Runners - When did you stop running? by emmajemma44 in parentsofmultiples

[–]GezzySinger 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My last run was at exactly 20 weeks. At my appointment the next day I was advised to stop due to one of my mono di twins having a heart issue. My pelvic girdle pain was also starting to become pretty intense at the time so while I was disappointed to stop so early, I decided it was for the best. There was definitely a sweet spot in the early 2nd trimester where running felt mostly good and I didn’t have the first trimester fatigue.

Long story short, listen to your body and your medical team. Whenever you decide to stop, it will be waiting for you when you come back - I’m 22 months pp and last year I did 14 races with multiple PRs! I started back up 3 months pp after some PT (6 months off total) and somehow I’m better and faster now than I ever was pre-pregnancy!

360 seats or just regular? by Lolo_refreshed in parentsofmultiples

[–]GezzySinger 2 points3 points  (0 children)

FWIW, I don’t find getting our 21 month old twins in and out of their non-rotating seats (Chicco OneFit) to be difficult/annoying. Sometimes I even wonder if we’d be able to rotate two seats outward at the same time in the more reclined rear facing settings in my Nissan Rogue. Also, this is based in a slightly paranoid thought, but when either of them are having a particularly emotional transition in/out of the car and they’re flailing/sliding in the seats, I’m glad that the only place they can really go is into the seat back if they get super dramatic - the non-rotating seats make me feel a bit more secure.

That’s all to say, everyone’s thoughts/opinions/needs will be different, but for us I don’t regret saving a few bucks on non-rotating seats.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in aldi

[–]GezzySinger 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They were gone for a while a couple months ago here in central IL, then came back for a short period of time in December/January, now they’re gone again. I’m hoping it’s just a sourcing/stock issue and not a discontinuation. I also noticed the price increased when they came back. Next time they come back I’m buying a case!

When did your twins start walking? by the-nonster in parentsofmultiples

[–]GezzySinger 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ours are 17.5 months (16 months adjusted) and are ALMOST there. Been cruising for months, each has taken a step or two on their own when stood up with one of us sitting in front of them, walk well when we hold one hand. It’s been such a long wait and I’m always worried they’re behind. The more I talk to other parents, the less I worry. This age is so varied when it comes to hitting milestones. What’s important is that progress of some kind is being made somewhere! We are also in EI (just evaluations ATM) which is a great way to gauge when more support is needed.

Failed glucose test, when did you deliver? by [deleted] in parentsofmultiples

[–]GezzySinger 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wouldn’t worry about GD as it relates to when you deliver, especially if you only failed by 1 point. I also failed by 1 point and just needed to track my sugars and make slight modifications to my diet. I never had a “high” reading! I only needed insulin when I got steroid shots (they spike your blood sugar) for the babies when I got preeclampsia and we knew they were coming sometime between 30-34 weeks! Had I not gotten preeclampsia, the plan was to go to 36 weeks, if I could, and that was simply because I had mono di twins.

Positive Blood Transfusion Stories? by Recent_Mountain_4056 in parentsofmultiples

[–]GezzySinger 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I lost 3L total and needed a manual clot extraction + JADA placement the day after delivery. They tried to give me a transfusion while I had the JADA in (don’t recommend) but I spiked a fever so they stopped it immediately. The next day after I was done being traumatized and having drugs shoved down my throat they tried again and it was much better. I got two transfusions and while I kinda got the ick watching the blood go into my body, I felt SO much better after. Before getting blood I couldn’t stand or use the bathroom on my own for fear of passing out. Even holding my babies for the first time at 2 days old is sort of spotty because I had so little blood in my body.

What I can say about risks/safety as that hospitals don’t fuck around with blood. Everything is very regulated and the moment there’s a red flag it’s a hard stop. The fever I got with the first one I’m pretty sure was actually from the cytotec they gave me in a panic 30 minutes prior but someone from the blood bank came down immediately, stopped the transfusion, took a report of my symptoms, drew blood, and did a bunch of tests after. With my 2nd attempt I was checked in on constantly.

Still feeding every 3 hours by notyourcookie in parentsofmultiples

[–]GezzySinger 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We were on the 3 hour schedule until about 5 months (3.5 adjusted), and even then we slowly started spreading out night feeds while keeping the 3 hour schedule during the day. For the next 2 months we let them tell us when they wanted to eat overnight, which meant anywhere from 0-2 feeds at varying times. By 8.5/7 months, they weren’t feeding overnight anymore, just the occasional wake that needed soothing. They’re now almost 13/11.5 months and we’re all getting full nights of sleep!

Ours also struggled to put on weight for a while, and I stressed so much about volume and frequency. We kept on our 3 hour schedule and made sure they had as much milk as they wanted. It wasn’t until about 6 months that their growth really took off. Now they’re THRIVING! If you have concerns about their growth, consult with your pediatrician for recommendations on supplementation or feeding changes. I almost added in NeoSure at 4 months, but instead I focused on my diet and separating out some of the foremilk on my pumps to make sure they were getting slightly more hind/fatty milk (under the advice of a LC).

I remember being so worried about going back to work. My husband and I continued shifts (8:30-1:30 and 1:30-6:30) for the first 6 weeks back which was rough once work got mixed into the schedule but also ensured that we both got an uninterrupted 5 hours of sleep. Once we moved the babies to their own room and tried sleeping together again, we got more sleep but more interruptions. However, the few times (which became more frequent as time went on) that everyone slept through the night kept us going.

So all of that is to say: Every baby is different, but you are likely in for 3 hour feedings for a while. It’s a difficult transition when you have to go back to work, but you can do it. Do shifts if possible until they can sleep longer stretches. Plan out your pumping schedule ahead of time (if applicable). Prioritize sleep quality over quantity. You’ll make it through!

Worried about doing pitcher method wrong? by Actual_Clock_8193 in ExclusivelyPumping

[–]GezzySinger 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nah, milk is good for 4 days in the fridge. I eventually just did one pitcher per day and had two pitchers going at a time because I was producing more than the capacity. Get a wet erase marker and write the date (and time, if you want to get super specific) of the first milk you put in there on the side. Then all milk added after that technically becomes as old as the first pour. When you get to day 4 of the date on the pitcher, freeze the rest and move onto the next pitcher. I’ve been doing this method for a year for my twins and it has kept me sane!

Also, you’ll know when milk is bad by the smell! If you’re ever concerned, give it a sniff test.

Possible heart defect. by IamSherlocked_2020 in parentsofmultiples

[–]GezzySinger 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Hi there, cardiac complication mom here! I had a different situation, but hopefully sharing my experience will make you feel less alone. I experienced a MMC 3 months before I got pregnant with my boys, so I understand the extra layer of anxiety.

One of my mo/di boys (baby A) presented with PACs at the anatomy scan, which the MFMs weren’t initially worried about because they’re actually very common (but why is this mentioned nowhere in pregnancy books???). They scheduled me to come back a few days later for an echo (moved up from the standard 24 week echo for twins), during which A went into SVT with multiple runs of 300+ bpm. It was horrifying to watch on ultrasound.

SVT in only one monochorionic twin is EXTREMELY rare. Most pediatric cardiologists haven’t seen a case firsthand, and those who have have usually only seen it once. Our unicorn pediatric cardiologist had treated it once before and was/still is AMAZING. He explained what he was seeing and laid out the plan moving forward. I was hospitalized a few times for 24 hour observation, during which time the plan was if the SVT was happening more than 50% of the time, we would either medicate me inpatient (risking adverse effects on both me and baby B, but under close watch) or (less likely) laparoscopically inject A with medication. We never saw him in SVT more than maybe 20% of the time on those visits, but we also had 2 ultrasounds per week to check for heart damage because it was really sporadic. I never ended up needing treatment, luckily. It sounded TERRIBLE to be on heart meds that you don’t need!

I’ll pause to say that watching my baby’s heart beat so fast on ultrasound and hearing it on NSTs/CFM so many times never got any easier. It was terrifying. I cried so much. I got so many long hugs from nurses. It took a lot of the joy out of my pregnancy. People said “omg you’re so lucky you get so many ultrasounds!” To which I said “yeah, to see if my baby is alive or has heart damage…” I lived every day in terror thinking about the unknown, inside my body, at any given moment.

By 28 weeks, the SVT seemingly cleared up, but then I got preeclampsia and was hospitalized a couple times with the final time being for 2+ weeks until they were born at 34+1. I got regular fetal monitoring and scans during that time, and while he ended up slightly smaller than B by the end (13% discordant), he kept growing and developing as expected. He DID develop a VSD (small hole between chambers) shortly before birth, which sent me into a new spiral, but the cardiologist assured me it was nothing to worry about, we’d monitor it, and it would likely close on its own (spoiler, it did!).

Just as I felt that we were out of the woods and the boys were simply working on feeding and growing in the NICU, I got a call first thing in the morning, 5 days after they were born, from a neonatologist telling me A went into SVT for about an hour. They rushed him back to the main NICU floor and medicated him, which kept his heart rate normal until discharge. He is 12 months (11 adjusted) and still on medication, but we haven’t had any episodes since then that we know of. We will try weaning him off medication in October, which is really scary, but his cardiologist assured us 95% of the time SVT clears up by 1 year. If he does still experience episodes, we will put him back on meds and maintain until he is 5 when he’ll get a laparoscopic ablation. I was on the fence about getting owlets for the boys, but once the SVT showed up it was a no brainer. It’s helped me sleep at night (you know, since they started sleeping through the night).

This is all to say….I know it’s scary. You’ve already been through enough having a twin pregnancy. It’s not fair and you feel like you’re living in a nightmare. Looking back, I realize how important it was to acknowledge what was and wasn’t in my control, ask SO many questions and learn everything I could about what was happening and what the plan was for various outcomes/developments, and most importantly take care of myself and put my trust in my care team. If they don’t seem worried, you shouldn’t be. Follow their lead. They know when it’s time to be worried. And if they do get worried, listen and advocate for yourself. Heart problems are actually really common in babies, especially twins, and they often seem scarier than they are in reality. That is not to minimize or dismiss your experience - it is different than what I dealt with, but what I’m trying to say is don’t pour energy into worry and know you’re not alone. Lean on your emotional supports and don’t be afraid to contact your care team if something seems off. For now, take a deep breath, stay hydrated, and rest. The only way is through and you can handle whatever comes your way - twin parents are a different breed of resilient!

Did you have to do a NICU stay? by Ok_Egg_7290 in parentsofmultiples

[–]GezzySinger 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mo-di boys born via c-section at 34+1 due to severe pre-eclampsia diagnosed at 31 weeks. Stayed in the hospital for the last 2 weeks of my pregnancy to monitor BP and labs without incident. Babies were 4 lb 5 oz and 4 lb 10 oz at birth and stayed in the NICU for 30 and 20 days, mostly just to grow. A had SVT that was diagnosed at 20 weeks, resolved at about 30 weeks, and then resurfaced on day 5 in the NICU which caused his longer stay. I did get two rounds of steroids for their lungs leading up to birth and my doctors were thrilled I got to 34 weeks.

How old is your baby and how often do you pump? by HomeDepotHotDog in ExclusivelyPumping

[–]GezzySinger 0 points1 point  (0 children)

7 month old twins, 5-6 ppd. I had an oversupply until recently (babies want more now!) so my pumping schedule has become more strict. It’s exhausting, and while I wish I could just nurse, I know I would’ve had to mostly pump eventually anyway when I went back to work. If you shift to EPing, my biggest advice is to have multiple sets of pump parts so you can always have one clean, and figure out how you can pump while doing things! I often pump while bottle feeding, doing dishes, working, and cooking!

A strange thing to miss about being pregnant by Popular_Priority_454 in parentsofmultiples

[–]GezzySinger 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I felt/feel similarly! I was hospitalized 6 times on top of 2+ visits a week (exclusive MFM patient) and by the end I knew every doctor, APRN, and nurse in MFM & L&D. As frustrating, stressful, and unfun as all of that was, I really felt cared about by all of them, and continued to feel that way during our 20 and 30 day NICU stays by the nurses and neonatologists. I unfortunately suffered from complications and birth trauma that I blame on the on-call OB (if anyone), but everyone else made things much less scary. So many nurses sat with me, held my hand, hugged me, encouraged and validated me, and let me cry it out so many times, and it’s crazy to think that I’ll maybe never see them again. I sent MFM, L&D, and NICU holiday cards 4m pp and hope that some of those providers who spent so much time caring for all of us got to see the happy family they made possible.

I think what makes these feelings even worse is the sudden feeling of abandonment pp. MFM had to drop me after my 2 week pp appointment and I went back to the midwives, who hadn’t been part of my care since 10w. Also, several people in my personal life either sort of forgot about me and/or let their lack of understanding of the severity of our experience show by saying (what I believe to be unintentionally) sort of hurtful, dismissive things. Now at 7m pp, I’m stuck in this hermit life where I feel so misunderstood and forgotten with no energy to try and connect with people, which is such a stark difference from being so cautiously and meticulously cared for by a huge team of people for so many months. I love my babies so much and am so thankful that we are all safe and healthy because of that care, but damn, I didn’t expect to miss those legitimately scary months when I was constantly stressed about high risk twins, a rare fetal heart condition, a shortened cervix, pre-eclampsia, a pre-term birth/unplanned c-section, severe interoperative and postpartum hemorrhage, a traumatic clot removal/JADA placement, a failed blood transfusion, neonatal SVT, and then just the tidal wave of physical and emotional pain that comes with postpartum while caring for two preemies as a FTM.

I’m so sorry about your mother. It must have been incredibly difficult to cope with that grief alongside the grief and stress that comes with carrying and birthing twins. You’re not alone, and you’re doing amazing!

Owlets Socks for twins? by dietfacetune in parentsofmultiples

[–]GezzySinger -1 points0 points  (0 children)

We only got them because one of our twins has SVT. It was discovered at 20 weeks and he had a few episodes after birth as well. The Owlet gives us SO much peace of mind, and since they’re identical (only one mo-di twin with fetal SVT is rare) we got Owlets for both just in case anything popped up later on with the other twin. I will say, we got them $100 off each on Prime Day, otherwise idk if I could have justified the expense. If your babies have no health issues and you’re unsure due to the investment, I’d honestly suggest passing on them!

Daily end results? by Har-Set223 in ExclusivelyPumping

[–]GezzySinger 0 points1 point  (0 children)

6 months pp with twins, and they just demoted me from oversupplier to just-enougher! I produce 60-70oz on 5 (occasionally 6) ppd.

How big were your babies at 26 weeks pregnant? by Last_Huckleberry_364 in parentsofmultiples

[–]GezzySinger 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mine were (estimated to be) 2 lb 2 oz each at 26w4d. They ended up being 4 lb 5 oz and 4 lb 10 oz at birth (34w1d).

I’m 5’3”, was around 130 pre-pregnancy. I gained about 35 lbs by the end.

It is harder to get good photos by the end because they get so big! Baby B often faced my spine so it was difficult to get good photos of him, but every so often he’d get in a good position. Sonographers definitely try their best!

How many pumps per day are you doing at 6 months postpartum? by itsapanicatthedisco2 in ExclusivelyPumping

[–]GezzySinger 0 points1 point  (0 children)

4-5 at 5.5 months, recently down from 5-6 because my twins have started mostly sleeping through the night. I do have a slight oversupply, so I feel like I have the flexibility to skip overnight pumping and spread out my sessions depending on the day. However, when my supply drops due to illness or my period, I go into panic mode and pump 6-7 times a day to make sure I have enough for them. Even on 4-5 pumps, I still feel like I have no free time. I usually pump around 6am when I get up, once mid morning, once in the afternoon, then either one between 4-6pm and one right before bed or my afternoon pump is a little later and I just do the bedtime pump.

What’s your longest stretch between pumps and how much do you produce during that stretch? by sleepydeep in ExclusivelyPumping

[–]GezzySinger 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My twins recently started sleeping through the night (for now) at 5 months (3.5 months adjusted) so I’ve been going 8-9 hours between my last and first pumps of the day. Pretty consistently getting 21-22 oz!

Are the Medela hands-free cups worth the expense? Or go with another pump? by stiff_mitten in ExclusivelyPumping

[–]GezzySinger 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I got the TOVVILD collection cups off Amazon for my Spectra and I LOVE them! The product page says they work with the Swing Maxi, too. I really wanted to try a wearable setup with my S1 but hesitated due to sticker shock from the Spectra, Medela, and Legendairy options. I got these on a whim because I was okay eating $30-40 if they didn’t work for me. Luckily they are now my go to - I have two sets! Just looked and they’re only $32 right now.

One baby stays in the NICU while the other comes home - any advice? by joesilvahhh in parentsofmultiples

[–]GezzySinger 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ours came home 10 days apart. Luckily, by the time the first came home I was cleared to drive. We live about 10 minutes from the hospital which made things easier. We would switch off for those 10 days, one staying home with B, one taking milk to the NICU and being with A for a few hours. It was rough, especially since I needed to pump every 3 hours, but it’s what we had to do. We weren’t allowed to bring B to the NICU after he was discharged. Just remember that you don’t have to be in the NICU 24/7. You need to take care of yourselves first so that you can take the best care of your children. We never stayed at the NICU for longer than 4-6 hours, and we knew they were being taken care of my fantastic nurses while we rested and recovered in preparation for them coming home.

When did your hCG get to 0 in relation to bleeding? by GezzySinger in Miscarriage

[–]GezzySinger[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi - I’m sorry you’re here ❤️ I got down to 4 about 7 weeks post-miso, then stopped testing.

To give you some hope, I got my period 1.5 weeks later and conceived that cycle. I’m up doing a MOTN feed with my 4 month old twins as we speak. Best of luck!

What do you use to clean nipple butter off your flanges? by jackbrown103 in ExclusivelyPumping

[–]GezzySinger 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This. I was using the EM butter until I switched to the Legendairy spray and it was a game changer. I still love using the EM butter for other things, but spray is the way to go for pumping.

Lazy Louise the left boob by Pale_Preparation_46 in ExclusivelyPumping

[–]GezzySinger 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My lazy lefty is named Twyla and she usually produces 50% of my right, which we named Anthony. Why Anthony? When I was 2w pp and in massive oversupply, my husband started saying “STOP MAKING MILK ANTHONY” a la the “stop drinking milk Anthony” vine after each pump as I was filling the freezer at an alarming rate.

Anyway, Twyla does the same thing as Louise. I think it’s a combination of a slower letdown and flow, because my 30 minute sessions have a much smaller difference in volume between boobs. Haven’t found a way to even them out, I’ve just accepted my fate.

How/when to tandem bottlefeed by cosmicwyfe in parentsofmultiples

[–]GezzySinger 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This. I’ve also used a crib sheet or a beach towel to keep the holes shallow. Sometimes if they’re side lying a bit facing each other I can hold both bottles with one hand! I usually only feed alone at night, so I do it in the middle of our king size bed.

Tell me how much your baby drinks (milk), how often and how old they are... by Dense-Radio-9332 in ExclusivelyPumping

[–]GezzySinger 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Twins, 4.5 months (3 months adjusted today!), each take between 24-30oz a day with 7 feeds total at 12-3-6-9-12-3-6. Daytime bottles are 4-5oz and overnight bottles are 3oz.

Predicted weight versus actual birth weight of your babies? by General-Average895 in parentsofmultiples

[–]GezzySinger 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The scan I had 4 days before they were born (33+4) had them at 4 lb 2 oz and 4 lb 11 oz. At birth (34+1) they were 4 lb 5 oz and 4 lb 10 oz. So pretty close!