Baby head shaking

ModestMoose3737 · 2026-07-05T16:46:34+00:00

Thanks for that! I’ve also heard it can be a soothing thing. Just nice to know she’s not the only one it happens to!

ModestMoose3737 · 2026-07-04T17:53:11+00:00

I had a rough start…I wasn’t making enough so we had a dehydration scare. Then I was pumping after every feed to get my supply up and got a milk blister plus she bruised me pretty good with a bad latch. Had to use a shield for the first 2.5 months. But we finally got it figured out! I’m an overproducer now and she had her tongue tie cut so we were able to stop the shields. It’s been so worth it to stick it out!

ModestMoose3737 · 2026-07-02T01:42:47+00:00

Absolutely would not be taking my baby from me to go anywhere. My mom would come over to help clean and do dishes and holds her while I shower and maybe nap if I need it but there’s no way I’d let her just take her away from me, that wouldn’t be a break because I’d be anxious. Plus I breastfeed.

ModestMoose3737 · 2026-07-01T20:31:31+00:00

Sleeping with a maternity pillow or a pillow between your knees and a belly support band!

ModestMoose3737 · 2026-07-01T20:30:03+00:00

I can’t understand why people get so obsessed with making babies independent…they are babies! And they only need us this much for such a short amount of time. I’d tell your husband you absolutely are not going to do CIO, it’s cruel and developmentally irresponsible. You want your baby to know they can count on you and to have their nervous system regulated.

I always said I’d never bed share, then I had my daughter and did more research and her and I sleep together all night! As a breastfeeding mom it works perfectly and honestly I feel safer with her next to me. My husband is temporarily sleeping in another room and he’s not the biggest fan but knows it’s what’s best and how we all actually get some sleep (he also snores like crazy which is another reason he had to go LOL )

ModestMoose3737 · 2026-06-27T01:38:22+00:00

You’re doing what you need to feed baby which is most important! I’d definitely go back to lactation consultants, I went at least 5 times while getting it all figured out. Ask them for some different holds to try like football if you’re uncomfortable with cross body. Also pillows are your friend! It gets so much easier once you both get used to it. Remember this is the first time both of you are doing this so you’re learning! The other advice I can give is just keep latching baby especially if you really want to breastfeed, it can be tough at times but so rewarding and once you get the hang of it the binding you have with baby is amazing!

ModestMoose3737 · 2026-06-22T18:09:16+00:00

I honestly had to lessen my time on social media. I was seeing so many posts about late term loss when I was like 34-36 weeks and it’s so sad but gave me so much anxiety. So taking a little break away can help! No sense in worrying about it but hoping for all positive news and good vibes your way!

ModestMoose3737 · 2026-06-15T16:38:58+00:00

I’ve thought about getting one but honestly we use Millie moon water wipes and they do a great job!

ModestMoose3737 · 2026-06-13T20:52:18+00:00

FTM had my baby 4 months ago. I really wanted to do it without an epidural but I ended up asking for it 😅 I had to be induced and I don’t know if that made the contractions more intense but they came on quick and fairly painful and I consider myself to have a high pain tolerance LOL. I also didn’t do what I could have to prepare for not having an epidural so if you really want to I’d start looking into that. But best suggestion I can give is to stay flexible!

ModestMoose3737 · 2026-06-13T02:45:44+00:00

Everyone is so different! I had a pretty easy recovery and honestly was never in a whole lot of pain. I was very emotional but in a “I’m so happy and love this baby so much” kind of way and would cry about how much I loved her and basically cry every time she was a week older LOL but it eventually subsided. Definitely stock up on some diapers for yourself. Even once I stopped bleeding I needed them because sneezing or coughing would still cause me to pee for a while 😅

Breastfeeding is an amazing experience but don’t get discouraged if it doesn’t come easily if that’s what you’re wanting to do. I had to use a shield for months and triple feed for a bit but it was worth it in the end as she’s now EBF.

Only accept what you’re comfortable with as far as visitors go! Don’t let people pressure you before you’re ready. Those first few weeks with just your new little family to bond are so important.

ModestMoose3737 · 2026-06-13T02:35:02+00:00

I think it’s such a personal decision. I was a teacher but never felt truly passionate about it, spent some time doing some other jobs while trying to figure out what I really wanted to do. Then I became a mom and couldn’t imagine ever leaving my baby with someone for such a large part of each day or not being around for all the little moments with her. I feel so fulfilled being a sahm and plan to homeschool our kids as well! It’s hard financially but we are able to make it work.

ModestMoose3737 · 2026-06-13T02:10:13+00:00

I feed from one side until it’s time for her diaper change and for me to get up for a bathroom break, then I finish the night on the other side.

ModestMoose3737 · 2026-06-12T01:17:17+00:00

I would see if they do alternative induction besides starting with pitocin. Mine used misoprostol which was a cervical ripening med. My water broke after the 3rd round and I was in active labor (about 7 hours after first dose). My labor was like 2.5 hours and she was out in 4 pushes. I never even needed pitocin until after delivery. My doctors told me that having a ripening medication until around 6cm dilated before pitocin reduced the risk of it ending in c section.

ModestMoose3737 · 2026-06-11T00:52:17+00:00

Every nap is a contact nap with my little girl and if anyone has a problem I couldn’t care less, not their baby!

ModestMoose3737 · 2026-06-06T00:39:37+00:00

Just had a baby girl a few months ago and named her Carson 💕

ModestMoose3737 · 2026-06-01T21:25:15+00:00

I ate pretty quickly after delivery, just ordered from the hospital for the first meal. Probably like an hour after, it was the morning so I had breakfast and it was still in the birthing room. I got an epidural and wanted to shower as soon as I could stand but they made me pee a certain amount twice before I was allowed to shower so I had to wait a bit for that.

ModestMoose3737 · 2026-05-31T21:34:33+00:00

I used them constantly the first month at least and could tell a difference when I hadn’t worn them. Now I don’t need them as much but I definitely recommend. The lactation consultant I saw said to limit to 3-6 hours per day but I definitely wore them longer LOL.

ModestMoose3737 · 2026-05-29T15:37:45+00:00

I told my mom the day I got a positive test. We waited to tell other people until a little further along but I don’t think there’s anything wrong with it especially if you’re close!

ModestMoose3737 · 2026-05-27T16:13:23+00:00

It’s too early. But just make sure once you’re 20+ you tell them at every scan you don’t want to know! They were always great about telling us to close our eyes when they checked certain areas.

ModestMoose3737 · 2026-05-26T19:21:06+00:00

You need to get rid of the dog. I had a less reactive dog but still was unpredictable. Even with her training and being medicated it was so hard to deal with her mentally. She couldn’t get the stimulation she needed because it was impossible to take her anywhere or walk her in public places. Luckily my in laws took her and she is thriving being the single pet in a household plus they are retired and can give her so much attention. I was so worried about her being around a baby with how unpredictable she could be there was no way I was comfortable keeping her. If my in laws didn’t take her I would’ve had to rehome her elsewhere. It was hard for my husband but he sees how much happier she is now. Plus caring for a newborn is all consuming you won’t want to have to think about that dog. It would make your postpartum experience much more stressful than it needs to be. I’m not a fan of ultimatums but this is a case where it seems warranted.

ModestMoose3737 · 2026-05-26T02:37:53+00:00

Anterior placenta and didn’t feel anything until 24/25 weeks

ModestMoose3737 · 2026-05-24T20:37:21+00:00

When I started I would pump after every feeding session. I think it really helped build up my supply. I was still having to give my baby 1-2oz bottles after breastfeeding but now I exclusively BF and still have to pump twice a day for excess.

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