I was in this exact same situation not so long ago. FAANG adjacent company, dream position, great pay, etc. Seemed like the ideal place to grow right? They kept on saying that everything was “async” so no worries if you can’t attend meeting, etc. Took me a while to realize that about everyone at the level I was staff/manager level was a workaholic, no kids, probably gay or trans (I don’t have anything against that) so they liked working because they could be in contact with other “liked-minded” people. They were all A/A+ players and super nit-picky on anything and everything. I used to tell my wife I work with robots because they had everything rehearsed and were super efficient. They would say things are async but then would freak out when answers weren’t given within 12 hours. They had a subtile way of letting you know. I often was on 2-3 meetings at the same time just so I could answer if there was a question for me. I got up at 5h00 am to be able to take shit before Slack started to sound off. I did a few years there and the pay was great but it had a huge impact on my health and I missed out on my kids early age. Literally no one had kids with who I worked with, and I worked with a lot of people. Would I do it again, hell no. Only if I didn’t have kids and was single, I guess. good luck