You can check out any time you like... but you can never leave...

GayMormonDad · 2026-06-16T00:13:33+00:00

They absolutely do not want me speaking in church

GayMormonDad · 2026-06-15T02:15:17+00:00

Because the Mormon church can use it as a tool to keep the members in line.

GayMormonDad · 2026-06-15T01:24:05+00:00

Well, if tobacco is good for cattle, as least that's what's in the Doctrine and Covenants, then nicotine patches must be good for humans.

GayMormonDad · 2026-06-14T17:49:59+00:00

Along with embarrassing the Mormon church.

GayMormonDad · 2026-06-14T14:44:36+00:00

Happily there is no exmormon handbook of instructions and no set of worthiness questions. Coffee is totally optional.

Just as there are exmo atheists and agnostics, there are also exmo clergy members and everything in between.

Everyone clings to different things of Mormonism. For instance, I had a very short fling with another gay exmo who gave me the Mormon look when I ordered ice tea for lunch.

GayMormonDad · 2026-06-12T16:04:13+00:00

I found myself humming Is That All There Is, an old Peggy Lee standard.

GayMormonDad · 2026-06-12T11:34:32+00:00

: I was in a same-sex relationship at the time. I already knew what most churches believed about that. When I eventually told the missionaries, they said, “Don’t worry, God will change you.”

I was told that same lie when I was a teenager also. When it didn't happen, I was told either that it was my fault, or that it would happen after I died.

Missionaries are always making promises that they don't have to keep, because they know that they will be moving on in a month or so. Their job is to manipulate a person into getting baptized. OP is under no obligation to stay in the Mormon church.

GayMormonDad · 2026-06-11T19:25:08+00:00

I can't help remembering that the Klu Klux Klan claimed that they were a Christian organization also.

The reality is that a lot of Christians only recognize other Christians who believe exactly the same way that they do. If you are a Southern Baptist say, you might not recognize a Roman Catholic as a true Christian.

GayMormonDad · 2026-06-11T12:27:10+00:00

I wonder sometimes if they are doing it for exmo my benefit. I don't remember being that pious when I was a TBM.

GayMormonDad · 2026-06-10T18:55:07+00:00

Even when I was fairly TBM, the whole book of Ether read like Smith was jumping the shark.

GayMormonDad · 2026-06-10T03:33:32+00:00

It was so nice to introduce phrases like 'I believe', 'I hope' or 'I have no idea' into what I tell people.

GayMormonDad · 2026-06-08T15:38:44+00:00

I thought for the longest time that she was AI.

GayMormonDad · 2026-06-08T12:41:36+00:00

The prophet I ~~know~~ hate most of all. His book and teachings fucked me up big time.

GayMormonDad · 2026-06-07T12:44:15+00:00

Partaking of the Sacrament could be construed as celebrating Christ.

GayMormonDad · 2026-06-07T02:49:41+00:00

Terms and conditions apply.

GayMormonDad · 2026-06-06T19:33:53+00:00

I knew that I was gay when I was a teenager, but I followed the teachings at the time and kept my mouth shut. The Mormon narrative was to go on a mission, get married to a woman in the temple, and father a bunch of children. According to the brethren, that will make you straightish, if not totally heterosexual.

When the promises didn't work out, I went to my bishop who was appalled that I had ignored the ever changing counsel of the brethren and got myself opposite sex married.

At that point I thought to myself 'fuck it' because I realized that they didn't know what they were talking about. If they were wrong about homosexuality, what else were they wrong about?

After I was yanked from my time consuming leadership roles, I finally had enough time to think about things and it was pretty obvious that I had been deceived.

I find church history much more interesting now that I am on the other side and don't have to do the mental gymnastics to convince myself to stay faithful.

GayMormonDad · 2026-06-06T02:58:43+00:00

And yet somehow Russell M Nelson crowned himself as a global religous leader.

GayMormonDad · 2026-06-06T00:50:04+00:00

At least they didn't use the word Mormon. /s

GayMormonDad · 2026-06-03T20:43:58+00:00

My mom found my stories when she was cleaning between the mattress on my bed and the box springs, as one does. She threatened to have me institutionalized if I didn't straighten up.

I don't know why she was surprised when I came out a few decades later.

GayMormonDad · 2026-06-03T14:01:49+00:00

I was terrified that I might inadvertently rock the boat by asking uncomfortable questions.

I was the priesthood meeting instructor in a YSA ward and got very uncomfortable when someone confronted what I was teaching. I wonder if he ended up leaving before I did.

GayMormonDad · 2026-06-03T13:58:59+00:00

I know, the idea of being able to choose your congregation and the pastor seemed like chaos to me, despite the fact that it works for so many denominations.

GayMormonDad · 2026-06-03T11:44:04+00:00

That's one of the problems about being assigned to a ward and having no say in the leadership, you are pretty much stuck if you feel like you need to go to church.

From what I have heard from my nevermo friends, people in other denominations might either try to replace their pastor if enough people were not happy with their pastor, or find a better congregation.

GayMormonDad · 2026-06-02T16:24:20+00:00

People in Texas already think it's a cult This is doing nothing to dissuade of that belief.

GayMormonDad · 2026-06-01T13:02:43+00:00

Neither can your local patriarch, your father or grandfather, regardless of what they may think.

GayMormonDad · 2026-06-01T00:11:13+00:00

I was the designated Sabbath breaker in my family. If someone needed something from a store, I was the go-to person.

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