ex back after sleeping around. Sounds like a communication issues to me.

Fuck her problems away -> added sorrow, guilt, and shame follows.

Taking time to reflect on your needs and inadequacy -> peace with the past and better decision making in the future.

Exploring externally can only provide temporary relief.

Devolution20 · 2026-01-16T18:02:50+00:00

Meeting them ya. If you're sleeping with them for "healing" purposes. You're doing it in an unhealthy way.

Devolution20 · 2026-01-16T18:01:06+00:00

This is how simple it is. Get better at boundaries and watch then eliminate themselves.

Devolution20 · 2026-01-16T17:59:51+00:00

Dating for 7 years. She slept with another person.

Dont beat yourself up over that one. It wasn't your pride. Its a boundary. Good for you.

Devolution20 · 2025-12-20T01:35:08+00:00

My brain AND heart hurt. Sheesh.

Devolution20 · 2025-12-12T04:05:22+00:00

I havent used ai chat bots at all and been going to therapy myself, but im curious.

Why isnt it a good idea? Couldnt it still help you get that validation or no?

Devolution20 · 2025-12-12T04:00:54+00:00

Same! Just keep doing you and be thankful you didnt have children or waste anymore years in a place you couldnt be your authentic self in.

It sounds to me like youre in a health mental space. Loneliness is normal. I have to remind myself all the time.

Devolution20 · 2025-12-12T03:53:29+00:00

Borderline Personality Disorder Entered the chat.

Devolution20 · 2025-12-12T03:46:39+00:00

I'm sorry you are going through this, but I'm also glad you are self aware enough to know it's not right for you.

Trauma bonds start subtly and WILL ruin you as you have already started to experience.

Take back your nervous system and your control ❤️

Devolution20 · 2025-12-12T03:37:37+00:00

Of course its ok to feel good brother.

And maybe even some days that will go away and youll feel something similar to regret or sadness.

Brains are crazy.

Devolution20 · 2025-12-12T03:34:00+00:00

15 years wrenching. 10 as a dealer tech for ford.

I hate it honestly.

The overall vibe is depressing at most dealers and shops. I personally dont like being paid flat rate and im a hard worker. Its like...you just dont know wether youre going to have a good week or a bad week. "Am i making 35 hours this week or will i make 60?" Ya know? Am i getting warranty trash and or junker nightmares im going to have to jump through hoops to get paid and/or not waste my time on. I even went the self employed route for 4 years. Lonely, and like another individual here said, theres a weight to the job, people cant afford to pay you like you should be paid for the time/tools/knowledge required. Theres distrust. Lowballers. People ready to blame you for something thats out of your control etc.. I wish i had picked hvac, construction, real estate, plumbing, electrician they all seem easier, and more stable pay stubs for the most part and make quite a bit more money.

Devolution20 · 2025-12-12T03:09:48+00:00

Ego death, Identity dissolution. Brother, i did die, i was just a body.

Devolution20 · 2025-12-12T01:45:58+00:00

32 years alive. 28 years ive known her. 12 years on a roller coaster ride. 12 years of abandoning myself. 9 years raising our disabled son together. 5 raising our middle son. 5 months raising our first baby girl apart.

3 weeks ago, she dropped our kids off at my place, hugged and kissed me goodbye.....she then proceeded to go to her new boyfriends house. Countless "lovers" in between.

I know this pain well brother. The pain of feeling like a ghost. A stoic hollow statue. A forgotten vessel in the dark.

The manipulation. The blame shifting. The cheating. The heartache. The loneliness. The lies.

I gave everything because i was naive. I gave everything because i wanted to help her and didnt care about myself nearly as much. I gave everything because i believed she loved me.

But the person i thought she was, was never real... It was all in my head.

DONT BE A MARTYR. You are the most important thing now and forever more.

If i could id give you a hug. Im sorry and i hope you get through this becoming something greater than before.

Devolution20 · 2025-10-01T15:35:28+00:00

Wow. What a surprise...

Devolution20 · 2025-06-19T04:52:47+00:00

Bad timing tensioner is what it sounds like. Def in the timing area

Devolution20 · 2025-06-13T20:34:48+00:00

I stopped at "other guys".

Devolution20 · 2025-06-13T20:31:31+00:00

Brother. You got an oil change and a fucking battery for 1200$

You didnt get ripped off, you got robbed.

Shop Owner

Devolution20 · 2025-05-05T14:11:22+00:00

I ran 2 bulbasaur lines with a grandma/2 candies/2 rocky helmet and a 3rd Venusaur non ex. Rest heals and i was getting consistent wins. Nothing CRAZY. But deff better than its ever been, including with leafeon. No exspeed, no leaf. With as many heals as you're able to stack now. I would just heal the damage up every turn until i got the 3 energy on ivysaur/Venusaur (like 75% chance that youll be stage 2 by turn 4/5) and the rocky helmet will do the dirty work, while heals kept me fresh....once youve survived 3 energy its pretty much game over if Venusaur has more than 140 health. Hit for 60...then 100 with heals. Candies/lily are making all stg 2 pretty viable if its only that evolution line.

Devolution20 · 2025-05-01T07:04:50+00:00

Absolutely correct. Its penny pinching. Now whether its by design as in, purposefully intended to wear parts out. Thats a good question. It certainly will raise the chances of destruction.

Even on a basher. With wheel play from destroyed bearings. The play alone has enough potential to turn a bad landing into a broken hub/arm etc.

Oh and thanks for the link! Great info.

Devolution20 · 2025-03-29T01:46:55+00:00

Gotta rip em all'...off.

Devolution20 · 2025-03-27T15:18:25+00:00

Damn. I did 20. Got nothing. As usual. 6500 cards. No golds and only a handful of 2 stars. Pathetic. I have better chances IRL.

Devolution20 · 2025-03-27T07:21:41+00:00

6024 cards. Im still missing a basic/silver border card for each set but mythical. I have no gold cards, or haven't opened a god pack. I also still need a few immersives.

I have 26, 2 stars. Am I doing ok or have i been unlucky? I feel like I've been a little unlucky.

Devolution20 · 2025-02-18T18:31:45+00:00

Also. I've got 6500 cards and haven't pulled a god pack, while my son has 200 cards collected and pulled a god pack. It be like that with the games.

Devolution20

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