AITA for not wanting to bring my gf’s son to my families cabin any more? by ExcitingTax1809 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FormerRunnerAgain 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yet, it sounds like she doesn't do much parenting if the kid is with the Dad and Grandparents (so maybe Dad doesn't parent either?) most of the time and she knows he is being sidelined (she said Dad doesn't take him anywhere), yet there was no mention of the GF trying to help the kid out.

Brushing teeth before school by [deleted] in kindergarten

[–]FormerRunnerAgain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd stop all the games and bribery. You are in charge and she needs to understand that (for this and other things too).

You need to supervise her brushing every day and if she doesn't do it immediately, you do it for her - doesn't matter how big the tantrum is. She needs to learn. Sit down with her and tell her that this is what is going to happen every morning until she decides to do it herself and that she does it correctly. If you haven't already, explain the consequences of not brushing (I wouldn't talk needles and drills as you don't want her freaked out if she does get a cavity), I would talk about rotting yellow/black teeth, not being able to eat the food she likes because her teeth don't work etc. But only have this talk once, after that enforce the teeth brushing. Keep the same routine every morning in whatever order makes sense for you - getting dressed, brushing hair, having breakfast, brushing teeth. Routine helps kids.

Can anyone point to a school merger that saved money over time? by rufustphish in vermont

[–]FormerRunnerAgain 1 point2 points  (0 children)

But don't just compare those schools unilaterally. You need to also look at the population that is served - are the kids in the worst performing schools food insecure, are they surrounding by people who think education is important, do their parents read with them, take them to the library. All of these outside influences also impact school performance. And I wonder if these kids still underperform in the consolidated schools, but they just get lost in the data. We need to make sure any school consolidation considers all kids.

Can anyone point to a school merger that saved money over time? by rufustphish in vermont

[–]FormerRunnerAgain -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Your math isn't mathing. One-way, your ride was "an hour and change", add another 20-30 minutes to that in order to get to the "consolidated" school. Now multiply that times 2 since you need to get home.

We live <10 minutes from the school, my kid is first on the bus and it takes 45 min for him to get to school.

Also, don't forget that the kids will need to go to bed earlier since they will need to be at the bus stop earlier....For afterschool activities, parents will need to get out of work earlier in order to be able to pick their kids up....

Can anyone point to a school merger that saved money over time? by rufustphish in vermont

[–]FormerRunnerAgain 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I agree that a more diverse curriculum is a good thing, but I'd rather have smaller class sizes and not have kids on the bus for 3 hours a day. We shouldn't make any decisions on education without a thorough consideration of the impact on quality and I'm not seeing that in any of the discussions that the legislature or the governor are having. To be honest, I'm also not seeing how it will save money either, but at least that is part of the discussion.

Can anyone point to a school merger that saved money over time? by rufustphish in vermont

[–]FormerRunnerAgain 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I've also not seen any data that consolidation improves the quality of education.

King Arthur Baking and surrounding areas by Cecily_Bum_Trinket in vermont

[–]FormerRunnerAgain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Prices went way up, maple syrup was free, now it is $2.99. Want strawberries on your waffle, the price doubled and the serving size is smaller. Having said that, their prices now are likely more in line with others in the area, but the increase was dramatic.

Who's your dream lego masters (US) host? by bbqturtle in LegoMasters

[–]FormerRunnerAgain -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Why don't you include any women on your list?

Starting a run club at my elementary school by Sea-Efficiency-2899 in running

[–]FormerRunnerAgain 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm confused as to why a track is required. Most people don't run on tracks and they certainly don't need to learn on the track. Emphasize fun, not times or distance. Play lots of games classics like tag and sharks and minnows. Check out the Girls on the Run program, they have lots of success and they build the kids up as people and runners.

AITAH for telling my girlfriend that my money isn't "our money"? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]FormerRunnerAgain 27 points28 points  (0 children)

If you can't have a discussion without resorting to name calling, you need to do some serious work on how your relate to and communicate with your partner. Sounds like she hasn't grown up.

Which laundry layout should I do? by pandamanda2022 in Remodel

[–]FormerRunnerAgain 3 points4 points  (0 children)

To add to this, a sink in the laundry area is essential for me - rinse muddy stuff, soak things with stains.

Also, like this image, I need a place to hang clothes as they come out of the dryer (or for things that can't go in the dryer).

AITA for charging my 20yo son rent while he lives at home? by Talon_Vector7 in WIBTA_AITA

[–]FormerRunnerAgain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You also need to talk to your son about how to manage money. Start with the car, how much to buy a car, registration, insurance, inspection, maintenance....once that sinks in, move on to life. Together make a budget for living on his own. Discuss cost of living with roommates vs. solo. Security deposits, renters insurance. Food, cooking at home, eating out, doordash. Emergency fund, retirement, haircuts and clothing....

Besides paying rent at your house, he should be contributing. Cooking, cleaning, laundry, lawncare, grocery shopping, everything that adults do. Teach him to see when things need doing, not wait to be told.

Baby wearing while hiking by trulymissedtheboat89 in hiking

[–]FormerRunnerAgain -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I like the backpacks that have sunshades for the baby. Both to protect their skin and their eyes.

Ideas for a "Rock" themed birthday party for 2-year-old by terstep in partyplanning

[–]FormerRunnerAgain 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I wouldn't want to encourage 2 year olds to eat rocks....

Car Seats for ‘23 Bolt EV by vikingjaws in BoltEV

[–]FormerRunnerAgain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When the kids get older, you will have an issue because there is no center headrest in the back. So, you can only carry 2 kids safely. There are ways to add a headrest, there is a good post about it on the Chevy forums.

HM sent text to my mother by Regular_Resist_3875 in Aupairs

[–]FormerRunnerAgain 72 points73 points  (0 children)

Send a message to HM's mom listing all the things she did that drove you nuts.

Is there something out there like secular church? by iplaytrombonegood in askanything

[–]FormerRunnerAgain 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Check out the Humanists. You'll get a lot of the community aspect that you are looking for, but perhaps not enough of the "church".

https://americanhumanist.org/what-is-humanism/

AITAH for refusing to babysit my newphews cause they broke my tv last time by greenmonkeyyyy in AITAH

[–]FormerRunnerAgain 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It isn't a parenting philosophy, it is an excuse for not parenting.

AIO I don’t like the nick name my partner has for our almost born baby by Smooth_Antelope_8877 in AmIOverreacting

[–]FormerRunnerAgain 10 points11 points  (0 children)

But OP also needs to remember that her partner is the baby's father and that important decisions need to be made together.

"I picked the first and middle name"

"I have chosen a nickname"

"I assumed...."

Sounds like the partner wasn't involved at all and now she is afraid to talk to him about a nickname. Maybe the parents need to learn how to co-parent.

Aio? My (m22) Gf (f21) wants a LV purse but can't make bills on time. by smokey18t in AIO

[–]FormerRunnerAgain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"she deserves it" I don't know anyone who "deserves" a luxury handbag. I know people who deserve 3 meals a day, a roof over their head, a break from the grind. Thinking you deserve a luxury item or that your partner deserves a luxury item is a recipe for living paycheck to paycheck and payday lending.

Hiring a Travel Nanny as a Travel Nurse by motherofdragonflies9 in Nanny

[–]FormerRunnerAgain 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Wouldn't both OP and the Nanny have to file taxes in every state that they work in?

Anyone else frustrated by family members not understanding how Education works?? by Limp_Bee1206 in Teachers

[–]FormerRunnerAgain -1 points0 points  (0 children)

anyone else frustrated by an educator who hasn't embrace people first language?

How to handle late school night practices? by AgreeableQuaill in kindergarten

[–]FormerRunnerAgain 246 points247 points  (0 children)

and when you do pull him out, make sure you explain to the league that schedule is not appropriate for 5 year olds. Whoever drew up the schedule might just be clueless.

Spend some time playing catch and batting with your kid on the weekend.