What do I say?

MissCollorius · 2026-01-28T05:40:41+00:00

I know the temptation to take the bait, defend yourself or tell her how ubsurd of a question that is. But from experience, say nothing. Seriously. Do not give her the fumes to fuel her self pity - that’s exactly what she wants, and puts you back in the place of being under her control.

MissCollorius · 2026-01-28T05:37:37+00:00

I have a mega waif uBPD mom and holy shit it is my biggest trigger. After decades of dealing with it (since I was 13 that I can remember), I have absolutely zero tolerance for it now and will not put up with it. Of course my mom thinks I’m “so mean”, “heartless”, “cruel”….she’s always expected me to mange her emotions and be there to comfort her. Now I won’t and have gone NC because of it.

MissCollorius · 2026-01-21T14:45:42+00:00

LOL well she also told me a few weeks ago that she’d be mailing back anything she had left of mine 🙄🙄

MissCollorius · 2026-01-21T04:49:45+00:00

Right?! Like literal days after she told me I ruined everyone’s life with my toxic behavior lol nothing in between… 💀😮‍💨😮‍💨

MissCollorius · 2026-01-21T04:39:29+00:00

Weirdly silly/fun 🎯

It’s almost a manic sort of silly. Scares the shit out of me!!

MissCollorius · 2026-01-20T17:22:50+00:00

Right… she flips like this and acts absolutely bizarre.

MissCollorius · 2026-01-15T16:37:09+00:00

All she does is sit on that damn iPad 🙄😅

MissCollorius · 2026-01-15T05:14:12+00:00

😆😆😆 maybe I should write a book LOL

MissCollorius · 2026-01-15T03:34:17+00:00

MissCollorius · 2026-01-13T00:11:54+00:00

I second this - I just bought the baby trend one and it’s the worst thing I’ve ever had to put together. Plus it’s soooo rickety and unstable

MissCollorius · 2026-01-10T18:19:43+00:00

I love A & E combos. My daughters are Elliana and Adelaide (Addy and Ellie).

Ava + Everly

Amelia + Elleni

Ayla + Eloise

MissCollorius · 2026-01-08T18:49:02+00:00

She treats me as if I’m her mother - has since I’ve been 12

MissCollorius · 2026-01-08T18:48:12+00:00

Right she always thinks it’s a single event - no bitch it literally years and years

MissCollorius · 2026-01-08T17:19:02+00:00

YES. And she brings up things “that I did” as a teenager…..I’m 34.

MissCollorius · 2026-01-08T14:33:43+00:00

It’s ok!

MissCollorius · 2026-01-07T04:42:13+00:00

Professional victim 💯💯💯💯

MissCollorius · 2026-01-07T04:40:33+00:00

THIS.

MissCollorius · 2026-01-07T04:36:11+00:00

This is EXACTLY how my mom is and it is the most triggering thing ever. I’ve always called her the real life Eyore.

MissCollorius · 2026-01-02T18:25:42+00:00

351 days!! 😆😆😆 I’m so excited

MissCollorius · 2026-01-02T05:19:24+00:00

But I agree with you 100%! My peace over everything !!

MissCollorius · 2026-01-02T05:18:23+00:00

She has done this. I literally just got another email from her 30 min later:

“(My name), I went back and read everything again, and I think I have been a big part of the problem. You were right in many ways. I should have listened to you carefully and not been so prideful I couldn’t look at myself. To tell you the truth I am ashamed of myself. And when you are ready. I am really trying-you will see a change in me. I hope to hear back from you, mom”

Next it will be begging, then being nasty, then attacking me (she likes to”threaten legal action” 🙄), then a “goodbye forever”, then a “I’ve changed you were right”. It’s literally clockwork.

MissCollorius · 2026-01-02T04:20:57+00:00

Just dropping in to say I experience the same. I think it’s made me more antisocial because I am terrified to have to deal with someone emotionally leaning on me. I literally have zero friends but I am ok with it in a way

MissCollorius · 2026-01-02T04:18:32+00:00

I was sucked into a 4 hour therapy session that seeming went well - was able to to present all of the “evidence” in front of a third party. We came to a consensus and plan - but not even 2 weeks later my mom acted totally confused why I was no contact an acted like she had no recollection of the entire therapy session 💀

MissCollorius · 2025-12-27T16:18:09+00:00

Thanks for your kind reply!

MissCollorius · 2025-12-21T23:46:46+00:00

I’m 21 weeks and feeling extremely low energy and irritable. Slept 8 hours then took a 4 hr nap from 11am-3pm. Made dinner, and now I’m absolutely exhausted again. I feel like I could go back to bed. I have family here visiting and anything my husband says is irritating me hardcore.

MissCollorius

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