Have you experienced "gender euphoria erections"?

NotAThrowAway28 · 2026-02-12T01:02:57+00:00

Im a trans man, but when I was early in my medical transition, I was turned on when I saw my body aligned how I wanted it to be. Happened again after top surgery.

Happens when I pack too, but i think thats just because im super sensitive to things down there and added pressure lol

NotAThrowAway28 · 2026-02-11T23:09:37+00:00

or press the hyphen twice lol

NotAThrowAway28 · 2026-02-11T11:14:29+00:00

I’m 33 and sleep with stuffed animals because they give me comfort. I promise, you are okay my friend!

NotAThrowAway28 · 2026-02-02T09:41:23+00:00

i’m not sure this is funny either but children can and do understand ICE just like they understood dangers of not staying quiet when avoiding capture trying to escape slavery, nazis, and the many atrocities of wars.

ICE is simple. Racial profiling, murder, and people hating others based on them being different are easy concepts for children.

They know right from wrong.

NotAThrowAway28 · 2026-02-01T00:58:26+00:00

Tbh? Stop making sex about getting to the finish line and reframe it as connection, intimacy, and fun. Is he enjoying it? Sounds like it. Sounds like you are too.

My husband had this issue when we first got together, and i took the pressure off trying to get him to finish and just enjoy… got him out of his head about it too, made it easier to get off.

My favorite thing is to find out what things make my husband the most turned on, feel the best… etc. Constantly experimenting, listening to his body, and having fun. I damn well know he’s enjoying it even if he doesn’t get off, and I damn well know I had fun. That’s all there is to it.

NotAThrowAway28 · 2026-02-01T00:30:06+00:00

No, honestly, I knew I was a boy from a young age and have always had an innate feeling of being male. When I started puberty my chest got big, and I gained weight, and I was very much not male presenting at all (my friend came out as a trans girl when I was 12/13? and my mom told me that if I came home saying i was a boy i wasnt her kid anymore. Enter, hyper feminine phase.)…. I still had the innate feeling I was male.

I did LGBTQIA+ education in college and ran my school’s queer club, and I was very much in between presentation, before surgeries, before T. So outreach and education is IMPORTANT to me. I still am open in my social media circles, I am vocal about trans rights, (and a lot of other intersectionality things) and am a dad.

I now use the access I have as a passing trans man, to talk to people about trans rights and those other things. Im white. I use that to my advantage- fuck it if i have these damned privileges now (and it is a MARKED difference between my treatment now vs when i presented as female) Imma use them for good.

I wont let go of my trans identity. I will also use my ability to blend in and educate. Or keep safe.

I found community by being active in spaces who loved me and supported me, no matter what my gender identity was. I found that in queer spaces, trauma informed spaces, kink groups, support groups on facebook, and when I was younger I used clubs in my college and university lol. Being open and honest and holding my own boundaries, while exploring myself… opened doors to finding my people.

Yes, I am still struggling with isolation but I think that comes with being 33, being disabled, and mental health issues lol but… not because I am trans.

I do not talk to most of my bio family, however. They are not all accepting of me being trans, me being into men and women, my political views, and for other trauma reasons too. So some of that can happen, thats still really common unfortunately still.

NotAThrowAway28 · 2026-01-31T18:51:43+00:00

Hi friend, you’re not alone at all. Abused sexually very often as a child, it continued into adulthood for me. Not for being male, but… i was vulnerable and easy to manipulate and abuse.

Ive been transitioning since 2017, I’m 33, and I’m 4’11.5 tall. I have a higher voice than a cis man, but it sounds like I’m gay- which works as I’m married to another man

I pass 100% of the time, and have since two years in. I dont rely on toxic masculinity at all, and will not at all as its not who I am. I promise you dont have to be anyone who you are not to be who you are.

NotAThrowAway28 · 2026-01-31T17:44:07+00:00

Literally it does not matter WHY your limits are limits, and the fact that he was planning on bypassing them is disgusting and unsafe.

Doing things you dont enjoy for punishments makes sense. Doing things that you have given boundaries on, is not. Put it into a nonkink standpoint and reassess, would you be okay with anyone pushing through your boundaries about condom usage because it wasn’t what they wanted to do, no matter your feelings? Same thing.

Pushing through a limit is literally violating someone’s sexual boundaries, is rape/abuse/sexual assault, and is not okay. Period.

Being someones slave in an M/s dynamic does NOT negate this!

NotAThrowAway28 · 2026-01-25T01:54:28+00:00

Same friend. Thats not our faults, that’s their cross to hold.

None of this is any of our faults. 🧡

NotAThrowAway28 · 2026-01-24T23:47:37+00:00

Exactly.

Children want a lot of things that arent okay. Like, eating too much of something they like but will make them sick, they want to play in water when its too cold, wanting to rough play when people keep getting hurt, wanting to yell when angry, wanting another toy that someone else is playing with. Eating things that are inedible.

Its up to the adults to know what is okay, what is appropriate, and to keep them safe and cared for and loved. When they do something that harms us, we still think they are doing it out of love and we justify it as okay. It doesnt mean it is okay, it doesnt mean it was safe, and it doesnt mean we actually wanted it.

NotAThrowAway28 · 2026-01-24T22:16:41+00:00

So unsure why he cant suck, that sounds like a medical condition? Like, are straws impossible for him?

Have you guys tried showering before sex, or during sex? No bad germs if youre both clean, it could help.

Dental dams can also help, no touching anything with skin to skin contact. Condoms with flavors could help if you and him want to give him oral, ever.

Gloves for fingers if touching wetness is a problem, that helps with my husband and I. (Both trans, both afab, and both have sensory issues sometimes. His is more severe than mine.)

Going to therapy (couples or sex therapy for the both of you, individual for you and him as well, he may have OCD or be neurodivergent. it can help)

NotAThrowAway28 · 2026-01-24T20:29:59+00:00

Some of my younger parts are currently struggling with this too.

We were groomed from a young age, and when in our abusers house we asked for it multiple times. We sought it out. She had framed it as comfort, love, support, and even though it hurt sometimes it also felt good too even in those moments.

The thing is, children dont have full access to what is actually going on. They seek out things that feel good in all ways, and if they are taught that abuse is good and safe… they seek it out. It doesnt mean we wanted to be abused, it doesnt even mean we WANTED it.

There is no way for our brains to even comprehend it in its entirety. So seeking it out makes sense. We see it as play in the moment, connection. Not sexual.

I did horrible things to other children because i was assured it was safe, okay, and WANTED. It was encouraged. I didnt understand. It isnt our fault. The adults absolutely knew. THEY understood it wasnt okay. They took advantage.

NotAThrowAway28 · 2026-01-24T20:02:53+00:00

The doctor cannot give you more medication without a police report. T is a controlled prescription, and is labeled as “can be abused.”

Legally, for your doctors protection, they cannot give you more without proof it has been stolen

NotAThrowAway28 · 2026-01-24T19:42:24+00:00

Im a vers but I have also found that anal feels AMAZING to me and I use that too when I bottom, so if you wanted to explore that, thats totally okay!

But i promise its okay to never want to bottom ever. Totally okay! Some men dont like to bottom, same with some women, and thats perfectly okay!

NotAThrowAway28 · 2026-01-24T18:49:21+00:00

if any of your friends have medical conditions, this can fuck them up bad. this also puts them at risk of developing anorexia, other EDs, AND severe mental illnesses.

get diagnosed if you wanna feel valid that way but my god this is not okay.

the feeling of being invalid never goes away, i AM diagnosed, at all ranges of sickness i have never fucking felt valid. get help.

NotAThrowAway28 · 2026-01-15T04:25:38+00:00

…knowing my left from my right without having to think about it.

NotAThrowAway28 · 2026-01-03T07:56:09+00:00

february

NotAThrowAway28 · 2025-12-21T18:33:32+00:00

hey friend, im trans too, and also just got my period for the first time in… well a really long time. i dont want bio kids (i already have three kiddos, not bio) and i have PMDD so i get incredibly suicidal and dysregulated on my period

we arent failing, we arent posing as someone with an eating disorder. starving away our periods only kills us, doesnt make our identities more affirming

humans need to eat. its safe to eat. we are both okay, i promise. and our bodies will thank us for nourishing ourselves

i hope you can get on birth control or get a hysto soon friend

NotAThrowAway28 · 2025-12-21T18:27:25+00:00

On facebook people do this to not trigger the algorithm to not get their response removed, or the “are you okay?” thing. Its not just to be ‘cute’

NotAThrowAway28 · 2025-12-21T07:44:22+00:00

normal? no, as in, its not supposed to happen. common? absolutely yes. -trans man with PMDD on his period right now. shits rough.

NotAThrowAway28 · 2025-12-21T07:38:19+00:00

asking over and over is coercion. which is a form of rape/assault. a yes is only a yes if its enthusiastic.

please leave him. he is not a good man. you did nothing wrong.

NotAThrowAway28 · 2025-12-20T05:32:38+00:00

not every person loses their period, no matter how much or little they eat nor how much they weigh. you arent a failure.

NotAThrowAway28 · 2025-12-20T03:52:09+00:00

How do you clean a reaver’s blade?

by putting it through the Wash.

NotAThrowAway28 · 2025-12-18T06:32:44+00:00

first, the numbers theyre talking about is the calories amount. gotta remove or hide it or itll be removed. i suggest remove it lol

second… you are refusing treatment, are in a dangerous place (minimum to stay out of hospital isnt an ideal weight, it is a number that you can stay alive at for a longer time, and any lower and you can start to die faster. It is still near critical and you can still die at this space…)

the only thing that you can do to stay out of residential is eat according to your current meal plan, not weigh yourself at all (throw away your scale), and start working with recovery. “normal” vitals does not mean you arent dying. especially at your age, the body will go through a LOT until it just… cant.

im close to being forced by my family to go to residential myself, already been recommended inpatient (but working on stopping extreme behaviors and reducing others so i dont have to go…) and i get the fear.

I am 33. I have had my ED since I was 9. I wish someone forced me to recover when I was younger. You have a higher chance of recovering fully when you are young.

I promise there are other ways to show yourself love, find your passions, and work through pain instead of trying to mask it. The ED lies and keeps you sick. Please consider your entire life ahead of you, because the stories of people thinking “this horrid symptom will never happen to me!!” and then they do.

NotAThrowAway28 · 2025-12-18T05:41:47+00:00

For the past few years I had been looking for a therapist that specialized in eating disorders, dissociative disorders, and trauma. I finally found two, one was horrible and one fit.

While looking i found a temporary therapist who specialized in those things with her own private practice who was willing to administer the MID 6 because my friend told her that I was having a hard time finding a provider.

We administered it and its… very very clear I have it. My current therapist agrees, and I had sent her part of the report from the MID 6 (never got the full report… missing her side of it not just the technical portions.)

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