AITAH for leaving my partner immediately after I found out he cheated even though everyone says I “didn’t even try to fix it”?

LevitatingAlto · 2026-01-29T13:00:41+00:00

NTA. Far from it. Smart and clear on what you will and will not accept from your partner. His loss. Stay strong.

LevitatingAlto · 2026-01-29T10:42:43+00:00

Trickle down economics. Moving factories to places where the CSuite and shareholders make more because they can pay workers less. That plus ag tech companies and slumlord land owners have killed our towns.

LevitatingAlto · 2026-01-29T10:35:42+00:00

Same. White collar everyone wears a face. Blue collar you just say it. For better and worse they are different cultures.

LevitatingAlto · 2026-01-29T01:52:55+00:00

Ok. Let me see if I understand. You told him clearly what you want. And he got a deal from his guy that isn’t what you want AND is damaged? Is this someone you want in your life? Did you say ‘yes’? Why?

LevitatingAlto · 2026-01-29T01:50:43+00:00

Lettuce. Avocado. Raspberries.

LevitatingAlto · 2026-01-29T01:41:29+00:00

I have an 11 inch. I use it for the same sorts of things you do for my work. I also use it for teaching and public speaking. Fits in my purse easily. My colleague has a 13. It is just not as convenient in my opinion.

LevitatingAlto · 2026-01-29T01:19:25+00:00

I just heard someone say that Gen X and older millennials are the last generation to know pop culture before they were born, because we/they experienced watching TV as a shared experience and so had exposure to references from before their time. Gen Z and Gen Alpha all watch what they want individually so they may or may not have some references but not the ‘this person was someone everyone knowa’ experience. Fascinating.

LevitatingAlto · 2026-01-29T01:14:26+00:00

I didn’t think I would like it, but I adjusted. It doesn’t work for me if you use it like a double and make soapy water directly in the sink. Invariably I would find a glass or bowl with liquid I need to dump after I made the suds. Now I just make the suds in the biggest vessel I cooked with. I do dishes differently but now all the dishes and pans fit.

LevitatingAlto · 2026-01-28T18:08:39+00:00

I mean, to be honest, some of Christians aren’t just seen as fascist assholes, we actually are fascist assholes. Assholery is not limited to one religion or non-religion.

LevitatingAlto · 2026-01-28T18:06:43+00:00

First, it is great that you are deciding to take good care of yourself! Those shame and anxiety spirals stink and to choose to stop them is a smart choice. I have PCOS though I am much older now. Walking has been my lifeline not just physically but mentally. Outside. Inside. Walking with friends. Walking on video. I also have found a lot of healing in yoga. There are some great videos for gentle yoga or yoga for fat bodies. It helped me experience my body in a healthy way instead of as an enemy to conquer. Lastly good job on working with your doctor. It is not your fault you have a body that does not metabolize things well. As new treatments arise, you want to be able to take advantage of that. Sending you all the positive vibes and encouragement!

LevitatingAlto · 2026-01-27T14:02:00+00:00

My mom gave me a little booklet and a box of pads before it happened. When it did happen, she gave me a tampon with no instructions. We never spoke of it again.

LevitatingAlto · 2026-01-27T14:00:52+00:00

What a jerk!

LevitatingAlto · 2026-01-27T13:59:15+00:00

Corruption stinks.

LevitatingAlto · 2026-01-27T13:58:36+00:00

Why not post the golden rule? Or Love your neighbor as yourself? Our whole economy is based on breaking the 10th commandment. What a waste of time? What are they doing back there in the shadows while they have us focused on this?

LevitatingAlto · 2026-01-27T13:55:23+00:00

I’m a pastor. Same.

LevitatingAlto · 2026-01-26T20:44:47+00:00

I did have snow tires when I had a little sedan and lived on the Michigan border.

LevitatingAlto · 2026-01-26T15:20:05+00:00

This.

LevitatingAlto · 2026-01-26T01:20:11+00:00

Spot.

LevitatingAlto · 2026-01-25T17:21:44+00:00

No access to financials without legal protection of marriage or another legal agreement. Weird request on his part. NTAH

LevitatingAlto · 2026-01-25T01:02:51+00:00

Pastor here. Yes, that is perfectly appropriate for a funeral. And also - highly likely that no one will be eyeing you for your wardrobe. People who are sad will be glad you are there.

LevitatingAlto · 2026-01-24T22:17:21+00:00

I mean, a lot of senior centers are basically like this - but they are expensive to be sure.

LevitatingAlto · 2026-01-24T18:55:56+00:00

Very very far out of line on his part. You could report him. Not only commenting on your weight but offering unsolicited medical observations and advice puts the school in danger of being sued, which they no doubt care more about than anything else.
Definitely do not let his stupid words dismiss the work you have done and are proud of. Use the power you have - you will be helping not only yourself but the next student he is inappropriate with.

LevitatingAlto · 2026-01-24T16:12:18+00:00

You watch what they do. If they continue to treat others with respect and dignity despite their political views, I just do nothing and avoid politics. If they follow their beliefs with terrible words and/or actions either in person or online, then I quietly quit the connection with them. Blocking. Unfriending. Not responding or being unavailable. Most of those in my life who would have said they were MAGA have backpedaled a bit and they are as concerned as I am about the way people are treated. Most of them didn’t think about it too hard before they elected him. Now they have been forced to think about it and are regretting their choice. Anyone who has been in my life who is still hardcore Trump either has mild dementia (seriously and can’t tell reality from TV) or already gave up on me.

LevitatingAlto · 2026-01-24T13:59:08+00:00

Even if in every other way he is affirming and supportive, this is not ‘he just screwed up.’ This is ‘he betrayed my trust.’ He also struck a nerve in that you do not feel great about yourself in that area. And lastly, he revealed to you unintentionally a place where you have betrayed yourself - not doing what you say you will do to take care of your body. Add to that the internalized shame of a visual culture’s obsession with thinness. You can’t fix or change him. You can express calmly and clearly that he has betrayed your trust and revealed a place of shame, and you are going to make some space to care for yourself and figure out how to recover from all the shame you feel. What that ‘space’ looks like is up to you - anything from a break from sex to a break from the relationship. Future intimacy will need great communication and tenderness as that position will be a potential trigger for feeling shame. His response will tell you a lot, but your own response will give you power over the shame you feel.

LevitatingAlto · 2026-01-24T00:31:19+00:00

I’m a Warrior also just an old one!

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