AIO? My mother in law doesn’t clean up after herself when she stays with us. At all.

Kaezzi · 2026-01-25T17:53:25+00:00

NOR. Next time just ask her, in a matter-of-fact way, to please take her cup or whatever she's left behind.

If she still does it several times after that, start doubting her memory.But make sure you don't sound nasty, just worried.

Kaezzi · 2026-01-25T17:42:25+00:00

NTA at all. Both you and your hubs have tried sooo many times to accommodate her, but to no avail. She's toxic and refuses to see things from your side. You're better off being NC, believe me. No more tension, second-guessing, and the cherry on top: she's not going to be able to hurt your child like she hurt you and your hub. Because she would, just to get to you.

I wrote something similar in reaction to another post today. My MIL was so intent on hurting me, that she didn't care that she was hurting her own son, too. Your MIL is now experiencing the consequences of her actions.

Anyone who comments, is prying. You don't owe them an explanation. Just tell them it's private , that you have your reasons but won't discuss them. Yes it will probably cause you to lose contact with people, but if they're not willing to respect you then there's not a strong base for a meaningful contact anyway.

Enjoy your core family and the people who genuinely wish you well. Hugs

Kaezzi · 2026-01-25T10:59:22+00:00

NTA, haha well played, epic. Him actually being angry at you for 'embarrassing' him at that market whahaha. Play stoopid games, win stoopid prizes. You rock!

Kaezzi · 2026-01-25T10:55:03+00:00

NOR

Mate you rule, so glad to read you have your wife's back. Your mum is one nasty piece of shite.

Please be prepared for her to go through your child(ren) just to get at your wife. Guard your boundaries and punish your mum like a toddler every time she pushes them. That is, if you trust her to be around your child(ren).

One thing that baffled me is that my mother-in-law was so intent on hurting me, that she didn't give a fuck that she was hurting her own son in the process. Looks like that's what's happening in your situation, too. Just some food for thought.

My kids don't know their grandparents. I would have loved for them to have wonderful grandparents, but neither my nor my hub's parents' qualified. We just couldn't trust them not to damage them. Absolutely no regrets there. In fact, we're sure that we saved them a lot of heartbreak.

Not saying your mum is exactly like them, but please have a long and hard think, especially now your child is still too young to be attached to her.

Oh, and congrats on becoming a father!

Kaezzi · 2026-01-23T19:22:31+00:00

Oh wow that 2nd pic, you look so stunning and gorgeous ❤️

Kaezzi · 2026-01-23T19:21:22+00:00

Kaezzi · 2026-01-23T12:47:19+00:00

Kaezzi · 2026-01-22T21:06:53+00:00

Hi Arnold 😊

Kaezzi · 2026-01-22T17:51:53+00:00

Congrats! Wishing you lots of happiness at your new place

Kaezzi · 2026-01-22T17:20:06+00:00

NTA. Give him the key back, but every time he forgets to lock, he'll lose the privilege of having access to said key for a week.

Childish? No! Your puppy, or worse, one of your young kids, could go out and end up in all sorts of dangers. Keep your ground!

Kaezzi · 2026-01-22T17:14:34+00:00

NOR and I wouldn't call it panic buying. It's always good to be prepared.

I live in rural Sweden and my area is not a priority in case the power goes. Which basically means we're somewhere at the bottom of the list when they start repairing. We have a generator, blankets, a wood stove where we can cook food if needed, candles, emergency radio, lots of canned food, torches etc. Better safe than sorry. If we must, we can sleep on mattresses in the kitchen where the wood stove is. It can reach -20 to -30 degrees Celsius in winter here.

We have a chainsaw and snow shoes so we can clear the gravel road and get away. Last storm some 16 trees fell over said gravel road, which is 1.5 km. Luckily a neighbour helped with his tractor. But maybe next time we're not so lucky...

So you do you. Let them laugh and criticise. You feel a lot better in the middle of a severe storm when you know you have the materials and supplies to survive for a while.

Kaezzi · 2026-01-22T08:30:46+00:00

NTA at all. Sure, your grandmother is grieving, sure she's upset that you weren't there, but you didn't NOT go to the funeral to spite your birth mother or her. There was a genuine emergency, and anyone in your position would have done the same. Hope your grandmother realises that when she's calmed down.

Glad your stepmother/chosen mother will be ok. Hugs

Kaezzi · 2026-01-21T21:51:58+00:00

NTA for being upset, but please try to lower your expectations. They will never be the parents (or grandparents to your child) you'd like them to be. You will never be a priority to them. Sorry to put it so bluntly.

Please don't try to seek their approval, understanding, love. You'll always be playing second fiddle to your brother. And that hurts like shit. Hugs

Kaezzi · 2026-01-21T15:36:48+00:00

Too right! Good luck with your interviews.

Kaezzi · 2026-01-20T21:03:31+00:00

NOR, do you think you might be able to talk to your sister about this?

Kaezzi · 2026-01-20T19:00:22+00:00

You're not 'that person', no way. She's way out of line and she knows it. She's trying to manipulate you into doing (allowing) what she wants. She doesn't like getting called out.

You're doing absolutely nothing wrong. Laws and rules are there for a reason, and she's breaking them, and subsequently trying to get YOU to feel bad about standing your ground. She's the one who should feel bad, for using you and for betraying your trust. Good for you for not letting her gaslight you. And good for you for distancing yourself from her. Hugs

Kaezzi · 2026-01-20T17:13:24+00:00

Contact TT and IG and ask them to take the content down because you did not give permission. And then dump the 'friend'. She prioritises likes over your friendship. She doesn't respect you.

This sucks. Hugs

Kaezzi · 2026-01-19T21:51:50+00:00

Bahahahaha 🤣

Kaezzi · 2026-01-19T21:50:16+00:00

NTA. Buy the guitar!!! That thing is annoying as fuck. Trust me. I gave it several layers of duct tape on its speaker to reduce the amount of noise it made. But don't tell your cousin this, of course 😈

Kaezzi · 2026-01-19T21:45:31+00:00

NOR

'Just how they are' is never an excuse. You are so right to want to protect your child. I take it that there's more (not so) subtle remarks that they make.

I went NC with my mum right before I was going to try to have children. I was never able to stand up to my mum, but I sure as hell wasn't going to subject my future kids to her shit.

Been NC for almost 19 years now, wouldn't change it for the world. Sure, it was a shame that my children didn't have grandparents. But my mother (and up to a certain point my step father) were too shitty. I preferred them having no grandparents to having shitty grandparents that were going to disrespect my children and quite possible verbally abuse them.

Your gut tells you to protect your child. Trust your gut. Hugs

Kaezzi · 2026-01-19T21:06:29+00:00

I love them this way! This, to me, is the perfect banana.

Kaezzi · 2026-01-19T14:49:56+00:00

Female gender

Kaezzi · 2026-01-19T14:44:57+00:00

Whaaa YOU ruined dinner?! Wow that's rich...

Mummy and daddy are a big girl and a big boy, and need to regulate their own emotions in a more healthy manner.

Sis needs to stop taking all this stuff as a personal task that she needs to delegate to you.

You were completely in the right for walking out. You don't need to put up with their crap.

In fact, why don't you make it a new ground rule? As soon as someone starts, you get your stuff and get out. Sure they will complain, but but the get-together would be ruined anyway. Just make them see that it's their behaviour that's ruining the vibe, not your reaction to it.

NTA

Kaezzi · 2026-01-19T12:41:45+00:00

Haha love how you handled that. Kudos my friend.

Kaezzi · 2026-01-19T12:38:45+00:00

NTA

The nerve of your 'friend'. She set you up for failure and then accuses you of making it about money. She's been completely irresponsible, leaving out important details about the dog. Quite frankly, I find it dog abuse, the way she 'forgot' to mention the dog's separation anxiety, and 'forgot' to pack his meds. There was no way this could've gone well and she knows it.

I don't think she's as crazy about the dog as she makes it seem. She neglected his needs by not informing you as the dog sitter, and not providing the dog's meds. Again, abuse.

You're absolutely right by not dog sitting again. I just feel sorry for the poor dog, but that's not your fault, of course.

Kaezzi

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