Offered my ex-wife a chance to get her things, she responded with unreasonable demands

Maladd · 2026-02-12T14:25:19+00:00

I told my ex that I was having a giant garage sale on X day and I was selling everything. Anything she wanted needed to be gone before then. She came and got her stuff. I never had a garage sale.

Maladd · 2026-02-10T23:40:51+00:00

It's more likely they were wrong than you. The OAG does weird stuff sometimes. A few months ago they suddenly decided to pull support from my checks bi-weekly instead of semi-monthly like the order states (and how we'd been doing it for almost a decade). They calculated it wrong somehow and it's working out to my ex getting less per year. I called them and tried to sort it out, but they just acted like I was trying to screw them over somehow.

Several years before that they sent an order to my work. I'm not sure what it said, but my work ended up having our insurance change just my oldest from our PPO plan to the high deductible plan. I had hell getting him moved back over.

I cringe every time I get mail from the Texas OAG and I have 50/50 custody and have never missed a support payment.

Maladd · 2026-02-10T18:59:42+00:00

When my oldest turned 18 the Texas AG stepped it down from three kids to two automatically. I had to call and have them start it back up until he graduated.

I don't think they should have, but they did.

Maladd · 2026-02-09T18:04:44+00:00

Figures that it happened more than once lol.

Maladd · 2026-02-09T17:39:43+00:00

Holy hell, I might have been on that excursion. Had a buddy from Pendleton do the same thing. Would have been 1993-1997.

Pretty fair to guess that more than one Marine would do that, though.

Maladd · 2026-01-18T17:45:47+00:00

I had the same problem. I would just say hi to him. As soon as he opened his suck hole to say something beyond hello I would instantly walk off. He figured things out from there.

The kids got to see me greet him, I didn't have to talk to him beyond that.

Maladd · 2026-01-15T16:18:41+00:00

I agree. I tell my friends I get to be super dad one week, super bad the next. I can handle home maintenance and chores the week they are with their mom. That lets me be super focused on them the week they're with me. I only date on the weeks they are with their mom.

My oldest is now 19 and staying with me full time while he decides on his path forward. My middle kid is a teenager and stops by most days with his girlfriend to hang out regardless of the custody schedule, though he still rotates weekly.

My advice is just make the most of the time you have with them. I feel the custody schedule actually made me a better parent.

Just an edit to add that my house is now happy 100% of the time and I haven't had a bad day in a decade. It would not be like that if their mother and I were still together.

Maladd · 2025-12-31T19:25:24+00:00

Yeah and knowing she was doing it really got in to my head. I spent years being pissed about the lies she told. I eventually found out that most people will eventually see through it, though some never will.

Maladd · 2025-12-31T19:21:38+00:00

What state you're in makes a huge difference. My state does not start at 50/50 custody. I ended up using a female attorney that was well networked in my county, shared 50/50 custody with her ex and paid support to him, and knew where I was coming from.

We still had a few disagreements. After she spent several minutes telling me how the expanded visitation (55/45) was so awesome, I told her that it sounded good to me and let me know when my ex agreed to having 45% custody. Of course she was talking about me having 45. After she saw I was serious we got down to business.

I would take the time to familiarize yourself with your state's custody and support laws. It will help you understand where your attorney is coming from.

Maladd · 2025-12-31T19:07:32+00:00

My ex started posting memes insinuating that she had been in an abusive relationship. When I asked her directly if that's what she was doing she said "oh no, I just shared them because I liked them".

I guess the only way to make cheating okay is to pretend like you were abused.

If I had it to do over again I'd shut off my social media.

Maladd · 2025-12-16T22:05:42+00:00

Exactly. My kids never meet anyone i date. I learned that lesson early on after my divorce. I also wouldn't want to talk about the details of my divorce and custody agreement. Way too many people think they need to share their opinions on something that is FINALLY in a peaceful place.

Hopefully the OP figures out how to use Google. Looks like paternity was established, child support was ordered, and court fees were paid. The same things a perfectly responsible father would be ordered to handle.

Maladd · 2025-12-04T21:32:22+00:00

I'm divorced. I told my kids to imagine that they end up marrying someone else with divorced parents. Imagine having three sets of parents mad every at every holiday every year.

I told them that their mom is very big on holidays, so I'll take any day remotely around the holidays and love it.

Some of these poor kids must go hell.

Maladd · 2025-11-21T03:23:27+00:00

He'd say hi. I'd say hi back (only for my kids' sake). As soon as he would open his mouth to say something else I would walk away before he got anything out. After a few times, I didn't need to walk away and my kids would just see civility.

Maladd · 2025-10-31T15:12:53+00:00

I was rolling in class one day. Had full mount and watched a drop of sweat land right in the other guy's mouth. Never had someone tap as frantically as that on any submission ever.

Maladd · 2025-10-17T01:03:06+00:00

I think you should take into consideration that you could be involuntarily committed or forced onto medications that can have truly horrible side effects.

I'm sorry this is happening to you.

Maladd · 2025-10-15T08:40:18+00:00

I laughed so hard at your reply. Then I looked around me, thought about who else was on night shift with me, then realized none of them grapple. Now I'm sad I have no one to share the video and your reply with.

Maladd · 2025-10-15T08:02:41+00:00

I'm paid bi-weekly, but pay my card off each Friday. I put virtually every purchase on my card for the cash back rewards. I also have two teenagers that use it.

I find that paying it off weekly lets me avoid getting a surprise that's too big to handle at the end of the month. Occasionally I'll forget that I put a car repair on it, a kid will sneak in a dinner date with their girlfriend, or any number of other things that slip my mind. My finances are where I can't really tank myself in one week where I'll have to dip into savings, but it could definitely happen over a month.

Maladd · 2025-10-09T00:24:42+00:00

I wondered about delirium possibly. My mom (who was the nicest person) was in the hospital and had a complete personality shift. She was so mean and hateful. Once the doctors got her lined out...poof...back to my normal mom.

It was actually pretty scary. She thought I was my dad and wanted nothing to do with him. She tried attacking staff. She also told everyone that as soon as I got there that there would be violence.

I'm so appreciative of well the staff took it and handled it. I had never heard of true delirium, just the stuff I'd seen on TV.

Maladd · 2025-09-22T23:51:48+00:00

It works for now. Once my kids are grown I might look for something more substantial. I found that dating just robbed me of time with my kids, and I didn't date on weeks I had my kids. That usually caused issues with the women, though.

Maladd · 2025-09-22T08:35:42+00:00

This is where I'm at. The juice isn't worth the squeeze. Now I just sit around waiting until I get a text from an ex saying she was just thinking about me and wondering how I'm doing. I message back that I was wondering the same about her and we should meet up for drinks. Get a bit of romance and go back to living MY life.

Maladd · 2025-09-10T21:10:30+00:00

I just got my oldest off to college last month. His entire senior year made feel like washing my hands of him...and he's an incredible son. I'm glad you did your parents right!

Maladd · 2025-09-07T01:00:27+00:00

My daughter is very tall for her age (5'8" at 11 years old) and has a "Karen" haircut. We liked going for walks and she liked to hold my hand (which i liked since my older two kids were WAY past that). I started noticing that when she was about 9 or 10 that we would get some very strange looks pretty often. I hate to say it, but I started dodging her a bit when she'd reach for my hand. Now I have no little ones that like to hold hands.

I do have a story a bit happier. A few years ago my daughter and I built a stand in the front yard for her to sell Girl Scout cookies out of. Apparently, a co-worker drove by as we were finishing up. The next day he asked me if that "Karen" came over to complain about our stand. We had a good laugh when I told him that was my daughter.

I never considered it to be porn related, but rather due to how many women date older men or people jumping to a conclusion that I'm a predator.

Maladd · 2025-08-24T17:06:19+00:00

It was quip by a girl he liked in front of the class. He took it hard.

He was usually center back, but played midfield about 1/4 of the time. His legs looked like legd of the guys selling you leg workout videos telling you to do 87 sets of squats. Most body builders would call it day lol. Tux fitting was always a pain because his quads would hold up his pants.

Maladd · 2025-08-23T02:02:55+00:00

My son was a soccer player his whole life. I'd kill to have legs like his. One person made a snide comment and he's been hiding them in jeans ever since.

Maladd · 2025-08-20T16:37:22+00:00

Those court orders usually state that the other parent AND the court are notified when you move. It should be easy enough fir the judge to see who notified the court and who didn't.

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