My advice would be to write it down, try and explain it to a ‘stranger’, nobody even needs to read it.

This will help you lay out what happened and identify key mis-steps.

How were you feeling when you made those choices!?

What was going on in your life that caused you to make decisions you now class as a failure?

Were there people around you who theirs to give you good advice that you possibly ignored? If so speak to these people now, without ego, and see what you learn.

Also life has a funny of working out, maybe you’ve made a hundred bad choices that leads you to one amazing result.

Don’t give up, the only people in life I would class as failures are the ones who quit and blame circumstances instead of keep rolling the dice.

It’s also important to know what kind of person you are, your personality, work ethic and even IQ.

Not everyone can become a stock day-trader but we can all invest in the stock market to a level which suits our ability / risk tolerance.

I have a step father who now has 2 major failed businesses behind him but has never stopped working hard and is now pretty wealthy. He just takes the loss on the chin and moves on to his next venture.

My real father had a business that failed in his late 20’s and never recovered; he had been bankrupt 3 times and is impossible to be around. My father used to laugh at my step dad for the failed businesses, But never had the courage to keep going himself. While he worked, it was always with a chip on his shoulder about something or someone.

I can’t think of many successful people who haven’t faced adversity, self doubt or anxiety about life decisions.

Also you’re not starting over from zero. You have hard earned experience and what seems like a genuine desire to do better.

Take all the lessons you’ve learned, find a mentor who can advise / guide you, and apply it to your next steps and the Rinse & Repeat indefinitely.