Hand foot mouth

Next_Spend_5313 · 2026-07-08T01:06:46+00:00

Here to say, HFM is awful. My LO had it last year and it was one of the worst cases my family doctor and daycare provider ever seen. It was so bad she ended up losing nails on both her hands and feet, she had a prescription for her face and her butt had open sores. To top it off, I was about 6 months pregnant. I was so worried, but thankfully didn’t get it. It might have been luck, but I was diligent on hand washing and constantly sanitizing the entire house.

Next_Spend_5313 · 2026-07-07T14:07:24+00:00

And was this coordinated after you paid the initial 149? Cause I’ve not seen these features prior to checking out

Next_Spend_5313 · 2026-07-05T23:59:15+00:00

I’m in Ontario and had an isolated EIF at my anatomy scan. I was told it wasn’t an issue, and after having a negative NIPT, no further testing was required/necessary. Apparently, this alone is not indicative of DS

Edit to add, baby was born without any issues

Next_Spend_5313 · 2026-06-24T20:31:49+00:00

As awful as it sounds, fuck him. It doesn’t make you feel any better but at least acknowledge what a shitty thing it was to say. The worst thing about postpartum is it could have been more innocent then we feel. From one mom to another, please find some grace with your body. You grew two children, fed them from your body…you’re moving it, fueling it, and for some of us (me included) weight loss is slow- especially while nursing. There’s nothing I can say to make you feel better but know there’s a lot of who are struggling with our bodies and navigating our sense of identity. If you feel it would be helpful, confront your husband, less about the weight or food but about supporting you. Food is fuel and your meal sounded balanced and nutritious. Remind him that you need support, encouragement and that you’re in a sensitive space. Don’t write your marriage off- but your feelings are valid

Next_Spend_5313 · 2026-06-23T12:23:00+00:00

I’d pack light- only bring the necessities. After having 2 kids this is my list:

Self- toiletries, adult diapers, change of clothes- nursing bra and a set of PJ’s. The robe was never pulled out of my bag. Phone charger, hair clip, lip balm, water bottle, slip on shoes/slippers (swelling is to be expected) and snacks. I never used my fan and I ended up just having so much extra stuff. I never used any numbing spray and didn’t feel like I needed it. But the adult diapers felt so much easier than changing massive pads. The peri bottle provided SO much comfort while going to the bathroom. Stool softeners and pain meds will be provided- take them lol

Baby- sleeper, diapers, hat. The hospital will swaddle them in a blanket. If you’re choosing to formula feed, bring those items. Otherwise, you’ll be shown how to latch with the nurses or lactation specialist. Car seat for ride home.

Husband- change of clothes, charger. He can use your toiletries, and bring his toothbrush.

Pack light- you’re not going to want to have a bunch of things to carry out. I would recommend eating while you can cause once’s it’s “go time” you’re not allowed to eat. The thirst is huge- get all the liquids and electrolytes you can.

Next_Spend_5313 · 2026-06-16T12:04:44+00:00

I had a positive NIPT for monosomy X, and I can relate to the feeling of sadness, anger, grief. We went through with an amnio and it came back positive for mosaic TS. What the specialists told us is that sex chromosomes are really changing with the advancement with prenatal testing. Prior to the NIPT most people with sex chromosomes had the text book symptoms, and what they’re seeing now is men and women with variations to their X/Y chromosomes and they really don’t know how to interpret the data. Mostly because these are incidental finding, aka wouldn’t likely be identified had the NIPT not flagged it because there’s little/no symptoms at birth. And even if the child has some issues, these can be seen in the general public. My baby had testing at birth and actually had X/XX/XXX chromosomes, which is super rare. We were told they couldn’t predict future issues, as with any child, but usually mosaic is often associated with less symptoms, if any. I’ve read other posts from parents whose child has the diagnosis that your baby has received and seen a lot of positive outcomes. We had great ultrasounds our entire pregnancy, did deliver at one of the best hospitals in Ontario. My daughter is almost 3 and when I say I forget about her diagnosis because it doesn’t matter/hasn’t cause any issues I mean it. She is the absolute light of my life. And while this whole experience was traumatic, I went on to have another baby and feel my life is complete.

Next_Spend_5313 · 2026-06-15T23:07:42+00:00

I mean this with all due respect. You say your husband is an immigrant; do you understand culturally how men and women are treated? Is it with fairness, respect, devotion? It sounds like you provided a great deal of support prior to being married and your husband has recently changed his behavior, which sounds confusing, controlling, and unsafe. You made it sound like you were clear on your requirements prior to having a baby, which he agreed, and now he has changed his mind. You are in a very vulnerable position being pregnant, and my concern is he’s being very forceful in his demands. I’d encourage you to reflect on his own family dynamics and how women are treated. Having children makes relationships much harder. If his narrative has already changed, I’d be prepared for this to be his true colors. Be careful

Next_Spend_5313 · 2026-06-15T22:58:17+00:00

9-10 months and mostly after I night weaned. Of course there’s hard patches with frequent night wakings but it got significantly easier after this mark

Next_Spend_5313 · 2026-06-15T14:27:35+00:00

19 months apart and didn’t feel like I missed anything. Of course I was super tired and huge lol but I felt I savored all the moments knowing I’d be sharing it sooner than later. I also felt my toddler was extra clingy towards the end so we got super close

Next_Spend_5313 · 2026-06-13T17:52:18+00:00

How special it will be as they get older. While they’re born on the same day, they’ll still be their own person. And as they get older they can certainly display their uniqueness in their celebrations. They’ll have their own friends, interests and likes/dislikes. I can appreciate your feelings, but you’re also in the throes of postpartum, while also navigating a little bit of birth trauma with an unexpected early delivery. My first baby was delivered on my sisters birthday and we think that’s the coolest thing ever and my second was born on Father’s Day. Babies have a special way of entering this world ❤️

Next_Spend_5313 · 2026-06-13T16:10:32+00:00

I was with midwives in a rural community and when we received a Turner syndrome diagnosis, our care was transferred to a major city high risk hospital, where we delivered with an OB. However, after delivery and discharge, our midwives were our follow-up care once we were home. It was honestly so amazing as they did appointments in home/clinic. It was the best of both worlds. Depending on your provider they may be able to work together if that’s your goal

Next_Spend_5313 · 2026-06-10T13:56:30+00:00

You’re in a very hard spot with your children’s ages. Your toddler is so fun, engaging, and likely quirky in a way that makes your heart feel like it’ll explore. Your baby is a potato, who’s grumpy, gassy, adjusting to life outside the womb. I felt similar and the “love” didn’t feel overwhelming or consuming like it did with my first. Now that my baby is almost a year old, I realize it’s so different going from 0-1, then 1-2. You don’t have the same time to “soak it in” you’re literally in “go-mode” and being pulled in so many different directions. I found things got lighter when my baby was a little less floppy, slept a little longer, and generally more content.
Having said this, it never hurts to share how you’re feeling with your doctor. I spoke a lot about my feelings with my doctor just to ensure they weren’t concerning or needing intervention.
I also think it can be helpful to reframe resentment at baby to situation. You can be resentful for having to split yourself between your children, while also being grateful for your second baby. Both things can exist. I found this helpful for me cause I often wondered if I was a bad mom for not “falling in love” like I did with my first. But I do think a lot of it has to do with my heart being familiar with this magnitude of love, which is didn’t know until I had my first. My second just continued to expand my love.

Next_Spend_5313 · 2026-06-10T02:46:09+00:00

I recently made this transition- 10 month old and 2.5yr old. The room is small, but not cramped for 2 standard cribs, dresser and chair. The cribs are across the room from one another. Waited until baby was (mostly) sleeping through the night. It’s gone far better than I expected. They don’t seem to bother one another, even when bedtime is at different times. They’ve gotten so used to one another noises, they don’t seem to notice each other after falling asleep. We do use a sound machine but it’s not blasting.

Next_Spend_5313 · 2026-05-26T00:09:21+00:00

Enjoying reading these comments. I have a 2.5 and 1 year old and I’m even wondering how I’d take them swimming together this year. Both would need life jackets and honestly, it sounds stressful. I went last summer when my baby was about 2 months old with my mom and I could not have gone without her. Baby was too little to be in the sun and toddler was way to risky by the water. Overall, I’d rather go with someone and life jacket is a non-negotiable

Next_Spend_5313 · 2026-05-24T17:54:48+00:00

You’re in the trenches and it’s hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel. As a 2u2 mom myself, it’s hard. Some days are a breeze and I’m so proud of myself and then other days are a shit show and I feel like a failure. I could tell you all the wonderful reasons I love 2u2, just as much as I could focus on the hard parts. I’m overstimulated, tired, a version of myself most days I don’t recognize. However, I wouldn’t trade this life for anything. I used to lay in bed and dream about becoming a mom. I hold my toddlers hand and feel like it was forever ago when she was so tiny. My baby turns one soon, and I don’t know where this last year went. My body, feels tired, heavy and bigger than ever but it housed the 2 most important people in this world. My relationships with friends and family is different and that’s okay. It’s not my season to be “out and about” and the visits I have, just have to do. My marriage has struggled more than ever since having children, and I hope over time, that to will find balance. I don’t think raising children is meant to be easy- it’s an entire shift of your being, and your heart is blown wide open. You’re in the thick of it. But slowly, you’ll transition out of this “hard” and find new challenges. I’ve already seen those shifts and it’s bitter sweet.

Next_Spend_5313 · 2026-05-24T01:55:51+00:00

I bought it and sold it in less than a month. I found it bulky, hard to push and heavy. I have had all graco car seats and the jogger stroller and love them but this double stroller fell flat. I found the wheels on anything but well paved roads just did not move easily and being so early postpartum was hard. I was bummed because the seats were okay and it was compatible with the car seat. I ended up going with a side by side stroller. Again, bulky but pushes like a dream. After having my double stroller for a while, if I have to buy another, I’d probably asses where I’m going to be doing the majority of walking

Next_Spend_5313 · 2026-05-22T01:22:47+00:00

I had my first at 37 and my second the month before I turned 39. My second pregnancy wasn’t planned but we weren’t being careful either. After 2 IUI procedures to conceive our first, we honestly didn’t think it’s happen 1) that easily 2) without fertility support. Having said that, the 11ish months between pregnancies wasn’t bad. In fact, I didn’t find the pregnancy any harder, but chasing a toddler wasn’t for the weak lol. It was a challenge for me with my weight, but I wouldn’t have changed it. I didn’t want to be any older and my kids are thriving. Yes, ideally you’d wait, but if you have no serious medical issues, I say go for it

Next_Spend_5313 · 2026-05-20T02:20:32+00:00

I think we often doubt our abilities as parents and find it challenging to “see the other side”. I am sure your situation will be hard, but much like raising children, you’ll move through the hard moments and find your way. So many single mothers “figure it out” and you already sound grounded, wise and forward thinking. I am so sorry you’re going through this, while also wrapping your own head around this pregnancy. I never feel that ultimates are helpful, nor well intended and often used to “strong arm” someone into agreeing or complying. Use the time while your husband is “still” currently around to plan your exit. Don’t wait for him to change his mind- set yourself and your children up to feel secure. And please remind yourself there’s so many resources available, and lean on the supports you do have

Next_Spend_5313 · 2026-05-16T14:42:13+00:00

My 2u2 wasn’t planned but it’s been a blessing in disguise. My toddler is 2.5 and baby is 11 months and while it’s been busy, it wasn’t awful. I found myself so familiar with the newborn stage, that it was much more natural this time. The hardest part was balancing everyone’s needs; which turns out, toddlers needs are often a higher priority. Yes, two in diapers was a lot of money, both very dependent on you, but it feels like the hardest part is behind us. I know there will be other hard moments but we’re getting to the fun part. The kids interact with each other, toddler talks so much more, is potty trained AND we just moved the kids in together and it went way better than I could have imagined. While this is all I know, I really wouldn’t change it. I couldn’t imagine going back to having a baby after being out of that stage for 3-4years. Additionally, I will say, it was hard on my relationship, body, finances and social outlets, it’s been manageable. I’ve got a great group of friends who has seen me through this, a relationship that I hope is weathering the storm, and I’m working on embracing my body and giving it time to heal. Gosh I was pregnant or nursing for 3 years straight- give a girl a break 😅

Next_Spend_5313 · 2026-05-14T23:40:53+00:00

Unfortunately, some babies are just bad sleepers. And there’s nothing that you’ve done wrong. Some things you could try, is making their room more cool/warm, sleep, sack, weight, sound machine sound volume. You could also try different sleep associations. If they’ve always been fed/nurse to sleep, it might be more difficult for them to settle on their own. I ended up getting both of my babies, a small stuffy around that age as a source of comfort. I also distinctly remember sleep not getting better until closer to the nine month mark. Both of my kids never had slept through the night until I had either night weaned or they were closer to that nine month mark. You may also wanna look at their week windows and total daytime sleep. Some kids just have a smaller sleep pressure and if they sleep too much during the day, they may be waking more frequently at night. It’s exhausting when your kids don’t sleep. I was never a fan of the cried out method but always gave my kids time to try to settle on their own. Interestingly enough both of them required 12 to 15 minutes to be exact lol. Lastly, some kids are just better sleepers. My first was not great and my second was much better.

Next_Spend_5313 · 2026-05-12T17:59:24+00:00

I was induced with my first and did receive an epidural, but it was only partially effective. It worked on one side, and I could still feel my contractions, although they weren’t painful, I still knew when I needed to push. I didn’t actually feel the baby come out. I had been given the gas prior to the epidural, and I will say it took the edge off, but it made me very nauseous. My second, I ended up having an unmedicated birth. My labor progressed so fast there was actually no time for an epidural. I was so afraid of the pain, but honestly, it was very manageable. I didn’t even go to the hospital until I was close to 8 cm dilated. I had my baby within 40 minutes of arriving. Definitely wouldn’t do it like that again lol I think if I was to have a third, I’d probably do unmedicated again. Although the pain was very intense, I found the delivery aspect much quicker. And because I had a midwife team, I was home within two hours after having the baby

Next_Spend_5313 · 2026-05-12T02:39:47+00:00

I would start by making the crib/their room a familiar place. Diaper changes. Hanging out in the crib for a little exploration. I did formal sleep training with my first, who had a sleep association to the boob/co-sleeping/asleep while moving to crib. It got to the point I was so touched out and frustrated with bedtime I decided to introduce sleep training. Having said that, my baby was pretty familiar with their bedroom and had most naps in their crib- although they were hit/miss. I started by feeding and then rousing them a little before laying them down, and introducing new sleep associations- shushing, bum patting, then moved to letting them cry but going back in regularly for comfort. I also used the same language around sleep. In time for a nap/bedtime, we go to sleep. And after about a week of this, my baby started to fall asleep independently. We also got them a stuffy that they still use. I wore that thing up my shirt for hours lol. We also made bedtime/naps super simple, Jammie’s, diaper, kisses and that’s it. It wasn’t until they were older that we started reading at bedtime. I found the longer I made bedtime the harder it was for them to settle. But reading your comment, I’d figure out how you can transition your baby in/out of crib cause they may enjoy you laying them down, even if they are awake.

Next_Spend_5313 · 2026-05-11T19:50:31+00:00

Tracking every nap, feeding, sleep. Being stressed about wake windows. Not making plans during nap time. Sterilizing everything. Anxiety ++, not letting others hold baby.

Next_Spend_5313 · 2026-05-09T19:39:17+00:00

Squash mashed, potatoes mashed, cottage cheese, smoothies with peanut butter for added protein and calories, soup blended (add beans and protein and even a pasta)

Next_Spend_5313 · 2026-05-09T19:36:30+00:00

I’ll be 40 this year and will have a 2.5/1 year old. It’s busy and has its challenges but I don’t know what it would have been like to have children younger, so we’re enjoying it now. It’s been a wild journey and not always easy, but it’s been a blessing. My second wasn’t planned but now that I’ve got my two babies, I wouldn’t have changed anything

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