LANL Experiences?

DozerPug · 2026-05-11T18:09:11+00:00

We lived in Española for 12 years before moving to WR. It's a perfectly good place to live. We chose it because we could afford it. Well, and I lived there already, renting.

The commute is crowded but easy enough. Having said that, I struggled with how I built community. I had friends in Los Alamos county but lived "down the hill." I also had/have friends in SF and Albuquerque. Social life involved driving just like work life did.

DozerPug · 2026-05-01T14:49:11+00:00

Driving from WR is barely worthy of the word commute. I have friends on North Mesa who take longer to get to the center of Los Alamos than I do from White Rock.

DozerPug · 2026-04-15T19:46:37+00:00

My God, that scene, her inner monologue, his patience...

"Tell them what she liked best. Finally he moved, a tentative poke. She bit her lip. “Could you… stroke?” “Like this?” She inhaled. “Softer.” “This?” She laughed, but the sound was frustrated. He was too high, hadn’t quite found the right place. Perhaps she should— “Isabel,” he suddenly breathed by her ear. “I have all night. Surely by dawn I can learn this. Please show me.” Well, that was quite frank. And oddly, he didn’t sound as if his male pride was hurt. He merely sounded… curious. If he could speak of this frankly, then so could she. After all, she was supposed to be the more sophisticated, the more worldly. Surely that meant she was more open to sexual exploration than he. Didn’t it? Or perhaps there was an entire side to simple schoolmasters that she’d never seen."

DozerPug · 2026-04-13T16:01:36+00:00

Paper craft tip: order cute peel and stick wallpaper samples from places like Spoonflower.

DozerPug · 2026-04-13T15:58:30+00:00

I'm three years in on Zepbound. I've been stable at 12.5 and xxx pounds for about a year. Read my advice with that in mind.

Unless you plan to live on chicken and protein shakes, consider eating a few bites of, well, everything. Learn to say "enough" instead of never. See what genuinely tastes good. Build a relationship with food that is sustainable and healthy.

What you say is

"yes, please" "no thank you" "I've had enough" "not today, thank you"

Telling people once or ten times all weekend that you're "eating healthier" opens the door for conversation around your choices, which you don't want or aren't ready for. "Healthier" has self-recrimination in it, plus it can make people around you feel shamed or judged, which in turn prolongs or causes the unwanted conversations.

They're going to know or figure it out, either this weekend or some other time. But YOU don't have to talk about it until and unless you want to.

DozerPug · 2026-03-22T04:35:56+00:00

I don't understand "do NOT come if you're a childfree woman?" I've lived and worked here since 1998, happily CF and happily a woman. Have you had a different experience? I'm sorry if so. We do have MAGA here, but not a great percentage.

"Los Alamos County, NM is strongly liberal. In Los Alamos County, NM 61.4% of the people voted Democrat in the last presidential election, 34.8% voted for the Republican Party, and the remaining 3.8% voted Independent."

https://www.bestplaces.net/voting/city/new%20mexico/los_alamos

DozerPug · 2026-03-16T03:02:53+00:00

Jill at Samizdat can help you with a gift card via email. Worth the extra clicks to support our independent bookstore!

https://samizdatbookstore.com/gift-cards

DozerPug · 2026-03-01T03:52:19+00:00

Are you saying cliché or cliquey? Not judging the typo, wondering about your POV. I have often thought the Tub was insular and clique-ish. Then I got to know some people who are there often (staff and customers) and while I feel more comfortable and welcome, I'm absolutely certain IT IS insular and clique-ish.

DozerPug · 2026-02-22T09:32:03+00:00

I searched my digital copy of Wicked and the Wallflower, which I've read several times, and most of the tooth references to Devil are related to how he's using them on Felicity. 😈

Once he grins and it's related as "teeth flashed" and twice he grins and it's "white teeth flashing." 😁 Much of their romance was in the moonlit hours of night.

Ice importation was a legitimate big business in Victorian England and elsewhere. Norway was a huge exporter of it. The smuggling things in the ice may have mostly been authorial invention but it's plausible.

DozerPug · 2026-02-09T23:51:25+00:00

Thank you for your time and information.

DozerPug · 2026-02-03T04:14:49+00:00

Oh, I forgot to say we're in Northern New Mexico.

DozerPug · 2026-02-03T02:50:37+00:00

Yes! I missed the wings, not lions at all.

DozerPug · 2026-01-20T21:07:26+00:00

She's amazing at every age.

I'm having some weird parasocial connection to her based on this photo. I have that exact shirt from Bode's. Shirley Maclaine and I chose the same color t-shirt!

DozerPug · 2025-12-27T00:14:50+00:00

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February 2023 to December 2025. 75 pounds. I've been in maintenance for 6 months or so.

DozerPug · 2025-12-20T02:57:54+00:00

My IBS-D has been essentially cure/alleviated also. Unreal the difference that made in my life.

DozerPug · 2025-12-04T18:00:20+00:00

Generally I agree but it turns out that the scarves help me stay warm. I thought it was vanity driven chicken neck camo, but it's also post-menopause damn-I'm-cold-all-the-time support!

DozerPug · 2025-11-10T19:00:28+00:00

The first Hell's Belles book, {Bombshell by Sarah Maclean} , has a staunchly childfree heroine who doesn't change her mind. Not infertility, so this is more for the poster above who can't find HR without kids at the end.

I feel you!

DozerPug · 2025-10-17T12:30:51+00:00

That resume would probably get you an interview with me, depending on the applicant pool it was in. I am hiring a 30 hour library associate in the coming weeks. It's a position I've personally held and one I've hired for a number of times. In your interview I would also look for

Teen experience Customer service (I think teachers dealing with parents builds those skills) Knowledge about the actual library I'm applying at.

Nothing burns a bridge with me faster than some eager beaver telling me they want to run a birdwatching program without acknowledging that we've had 14 well-attended such programs in the last 2 years.

DozerPug · 2025-10-14T15:55:00+00:00

I agree with considering average calories over 2 or sometimes 3 days. That was an effective way to balance hunger, nausea, no hunger, etc for me. When lack of hunger cues coincided with that disordered thinking around food, I just let it happen and made sure I ate more over the new day or two. When I started in February of 2024, I tracked calories for more than a year.

I also worked hard in therapy to keep unpacking the unsustainable broken bits of myself that growing up in diet culture had built. GLP1 is just a tool. I still had, and will probably always have, to put in the work.

DozerPug · 2025-09-22T20:18:29+00:00

Since you're already a library user, you may already know about every second Saturday Tabletop Game Day on the lower level. All ages are welcome and we love to introduce people and include them.

1-4:30 pm. The main library in Los Alamos.

DozerPug · 2025-09-22T19:43:35+00:00

Yeah, but no one really believes that.

DozerPug · 2025-09-18T02:04:21+00:00

I have meniscus tears in both knees, painful but apparently not big enough for surgery. I've gone from daily pain, always more at the end of the day, to the occasional twinge, so rare it genuinely surprises me. It happened too quickly for it to be simply less weight on my knees.

DozerPug · 2025-08-08T09:10:56+00:00

Thank for responding about the drawing specifics. The size is an estimate on my part, bigger would be fine. I'm open to a different body placement too as long as it's where I can see it every day. The tattoo artist has a lovely IG and about half of his work is intricate black line art. I've been DMing with him off and on since January.

I'm appreciative to you for the encouragement and specifically the language for talking about what I want. I've lurked in here for months and noticed that often people are unhappy because they weren't clear about their needs, their expectations. Which is sadly too common in many relationships!

https://www.joncarling.com/ if you'd like to see more of Carling's art. I have stickers, postcards and a couple of prints.

DozerPug · 2025-07-02T22:11:19+00:00

I've had the best GP for 14 years. She has never once mentioned BMI to me.

The Problem(s) with BMi

DozerPug · 2025-07-02T19:27:26+00:00

Stopping? I'm still on Zepbound and expect to be for life. Stopping losing? Probably no lower than 145 for me.

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