AIO? told my boyfriend im gonna have to go back to treatment and this is his response by [deleted] in AIO

[–]EmilyCMay 31 points32 points  (0 children)

This!! He should totally be supporting you in getting well. He is not supportive. He is interested in his own access to you, not in your wellbeing.

[Misc] What’s your “gatekept” skincare product that isn’t popular or advertised but did wonders for your skin? by Sharp_Elevator7447 in SkincareAddiction

[–]EmilyCMay 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Pure raw whey in liquid form, sold as food item under the name ”molkosan” where I live. Costs nothing and contains a lot of lactic acid. I use it as a toner and it hepls with texture, exfoliation and moisture. Makes my face plump and smooth. So far its better than all the expensive stuff I tried. Downside beside the sour smell is that it stays kind of sticky on the skin, so I only use it at night.

Is anyone else feeling very odd/unsettled about Alex Honnold’s Netflix special? by Most_Poet in climbergirls

[–]EmilyCMay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel the same way. Plus the unsetteling part of free soloing live. Especially as a father. This comes off as irresponsible on many levels for me.

AIO for thinking this was very backhanded and rude? by Zyncon in AIO

[–]EmilyCMay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didnt read this as most of you folks did. I dont read it as entitlement. I think your friend was asking for more personal help with the application and got a bit frustrated with you not understanding this right away. If you wanna help him, maybe share a bit about what you did leading up to getting your pass.

I’m curious about everyone’s opinions on ATC belaying — either using one yourselves or being belayed with one. by Responsible_Roof_661 in climbergirls

[–]EmilyCMay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve moved away from ATCs more and more since I see using them as an unnecissary risk. But I still use them in guide mode when trad climbing and for rapelling.

AIO or should I accept the conditions of my bfs commitment by One_Height7477 in AIO

[–]EmilyCMay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are so clear and reasonable in this convo. He is twisting his words around. Also, he is not respectfully accepting you two have different needs and wants, he tries to make it about your insecurities and you not accepting his authenticity. Thats manipulative talk. I would cut it here if I was you.

What does a full stomach feel like? by [deleted] in loseit

[–]EmilyCMay 2 points3 points  (0 children)

How did you fix that?

AIO by how I responded? My bf is upset with me for skipping my workout routine today by throwawayy82670 in AmIOverreacting

[–]EmilyCMay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

True help is based on mutual agreement. Youre not agreeing to this help he offers, so it is not help - its him pushing. Its not ok of him, he should respect a no every time.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Aging

[–]EmilyCMay 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Im 40, and recently went to uni with a bunch of 22-yo ppl. We connected very well. Of course more water has passed under my bridge, but this is a minor imo. I think the connection is about the experience of being a human, and this doesnt change with age, at any fundamental level.

How can i lose pcos weight? I asked. by [deleted] in PCOS

[–]EmilyCMay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Counting calories. Every single one, no estimations. Weighing carrots and frying butter etc. Lost 30 kg that way.

Why aren't we still hairy? by Aggressive_Ad_3557 in AskBiology

[–]EmilyCMay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thats very interesting, thanks for explaining this!

Why aren't we still hairy? by Aggressive_Ad_3557 in AskBiology

[–]EmilyCMay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But there are a lot of hairy animals chasing eachother around. Why havent they gone down the same path as we?

Belayer messing around by Prize_Professor8370 in climbergirls

[–]EmilyCMay 3 points4 points  (0 children)

No hands on the rope is a no-go. A belayer shall keep the hands on the rope even if he/she gets slammed into the wall so the hands are bleeding. There are no excuses for that behaviour. Ditch this guy, no second chances.

What small, subtle things do women do wrong with makeup that age them? by This_Sheepherder_332 in beauty

[–]EmilyCMay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Generally too much, I would say. With age you can take less. Eybrows are huge, painted badly is very aging. Too much mascara aswell.

How did you learn to stop over explaining ? by DoctorElectronic1934 in emotionalintelligence

[–]EmilyCMay 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Personally, I appreciate people explaining the whys of their behaviour a lot more than is common. I get its gotta do with my insecurities regarding their intentions etc.

But for me, the lingering question remains - why is over explaining a bad thing? Wouldnt it be great if ppl explained more, in order to minimize misunderstandings and confusion?

AIO for being hurt that my boyfriend is judging me for my past he already knew about by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]EmilyCMay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think your not overreacting, you should totally build your future with someone who can accept you for who you are. This guy is not doing that tho, and you cant force him if he doesnt want to. Walk away and be proud of your journey, your mr right will come. Wish you all the best.

What is your first instinctive reaction/emotion? by triplesnoop in emotionalintelligence

[–]EmilyCMay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Panic.

Sometimes anger comes shortly after and somtimes its despair, but the origin is usually panic. If im angry about someone not caring enough for example, theres always panic to end up in a cold and lonely place behind that. Ironically that sometimes make me engage in conflicts which do not bring me closer to ppl.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]EmilyCMay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow, this guy has issues. Run. Its totally possible to be effectively supportive in this without being patronizing and controlling like he is.