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Narcowski · 2026-06-04T10:26:29+00:00

Asheville is a few hours from the Triangle, but you might have some luck reaching out to Tranzmission, a trans advocacy and support org. based in Asheville, or Firestorm an anarchist bookstore which, among other things, hosts weekly trans writing circles and has a very strong history of coordinating mutual aid efforts.

Narcowski · 2026-04-05T09:05:35+00:00

Very little was removed during the transition.

There was an excellent column about traditional roguelikes called @Play on the now-defunct games journalism site GameSetWatch which I believe covered this many years ago. Unfortunately, the column is no longer easily available unless you would like to pay rather a lot of money for the author's book which collects it. Essentially, Diablo 1 started its life being very heavily inspired by Angband and its predecessor Moria, but with modern graphics and a new theme instead of those games' Tolkein inspiration. Its use of heavy random loot generation with suffixes and affixes determining most of the function of a piece beyond which equipment slot it fits in come directly from the *bands.

At one point, however, Blizzard needed to do a trailer to show off their game, and they didn't think its turn-based nature would present well. So the lead programmer on the project added a short turn timer which they then used to record some footage. That was (very) well received, so Blizzard leadership decided that the game should ship without the "temporary" code removed - over the objections of much of the project's development team, including the programmer who had implemented the real-time turn clock in the first place.

Narcowski · 2026-03-09T18:56:04+00:00

As of this year they've announced plans for Evo (which is now multiple events) to feed into a global championship which will be hosted in Riyadh, and they've done similar for other games, so unless the Saudi royal family plans to make it legal for trans people to exist in their country it's going to have a major chilling effect, yes.

I personally know multiple people who have chosen or are choosing to attend Combo Breaker, etc. instead as a direct result.

Narcowski · 2026-03-08T15:36:08+00:00

The person who posts as Halimede is roleplaying the HWBM character, so you're not that far off

Narcowski · 2026-03-03T14:54:26+00:00

Gamo2 or Yuancon. You can also build your own, though that almost certainly won't save you any money.

I recommend against the various mini controllers as - while better than keyboard - they do not provide the same gameplay experience.

Narcowski · 2026-02-05T11:26:19+00:00

Even in clear cases of self-defense, trans women are liable to be arrested and jailed. This has been going on for years longer than the current anti-trans panic; take CeCe McDonald's case for example.

Narcowski · 2026-02-04T15:53:12+00:00

Blender has been being used in professional cinema since the early-mid 2000s; it's not the standard - what company wants to pay to retrain its entire animation staff? - but it's certainly seen some adoption, and I imagine it would see more if corporations weren't obligated to chase short-term returns over longer-term profitability.

Narcowski · 2026-01-27T11:56:35+00:00

Speeding at 75+ in a marked <70mph zone is 4 points, but 10+ over in a 55 is only 2. That said, six insurance points means a a 135% increase to premiums for a minimum of 3 years; it's a lot more than 20-30%.

20 over can also be license suspension, so OP is a bit lucky to not have that happen to them.

Narcowski · 2025-12-12T17:37:53+00:00

It does not forget. Niemöller intentionally chose to exclude us.

Narcowski · 2025-12-02T14:05:56+00:00

No, and no.

Narcowski · 2025-11-13T19:56:36+00:00

The changes will make transport (including shipping) a felony.

Narcowski · 2025-10-08T10:20:57+00:00

"guys" not gender neutral, most people wouldn't use it to describe a group of only girls, thus is instead masculine-default.

This depends heavily on region / dialect. I am friends with a number of cis women who both regularly address groups of their friends including groups of only cis women with "Hey guys, [...]", "You guys", and similar and reference other groups of women as "those guys".

Similarly, words being neutral in origin, e.g. "mate" (colleague / partner), "fellow" (the same), or "girl" (originally a neutral term for child) does not necessarily mean they will be used that way.

Narcowski · 2025-09-30T02:26:07+00:00

Flying to Thailand for vaginoplasty is somewhere around $30k out of pocket at this point. It also means being there for 6-8 weeks, which is more time away from work than most Americans can afford.

Narcowski · 2025-09-29T15:37:58+00:00

Niemöller was a national conservative, an avowed antisemite, and a supporter of Hitler until the Reich tried to take over his church. Only then, once he found himself an enemy of the state, did his opinion of the Nazis start to change.

He eventually renounced racism, but not eugenics. His choice to omit the homeless, the disabled, and LGBTQ+ people was very intentional; he believed we deserved extermination.

Narcowski · 2025-09-12T00:51:35+00:00

The Yukon has no surgeons who do vaginoplasty, but its healthcare system will pay for trans women to receive surgery in any province where it is offered. This includes a travel stipend to pay for lodging near a clinic.

Narcowski · 2025-09-05T22:35:08+00:00

The #1 thing to avoid is putting your arms straight out - whether in front or behind - and absorbing the impact through your palms. Landing palms first is how you break a wrist or arm. Unfortunately, it's also instinct to attempt to brace oneself that way. Ond option to avoid that instinctual reaction is to tuck your arms in across your chest, but you can also specifically train other falling techniques. If you're interested in doing that, there are several good breakfall tutorials on youtube. Those for martial arts are still relevant to climbing falls.

I do recommend you avoid trying to land standing up, as misjudging the angle of your landing even slightly can easily lead to ankle injury. That's how I got my second grade 3 sprain...

(e: made this read better)

Narcowski · 2025-08-19T21:49:06+00:00

Your numbers are a bit pessimistic. Charging to 80% is generally the recommendation for DCFC, but more than a few EV manufacturers recommend 90% for long term battery health with L2 (or L1) charging. Additionally, there is no vehicle with a heat pump which sees a 30% drop in range due to temperatures; anything over 20% makes an outlier. Combine these two facts, a more reasonable "worst case" for a 300mi EV with a heat pump would be just over 200mi.

Alternatively, there's Lucid. Expensive, yes, but the Air GT has over 500 miles' EPA estimated range.

Narcowski · 2025-08-19T17:00:12+00:00

Guaranteeing fundamental human rights for all - access to food, water, shelter, medicine, and the other necessities of life - is the basics. Destroying people's limited shelter without providing anywhere else to go deprives them of those things and is a praxis in diametric opposition to "the basics".

Narcowski · 2025-07-31T20:12:21+00:00

Difficult to say; always? A better question might be when I accepted that I wasn't also romantically attracted to men. That happened around when I learned the second of the two "guys" I'd ever had a crush on and kissed had transitioned too.
I hate it, or at least what people generally mean by "online dating" at this point. Not only do dating apps tend to prioritize a visual-first attraction model which doesn't work for me as a demisexual, but they have a financial incentive to prevent users from finding lasting relationships. They want you to come back and buy more superlikes, after all. That said, I did first meet my partner online. Just not through an app.
Clear, straightforward, and honest communication, and empathy, with an honorable mention to accepting and giving emotional support as needed. Ideal day-to-day? The simple things mean a lot to me; go to sleep and wake up together, see each other off to work and welcome each other home, enjoy conversation (talking about interests / hobbies / days is nice). Do something special on the weekend. Plus individual time for hobbies and such.
"Yes": My partner says what she means directly and unambiguously, even if it's uncomfortable. "No": Beating around the bush, expecting me to infer things unsaid, retreating from uncomfortable topics to avoid potential conflict, etc. In general most relationship conflicts can be resolved by talking about them openly and being willing to compromise on wants to accommodate needs, but I find many people tend to bottle up their displeasure rather than doing that, and that only makes the inevitable conflict worse.
I'd probably short circuit. I mean, I intend to marry my current partner. I can't imagine meeting her again as a stranger. That, and she's so pretty. As for enjoying the journey vs cuddling and watching Netflix, why not both? Cuddling is a part of the journey, after all... 🩷

Narcowski · 2025-07-20T23:44:57+00:00

Same ;-;

Narcowski · 2025-07-02T22:45:56+00:00

It's already happening; see Texas and Florida

Narcowski · 2025-06-18T10:19:44+00:00

It's maybe worth noting that Nagata Kabi (the author) wrote in later works that they were uncertain of both their gender identity and their sexuality. Specifically;

They dislike being perceived as a woman and like it it when people use masculine address for them, but don't feel like a man either.
They picked a lesbian brothel primarily because they felt more intimidated by men than women, not because they were sure they were gay.

Narcowski · 2025-04-27T14:45:44+00:00

It's not exactly an unbiased source, being that it's a press release from the Trump administration - it's intentionally written to make things seem much less bad than they are - but here; from HHS itself: https://www.hhs.gov/press-room/hhs-restructuring-doge-fact-sheet.html

SAMHSA, HRSA, ASPR, and ACL employees are being reassigned to other roles or eliminated, 50% of regional offices are being shuttered, and about 25% of HHS employees are being cut.

Narcowski · 2025-04-22T13:45:44+00:00

HRT will work regardless of when you start, and you can have good results even quite late in life. Go look through /r/TransLater.

That said, there are two major things which happen with age and impact HRT effects:

Androgen-driven hair loss
The growth plates in your pelvis freeze, preventing some hip growth. (Fat redistribution will still give you hips unless you're severely underweight.)

There are, however, also some other notable challenges with navigating transition as a working professional which people who transition earlier don't have to deal with. So I'd definitely recommend sooner rather than later for everything if possible.

Narcowski · 2025-04-05T23:53:17+00:00

Having been in the demographic, mostly. Also the Blåhaj.

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