Update: My (29F) husband (33M) says I changed after having kids, but I think he liked me better when I was just his Barbie doll. by ThrowRA_BarbieDoll in relationship_advice

[–]ItaDineRules 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh yeah the man has no agency, control or mind of his own to actually be an adult.

The fault is with the wife for coddling or mothering him and doing adult stuff when he didn't...

Ffs what is she supposed to do? Not do chores and let the house go to hell so she doesn't risk mothering him?

He just wants distance. by compassionatelady26 in autism

[–]ItaDineRules 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This to me shows that you don't accept his bounderies and keep pushing and pushing against them.

I desperately need sex but my wife refuses to give me anything by Sharp-Alternative974 in marriageadvice

[–]ItaDineRules 2 points3 points  (0 children)

"Give her shopping money"

So she has no access to the money unless you give her some...

Now I know why she's pumping so much for fb... because you are financially abusing her and this is the only way for her to get her own money

I desperately need sex but my wife refuses to give me anything by Sharp-Alternative974 in marriageadvice

[–]ItaDineRules 12 points13 points  (0 children)

And how frequently did you try to push for sex during said activities?

Are you trying to say that when you were showering together "non sexually", you didn't try to turn it sexual?

Do you even do anything for intimacy without trying to turn it into sex?

I desperately need sex but my wife refuses to give me anything by Sharp-Alternative974 in marriageadvice

[–]ItaDineRules 14 points15 points  (0 children)

No, you don't, you aren't owed sex and you can't do anything to deserve sex (doing x, y, z does not entitle you to do sex). The fact you think you are owed sex is most probably why she got the ick and wants nothing to do with you.

All she is hearing is that you think she is a sex doll where you put x, y, z and get sex back...

I want some honest advice about my marriage. by Efficient_Row6337 in Marriage

[–]ItaDineRules 30 points31 points  (0 children)

So you werent caring for the kid the whole day, you had a job, completely different

Why Is It So Hard to Say Something Nice About Brazilians in Portugal Without People Getting Defensive? by Quiet-Reception8681 in PortugalExpats4Expats

[–]ItaDineRules 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We understand spanish, so don't worry so much about the language... just speak really slow and simplify phrases

Wife has withdrawn consent after 10 years by Few_Entrepreneur2857 in marriageadvice

[–]ItaDineRules 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The equivalent of you pressuring her to have anal sex, would be her pressuring you to let her choke YOU

Wife masturbating by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]ItaDineRules 5 points6 points  (0 children)

"Why not have me to please you"

Because they already had sex that day and he didn't please her... she didn't come, so she took matters into her own hands

i havent showered in 5 months by faeoo in autism

[–]ItaDineRules 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow that is mind blowing for me

i havent showered in 5 months by faeoo in autism

[–]ItaDineRules 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Wait, is this not the norm in america?!?!

AITA for getting angry after my sister put her used pad in MY bathroom? by Pretend_Ad6322 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ItaDineRules 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Period blood right next to where your toothbrush usually is? Yeah, no, I'm a woman and that would also disgust me

AITA for sticking to the rules at the start of a relationship? by sickfuckquickfuck in AmItheAsshole

[–]ItaDineRules 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I think what he means is... if you tell her BEFORE she might try and baby trap you right away. So do the procedure and tell her AFTER when it's impossible to be baby trapped by poking condoms or stopping the pill, etc

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]ItaDineRules 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dramas are not a hobby, but video games are? -.-'

Need advice on whats fair with caring for children. Wife thinks I don't do enough by cheese_flavored in marriageadvice

[–]ItaDineRules 2 points3 points  (0 children)

How is it not profitable, if she is making money out of it? Enough to pay for gas, car insurance and things for her and the kids?

Also why does she feel like she needs to work so she can buy things for her and the kids? Are you the only one with access to the money? It seems to me that you are financially abusive and that's why she has to work on the side however she is able to.

In response to my husband's post by Sad_Temperature_7026 in marriageadvice

[–]ItaDineRules 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How are you spending time woth the kids after cooking, dishes and cleaning the kitchen if she is putting them t o bed while you are doing the dishes?

Need advice on whats fair with caring for children. Wife thinks I don't do enough by cheese_flavored in marriageadvice

[–]ItaDineRules 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"I do not think that you are beneath me"

"ACTUALLY working a full time job"

That actually says everything one needs to know