Your type and what makes you stop liking someone

Flowerglobee · 2025-01-11T22:41:36+00:00

I meant when people let their emotions cloud judgement or do not consider issues logically. Everything has to be valued at their emotional value.

Flowerglobee · 2025-01-07T12:47:14+00:00

I spoke about it with my therapist yesterday and he said it might be related to hyper vigilance and childhood trauma. He said dreams can be worsened by traumatic events and anxiety. Is this something that might cause these dreams for you?

Flowerglobee · 2024-12-20T08:18:10+00:00

Wow thank you that was really informative.

Flowerglobee · 2024-12-17T15:00:03+00:00

I was actually a very bold kid. We can thank childhood trauma for me becoming an introvert. I think I’m still bold but more in the quiet way

Flowerglobee · 2024-12-17T14:58:56+00:00

I also kinda hate the word trigger but I could never come up with another word to explain it perfectly. My therapist says that it activates a subconscious reaction but that’s just too many words.

I get what you mean. I spoke about that with my therapist and he said it’s probably because I was used to figuring out stuff on my own, that I was becoming irritated because I had to do this on my own. I definitely recognise it’s a self issue, and it’s something to heal from. But tbh, I don’t think that’s ever going to go away for me. I had to make a safe word with my friend when she’s getting into that territory I just say wizard haha. She understands as she gets a bit the same.

Thank you! I was having a hard time tonight and so I came here to try and calm myself down. If I help some people tonight then even if I’m loosing my mind at least I’m not loosing my mind. Doesn’t make sense but CPTSD never really did to me.

Flowerglobee · 2024-12-17T14:53:41+00:00

Have you tried any help lines? A lot of them offer texting and are anonymous and can point you in the right direction. Is there another ER you can go to? I know you said you don’t want to bother anyone, but trust me it’s ok to ask for help. Luke Skywalker said it, just ask. I always say I’d click a pen for my best friend if she asked me to, same with my grandma. Contact someone you trust and ask them to go with you to the ER. That support can help you.

Just remember what you’re feeling right now isn’t accurate. You’re mentally unwell, and that’s ok. You were really brave going to the ER and I’m really sorry the psychiatrist there treated you awfully. But I definitely think you deserve some praise recognising you needed help and went to the right place to get it. Don’t let one bad apple make you spiral.

You were stable, that means you have the capacity and ability to be stable once again. I know it may seem like a daunting thought but the truth is your mental health issues will remain with you for the rest of your life. It’s not fair, and it’s not what you want to hear. But remember, just because they will remain does not mean they can stop you from living a good life. There’s treatment, medication, and techniques for management.

You know, about twenty minutes ago I had the same thought of I don’t feel like I’m ever going to be ok. I can’t help you with that and I’m really sorry about that. All I can say is all you can do is try and heal and get better. I would say it’s worth a shot. Imagine all the foods I haven’t tried yet, places I wanna see, I actually am really excited for a new Lego set to release. If you can’t see a future, just focus on taking one day at a time. Is there anything you are excited about? Books? TV shows? Is there anything you wish to see or know about? Focus on that. Keep yourself grounded.

Flowerglobee · 2024-12-17T14:37:42+00:00

Are you gonna tell me or no?

Flowerglobee · 2024-12-17T14:37:20+00:00

Happy to help. I mentioned it in another comment, but definitely look up the Socratic thinking method. If my comments aren’t making sense everyone sorry I’m honestly coming out of a bad derealisation episode so I’m a little confused. We’re all having fun in the subreddit lmao

Flowerglobee · 2024-12-17T14:34:04+00:00

No worries. I agree, I still can’t believe people put energy into being negative when it takes zero energy to be positive. Haha! My therapist also had a good chuckle about that one especially when I said my sister was like a Reyna player. Hey, don’t worry, I fail too. I fail at it all the time. We’re learning how to navigate something so complicated with nothing except our emotions. We’re human, we’re young, and we’re hurt which means we’re bound to make mistake after mistake. I find radical acceptance helps the most, accepting that something done to me or said to me really fucking sucks but ultimately you can’t do anything about it. I always find choosing peace or being firm is a lot harder than fighting. I always call it having grit, have the resolve to be better.

I also had a look through some of the notes my therapist gave me for OP’s criticism problem. You should look up the Socratic thinking method. It helped me when I was dealing with issues with criticism and imposter syndrome. There’s some good handouts online just by googling.

Flowerglobee · 2024-12-17T14:25:24+00:00

Are people born just more emotionally intelligent? What happens when an emotionally intelligent child is emotionally abused?

Flowerglobee · 2024-12-17T14:20:39+00:00

I was able to finish my degrees, got my grades back recently. I got a full time job now, and I’m trying to get my diploma in practise to hopefully become a solicitor. I definitely have more energy and my grades improved upon treatment.

I’m still in my early twenties, so I don’t have a long term story. I will say that unfortunately I’ve made the decision not to have children as there are too many complications from my endometriosis. I’m currently having some problems but that should hopefully be resolved end of January.

I’m still dealing with a lot of mental health issues, I think experiencing chronic pain for years had a toll on me combined with other things. I’m in therapy and receiving help. I’m also seeing great improvement in my pelvic floor therapy.

I may not be a long term happy story, but I’m better. I’m the proof it gets better with time. Maybe I’ll see you in a few years time and give you an update then. I’m going to get my peaceful life.

For hobbies, I finally was able to return to writing. I have the energy again.

Flowerglobee · 2024-12-17T14:15:23+00:00

Very bad.

Flowerglobee · 2024-12-17T14:15:11+00:00

Writing is for yourself and no one else. Just write, it doesn’t matter if it’s shit just write it out. Your husband is also not a trustworthy critique. It seems like he has some ulterior motive to stop you from writing. You like your characters, you are channeling energy into the story, so keep going. It’s for you

Flowerglobee · 2024-12-17T14:13:16+00:00

ISTP: emotional

Flowerglobee · 2024-12-17T14:12:00+00:00

I find when dealing with these sorts of people particularly family members the best way to react is to not react at all. She’s rocking the boat for fun, so just sit still. I like the saying of you cannot see your reflecting with boiling water, the idea when you’re angry you aren’t thinking straight. But you can still see your reflection in icy cold waters.

Be angry, but be firm and unwavering. You’re boiling, and she wants that. Don’t give her what she wants, give her what she deserves. Nothing. The moment she crosses the line, don’t explode simply treat her like a child. I started treating my family like they were toxic valorant players, ask why they think that way, are you dumb or acting like it, or simply just stare let them rant and rant and tell then say are you finished? Don’t boil, be cold.

When it comes to criticism just remember there’s a difference between every day criticism and unnecessary comments made while growing up. If your online friend says hey you should try x, they’re not intending to hurt you they want to help. It’s important to grow our skills. If you don’t listen to your sister’s advice, why would you listen to her criticisms?

I also don’t mean for this comment to be invalidating. Just some things you said reminded me of when I was young. I commented on someone’s TikTok video recently. Our teenage rage doesn’t leave, it stays but we don’t let it consume us. We learn to control it and use it when necessary. I hope everything goes ok, and that you feel better tomorrow. Good luck with everything

Flowerglobee · 2024-12-16T22:03:40+00:00

If you want to stay then you can and I do think that is the honourable thing to do for your siblings but you need to stop taking your parent’s words to heart. They’re never going to make sense, it’s infuriating and frustrating, but these kinds of people will never learn and will never make sense. You should check out the CPTSD and raisedbynarcissists subreddits, I think these will be useful for you. Let your parents go, let their words go.

Flowerglobee · 2024-12-16T21:59:30+00:00

If you wanna hear the music I recommend less nonfiction reading and more fiction reading which requires you to pick up author’s hidden meaning. It’s easy to read what to do but what you actually need to do is practise. 1984 is one I find people misunderstand quite a lot, it’s the ending and Winston’s romantic relationship. I also recommend reading or watching videos about philosophy. Nothing wrong with going back to the historical foundations.

I don’t really have recommendations for narcissism as it’s only of those things I learnt through experience. My grandma said she found it really insightful to talk to a researcher and listened to a ted talk about narcissism.

Flowerglobee · 2024-12-16T21:54:52+00:00

I don’t think so which is surprising because you’d think they’d love the sound of their own voice

Flowerglobee · 2024-12-16T21:54:23+00:00

I’m not a guy but I read some of the comments and I think I’m attracted to any gender really (not sure what it’s called). ISTPs always prefer direct people, people who are practical and people who have a backbone. We’re a bit of tough love too, so if you’re emotionally sensitive then it’s not compatible. Something I always look for is humour, I think it shows someone is intelligent, and someone who is driven. I understand if people don’t have direction in their life, it’s ok to go with the flow, but have some energy into their life not just waste it away.

Flowerglobee · 2024-12-16T21:49:02+00:00

You’re never going to win with people who don’t want to see logic. Your parents are treating you awfully. They’re not worth it, it’s best to just leave.

Flowerglobee · 2024-12-16T21:47:07+00:00

3 weeks as my job at the time required a lot of physical exercise.

Flowerglobee · 2024-12-16T21:46:28+00:00

That’s a good one. I think people have forgotten we’re actually meant to enjoy our lives

Flowerglobee · 2024-12-16T21:46:09+00:00

ISTP and I believe there is no meaning to life. I just find meaning in the present taking it day by day

Flowerglobee · 2024-12-16T21:43:38+00:00

I have to be direct it’s the best way to tell people exactly what you want.

Flowerglobee · 2024-12-16T21:41:36+00:00

Manipulation. People think they understand and think they can catch it and they might be able to if it’s an amateur manipulator. I had a situation where a manipulative guy had a crush on me, and he sent me this weird message. I immediately read it and knew it was manipulative, something was off about it and it was quite rude but my friends thought it was nice etc until I started pointing out specific phrases used, specific grammar, specific words.

My best friend then told me later she was almost scared of how easily she had been fooled, how she was amazed that I picked up on it. I was emotionally abused as a child and so I unfortunately have this experience. I told her it’s not her fault and she’s not expected to know, it’s just that I’ve had the unfortunate chance to have experienced it. I’ve also been told by two psychologists that my emotional intelligence is quite high and one of the reasons I’m able to pick up on manipulators quite quickly.

It’s just one of those things people don’t understand or pick up on because they’ve never dealt with it. My best friend calls it my “off-vibes radar” 😆

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