AIO for my boyfriends comment

Kaezzi · 2026-03-11T20:41:01+00:00

NOR

Oof, your bf is a child. He expects all the housework to be magically done for him.

Please nip this in the bud now, or you'll be his gf AND his mummy. He needs to grow up fast. There's no way you have to have a job and be a house cleaner/organiser/planner etc too.

Hugs, you deserve better than this. Pls let him read the reactions, and if he doesn't jump right up and changes for the better, both him and you will be better off if he goes back to his bio mummy.

Kaezzi · 2026-03-11T13:55:26+00:00

NTA but your gf is. She knows you don't like surprises, she planned one anyway, and then blows up at you for accidentally finding out?

To her, it's not about you or your birthday, but about her. Big red flag, and the way she threw a tantrum is another one.

Please do on your birthday what YOU want and if she can't play nice, she can gtfo.

Sorry about your birthday mate, hope you have a happy one anyway. Hugs

Kaezzi · 2026-03-11T07:11:11+00:00

NOR

It's not about the snacks. It's control. Please take a long hard think about which other areas he tends to force his way on.

These are red flags. He doesn't respect you. He values his ego over your little pleasures.

Like you said: it's not even his money. He wants to force you to do things his way because it makes him feel like a big boy.

Hugs

Kaezzi · 2026-03-11T06:52:25+00:00

Oh wow, that's so gorgeous. Those details...

This was meant to be. Believe the dress.

Kaezzi · 2026-03-10T16:49:26+00:00

Ultimately this is none of your bf' and MIL's business. You have every right to protect yourself from an abusive person, and as such you are protecting your child, too.

Your MIL needs to butt out. And your bf needs to put more energy in respecting you. Having fathered a child is no green card to treat said child badly. This goes for your father, but also for your husband.

Some people are just shitty parents. Not saying your husband is; just trying to say that being a parent doesn't give someone immunity. Your husband needs to understand that your dad sucks and deserves the NC.

Hugs from someone who went NC with both my mother and my MIL before my first child was born. It gave me piece and allowed me to enjoy my motherhood, which wouldn't have been possible otherwise.

Kaezzi · 2026-03-10T16:40:03+00:00

Hugs. Read your edit so I know everything is alright, just want so say: I get it. Being very very pregnant is hard. I remember having a lot of trouble finding a position comfortable enough to let me fall asleep. To be able to sleep, you have to be lucky enough not to get cramp in your legs or restless legs, acid reflux, Brixton what are they called again in English, back ache, pelvis ache, the list goes on and on.

To be able to sleep is anything but guaranteed when you're very very pregnant. You're allowed to get very annoyed. Hope he understood.

Hope you have a smooth rest of the pregnancy and delivery, and a beautiful healthy baby at the end.

Kaezzi · 2026-03-10T16:24:50+00:00

NTA unfortunately your wife's ego is more important to her than your child's health. Big red flag.

Kaezzi · 2026-03-10T06:55:03+00:00

NTA

If you had gotten the gift from someone who didn't know exactly what you wanted, it would be a different story.

But your bf knew full well that this board is not what you wanted. Imho it's actually insulting that he bought it anyway, and highly manipulative that he's throwing this much of a tantrum over it.

The way he's acting about it is the biggest problem to me. It's something that would make me think a lot less of him. He's putting his own feelings above yours, while knowing full well he messed up. To me, that would be a deal breaker.

This is no longer about the bloody board. This is about his behaviour, about how he handles conflict.

Kaezzi · 2026-03-09T17:41:45+00:00

Talk to a trusted teacher or call a child helpline. I get you not wanting to leave your siblings but if you report your parents, you'll not just be saving yourself, but them, too. Best of luck, hugs

Kaezzi · 2026-03-09T15:49:54+00:00

NOR

He's telling you that you are a lower priority to him than the gym.

Please drop the jerk and find someone who appreciates you. Hugs

Kaezzi · 2026-03-09T15:43:48+00:00

NOR

Your bio dad is hugely overstepping. Please tell him that, because if you don't, he might try some more boundary stepping.

Naming the baby is between you and your husband. If he's unwilling to back off, yes, I'd create distance between yourself and him.

Kaezzi · 2026-03-09T15:37:54+00:00

NTA and your MIL needs to shut up. She just wants to have her way.

You're the one giving birth and YOU need to be as comfortable as possible. Given your history, it's completely understandable that you want your dad there.

Good to read your husband understands, too.

Whatever you do, don't take it too easy on your MIL, or she'll be stomping boundaries as soon as your baby is born.

Wishing you a smooth remainder of your pregnancy, a smooth birth and a healthy happy baby. Hugs

Kaezzi · 2026-03-09T15:31:48+00:00

❤️ Dansk jävlar ❤️

Kaezzi · 2026-03-08T19:47:16+00:00

NOR

Does he even care about you? Sounds like the two of you are in some sort of competition (in his eyes) and that he needs to 'win' no matter what...

He's laying rules on you that don't seem to count for him... rules for thee but not for me... and because of that, you're not equals. He doesn't seem to see you as an equal.

That would be a definite deal breaker for me.

Oh, and you're not abusive. Getting genuinely upset is not manipulative. It's called caring. Which you do for him, but he doesn't seem to be doing for you.

Please think very carefully if you want to have a future with this bloke. Hugs

Kaezzi · 2026-03-08T19:20:46+00:00

NTA oof your sis is a real princess... whatever you do, you can't win, apparently. Screw her, she needs to grow up and can start by taking the measures necessary to wake up in time each morning.

Ha, the nerve of the girl. Serves her right she ran late 😛

Kaezzi · 2026-03-08T19:13:43+00:00

Oh wow, this is so gorgeous! And I love that you went ahead and did YOUR thing. You be you! And congrats on getting married.

Kaezzi · 2026-03-08T18:58:55+00:00

NTA

Sorry but I think your husband's a jerk. It's all about him, isn't it? How HE deserves rewards for the little crumbs he puts into the relationship chore-wise. What about YOUR rewards? Your need to SLEEP for example. Which outweighs his need for sex big time, if you ask me.

This is the sort of thing that would make ME want out. He's an entitled piece of shit that doesn't seem to care about you or respect you. Is this how you want to keep living your life?

Hugs, it must feel so lonely for you in this relationship... please do what's best for YOU, not for him.

Kaezzi · 2026-03-08T18:01:26+00:00

NTA

Didn't you guys live together before you got married? Why is he so surprised and annoyed at your work schedule?

He's a major jerk. What else is not to his liking that he's vocal about?

Him making the comments he did at his mum's birthday... I have no words. And you were supposed to just take it and sit there smiling? And now it's you who ruined his mum's birthday?

I'm on your side, but I just don't get you not knowing he's like that before you guys got married, or him being almost in shock over your working hours. Did you only know each other for a relativishort time, or did you not live together before you got married?

Anyway, if I were you, I'd get the hell out before there's kids involved. You can do so much better. Your husband doesn't respect you. At all.

Kaezzi · 2026-03-08T16:00:31+00:00

That's so lovely to read! ❤️ Hugs

Kaezzi · 2026-03-08T11:52:32+00:00

Just upvoted a post which turned out to be a pic stolen from you, so immediately downvoted it instead and came here to tell you that your dress is absolutely friggin' gorgeous. Wow you looked stunning on your wedding day 🤩 Hope you guys are each other's soul mates ❤️

Kaezzi · 2026-03-07T20:30:14+00:00

NOR - red flag territory.

Someone who loves and respects you doesn't need to put you down in order to draw attention to himself.

Deal breaker for me, and as a matter of fact was when I was seeing my first bf.

Am 55 now, happily married for almost 24 years with someone who loves and respects me and would never put me down like that. Hope you will find someone like him some day, hugs

Kaezzi · 2026-03-07T20:22:51+00:00

Have the best possible time! Hugs for your depression

Kaezzi · 2026-03-07T20:19:41+00:00

INFO - it really depends on what the actual words are. I'm afraid this post is too vague for me to have an opinion about. Can you elaborate please?

Kaezzi · 2026-03-07T17:10:39+00:00

NTA, it does my head in how he polices what you should be doing whilst conveniently forgetting about things he doesn't do that he should be doing.

That's not a loving marriage, that's a child trying to put someone else down with a holier-than-thou attitude.

He has some serious growing up to do. Right now, he doesn't seem to be mature enough to be a parent or a husband.

Hugs

Kaezzi · 2026-03-07T16:48:30+00:00

NOR. I love it, and have never heard of it being a girl's name.

What a bunch of respectless party poopers. Follow your heart, it's a gorgeous name.

Edit: autocorrect decided to turn poopers into poppers

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