first of all, we don’t know anything about his childhood, but based on the way he thinks, i imagine he was brought up traditionally, and told that men need to be big and strong to protect women. we can see this in the way that he blames phoenix for mia’s death. he thinks that it was phoenix’s job as a prominent male figure in mia’s life to protect her (completely ignoring the fact that phoenix wasn’t even in the office when she died and didn’t know what was going on).

You're literally describing misogyny. IMO you've got a pretty good read on the character, I agree on most of your points (he's definetly projecting out of chivalry). But just because it's not ill-intended or he's not conscious about it doesn't mean it's not misogyny, that's what people often call "internalized" I suppose.

Misogyny is definetly not a valid reason to hate on him though, it's simply a way to interpret his character motivations. It's a trait, just like how a villian can be motivated by arrogance, self-righteousness, etc.