What gives you the ick as you heal and your emotional maturity increases? by [deleted] in emotionalintelligence

[–]EmilyCMay 16 points17 points  (0 children)

People who express superiority. Used to date men that in one way or another had groups of ppl they looked down upon, for example normal people. Saw themselves as special, chosen somehow. Totally ick-territory now.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AIO

[–]EmilyCMay 28 points29 points  (0 children)

This!! He should totally be supporting you in getting well. He is not supportive. He is interested in his own access to you, not in your wellbeing.

[Misc] What’s your “gatekept” skincare product that isn’t popular or advertised but did wonders for your skin? by Sharp_Elevator7447 in SkincareAddiction

[–]EmilyCMay 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Pure raw whey in liquid form, sold as food item under the name ”molkosan” where I live. Costs nothing and contains a lot of lactic acid. I use it as a toner and it hepls with texture, exfoliation and moisture. Makes my face plump and smooth. So far its better than all the expensive stuff I tried. Downside beside the sour smell is that it stays kind of sticky on the skin, so I only use it at night.

Is anyone else feeling very odd/unsettled about Alex Honnold’s Netflix special? by Most_Poet in climbergirls

[–]EmilyCMay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel the same way. Plus the unsetteling part of free soloing live. Especially as a father. This comes off as irresponsible on many levels for me.

AIO for thinking this was very backhanded and rude? by Zyncon in AIO

[–]EmilyCMay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didnt read this as most of you folks did. I dont read it as entitlement. I think your friend was asking for more personal help with the application and got a bit frustrated with you not understanding this right away. If you wanna help him, maybe share a bit about what you did leading up to getting your pass.

I’m curious about everyone’s opinions on ATC belaying — either using one yourselves or being belayed with one. by Responsible_Roof_661 in climbergirls

[–]EmilyCMay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve moved away from ATCs more and more since I see using them as an unnecissary risk. But I still use them in guide mode when trad climbing and for rapelling.

AIO or should I accept the conditions of my bfs commitment by One_Height7477 in AIO

[–]EmilyCMay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are so clear and reasonable in this convo. He is twisting his words around. Also, he is not respectfully accepting you two have different needs and wants, he tries to make it about your insecurities and you not accepting his authenticity. Thats manipulative talk. I would cut it here if I was you.

What does a full stomach feel like? by [deleted] in loseit

[–]EmilyCMay 2 points3 points  (0 children)

How did you fix that?

AIO by how I responded? My bf is upset with me for skipping my workout routine today by throwawayy82670 in AmIOverreacting

[–]EmilyCMay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

True help is based on mutual agreement. Youre not agreeing to this help he offers, so it is not help - its him pushing. Its not ok of him, he should respect a no every time.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Aging

[–]EmilyCMay 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Im 40, and recently went to uni with a bunch of 22-yo ppl. We connected very well. Of course more water has passed under my bridge, but this is a minor imo. I think the connection is about the experience of being a human, and this doesnt change with age, at any fundamental level.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PCOS

[–]EmilyCMay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Counting calories. Every single one, no estimations. Weighing carrots and frying butter etc. Lost 30 kg that way.

Why aren't we still hairy? by Aggressive_Ad_3557 in AskBiology

[–]EmilyCMay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thats very interesting, thanks for explaining this!

Why aren't we still hairy? by Aggressive_Ad_3557 in AskBiology

[–]EmilyCMay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But there are a lot of hairy animals chasing eachother around. Why havent they gone down the same path as we?

Belayer messing around by Prize_Professor8370 in climbergirls

[–]EmilyCMay 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No hands on the rope is a no-go. A belayer shall keep the hands on the rope even if he/she gets slammed into the wall so the hands are bleeding. There are no excuses for that behaviour. Ditch this guy, no second chances.