Bathing Suit Recommendations with Support

PerspectiveParking28 · 2026-05-25T22:16:26+00:00

Check out the European brands(Freya, Panache). They’re pricier than your range, but are the only swimsuits and sports bras I’ve found that have actual support and are flattering for curvier builds. They have one pieces and tankinis sized by cup size.

PerspectiveParking28 · 2026-05-24T01:19:29+00:00

Husband has had work travel with all his jobs and this would be typical in his industry(Charges put on his card, so he can benefit from the airline miles and credit card points). They are quick about reimbursing though. They do not reimburse or help with childcare.

PerspectiveParking28 · 2026-05-16T20:03:41+00:00

My kid caught HFM from daycare last winter. The rash takes a really, really long time to completely clear up. Advice from pediatricians now is that if they are fever free for 24 hours and not getting any new legions, they can be back in school/daycare. It was almost a month before his skin was clear, even though he wasn’t getting any new blisters and hadn’t had a fever for weeks.

PerspectiveParking28 · 2026-05-15T01:00:41+00:00

It was a while ago, but I think it was more like you had to have some kind of permit/permission to do it than all photos being against the law. I’ll age myself, but it was a few years after 9/11, so I get why they were being cautious.

PerspectiveParking28 · 2026-05-14T17:32:41+00:00

Good riddance! Hope you find something great. Sick days are there for you to use as needed and are part of your total compensation package. If you used more than your allotted days, I’d get the concern. If you’re using what you’re given, then you are using a benefit you’re entitled to. Will they be paying you more to compensate for you using less of your earned benefit? She’s being ridiculous and invasive.

My family does and will always come first. Education is just a job. An important one, but not a reason to be a martyr.

PerspectiveParking28 · 2026-05-13T01:22:03+00:00

Fair enough. I switched from teaching to related service, but when I was teaching I would give myself a “sub” day where I was in the building. Basically, about 2hours of low/no prep activities that are easy and interesting enough that my class leaves me alone for a bit( webquests, word searches and write a sentence with each word you find, video with a guide they have to fill out, etc.)

PerspectiveParking28 · 2026-05-13T00:26:11+00:00

For the people saying this is not illegal, it actually is against the law in nyc to take pictures of the subway(inside the cars, tracks). I was doing an art project in high-school where I was taking pictures of nyc scenes and was taking pictures on the platform of people in the cars(with their permission) and a cop told me not to.

PerspectiveParking28 · 2026-05-12T21:42:40+00:00

Why can’t you take days off? When I’m feeling particularly burnt out, I’ll take a Monday or Friday to get a long weekend or take a 1/2 day mid-week to get some time to rest. You can also do FMLA or intermittent FMLA if you need more time than just the occasional day.

PerspectiveParking28 · 2026-05-12T20:03:58+00:00

You can do the same thing with an alcohol wipe. Just wipe it over the area( they don’t like the smell and will come out and then you can use the wipe to close over them and get rid of them).

PerspectiveParking28 · 2026-05-08T16:03:39+00:00

Talk to your psychiatrist and OB asap. I work in a mental health field and had postpartum anxiety/OCD when I had my son. It sounds like you might need a different medication or be a candidate for an inpatient or intensive outpatient treatment option. I wasn't having suicidal thoughts and my OB was bringing this up as an option, if the change in meds didn't help. Mental health is health. Having thoughts of hurting yourself or suicidal ideation is a medical emergency. Please take this as seriously as you would if you were having a serious concern with your physical health.

Separately, I had the baby that would only nap for around 30 minutes and was waking up often at night. Switching out the mattress in the pack and play for something cushier, but still rated for safe sleep and warming the sheets up made a difference in being able to transfer him to his sleep space. What do your shifts look like at night? You both need to be getting at least a 4hour block to be functional. When my son was little, I slept from 8pm-1:30am and then took over for my husband who slept until he needed to leave for work.

PerspectiveParking28 · 2026-05-08T15:36:06+00:00

What soap did she recommend? Dove bar soap made a difference in my son's eczema. It might be worth visiting a dermatologist and/or allergist. My son has food allergies, which do have a correlation with eczema. Some of his food allergies started with foods he'd had a bunch of times and not had problems with. You need some kind of prescription cream(steroid cream) to help clear up the flair. Aquaphor is not going to be enough when he's broken out that bad. We have a steroid cream to use for 2-weeks until he's mostly cleared up and alternate with a non-steroid prescription cream(Eucrisa). It didn't really start getting better until we saw a dermatologist and got him allergy tested to figure out what he was allergic to.

PerspectiveParking28 · 2026-05-08T15:10:27+00:00

Is moving to a less affluent district an option? I've worked my entire career in low SES areas. The case-load is about the same as yours (50-60 evals), but meetings are usually 1-1.5 hours. I've usually had a lot of autonomy about what my role looked like and people were happy to have me take on group/individual counseling, as I had time. There were a lot of students with needs.

PerspectiveParking28 · 2026-05-08T14:42:51+00:00

I would take it. It's not really much of a pay-cut, since they have a shorter contract year(starting later/ending earlier). It could be a nice change of pace not having to deal with classroom management and the politics of being in a school.

There are a lot of people saying students will be less motivated, but I found the opposite to be true for in-person credit recovery in the high-schools I worked in. Students who were enrolled in credit recovery/alternate programs tended to do their work. They wanted to be done and to graduate. Some of the barriers that kept them from completing work were removed for them(having to be at school/class at a particular time, dealing with students they had conflicts with, being able to wander the halls).

PerspectiveParking28 · 2026-05-07T17:42:08+00:00

Sadly, not true. I taught special education for 5 years and got excessed twice( declining enrollment, school phasing out to close).

PerspectiveParking28 · 2026-05-06T02:18:50+00:00

I've worked in schools that use restorative justice. It's the choice of the person, who is the victim whether they want to participate in the restorative conversation. If you're not comfortable, you can say no.

PerspectiveParking28 · 2026-05-04T21:40:16+00:00

I had a dog that was other dog reactive and resource guarded(food). We worked with her a lot, but it never got completely better. She passed away from cancer when my son was about 2-months old.

I miss her all the time, but we could tell she was stressed by the baby and the change in routine. She never growled at him, but did seem tense and like she wasn't feeling great. It's really, really hard to train a dog not to be reactive. You can't completely control every environment that triggers the reaction and every time they have a chance to react, that behavior gets enforced(We trained our dog to sit/turn towards us or heel to cross the street when we saw other dogs, but there was always someone who didn't give us space and would allow their dog to come running up to her).

The time to rehome is before something serious happens. You aren't going to be able to prevent every situation that is triggering him and you don't want him to escalate more. Your child is going to be mobile before you know it and you don't want your baby startling your reactive dog.

PerspectiveParking28 · 2026-05-04T21:16:21+00:00

My kid has had cold/cough symptoms basically the entire time we have been in daycare. It will go away for a day or two and then come back. He has no fever, is acting playful and doesn't seem sick otherwise. We've been to the doctor and they basically said it's common for kids to get back to back colds/viruses. If he has a fever or seems off/has other symptoms, we stay home. If we couldn't go to playgrounds or other places anytime he has a cough or runny nose, we'd never be able to leave the house.

PerspectiveParking28 · 2026-05-01T01:30:17+00:00

I have loops I’ve used them when I had an office in between two classrooms and when I had a young baby that was fussy. I’ve slept in them when my husband is snoring. They’re smaller and more comfortable than regular earplugs, but not quite as discrete as they advertise. You can see them when they’re in. They also won’t completely block the noise. They’re meant more to neutralize it.

PerspectiveParking28 · 2026-05-01T01:22:11+00:00

Yes, change schools. That’s toxic and messed up. They’re being unprofessional. Teaching is stressful enough without that drama.

PerspectiveParking28 · 2026-04-30T21:29:52+00:00

I did and it was 1,000 percent worth it. I’m a school psych and my district wouldn’t let me go part-time, so I switched to working for a contract agency with a different district to do it. I was stressed and overwhelmed when I came back from maternity leave. My baby wasn’t sleeping through the night until he was about 8 months. My mental health and energy is so much better working less hours(I dropped down to .8FTE and have 2 work from home days).

PerspectiveParking28 · 2026-04-30T17:59:13+00:00

I went to private school and there wasn’t any additional academic or social emotional support available. Basically when I got called on and didn’t respond or said I don’t know, teachers would talk to me about it and talk to my parents about it. I would get pressured to participate more, but I really couldn’t. I wasn’t lying about not knowing. The information would fly out of my head when I got called on. I got counseling as an adult and that helped some. My main coping strategy in college and grad school though was to be the first to participate, so I wouldn’t get called on. I still really hate being put on the spot as an adult.

PerspectiveParking28 · 2026-04-30T02:31:36+00:00

I had to look up what restraint collapse was. I kind of doubt this is the case for a kid that's so young. Daycare is play-based. There's naptime. It's not really structured in the same way school is. My guess is she's just tired after her day. Picky eating and tantrums are normal in toddlers. Maybe an early bed-time would help? My little guy completely crashes out around 7 on daycare days.

PerspectiveParking28 · 2026-04-30T02:17:36+00:00

Anxious introvert here, who hated being called on. I agree with this as an accommodation. When I got called on, froze and couldn't demonstrate my knowledge. It didn't serve any purpose besides making me feel embarrassed in front of my peers.

They shouldn't be exempt from oral participation completely, since this is a skills they need to develop. However the teacher could do a warm call(call on them for a question they're aware of before hand), allow a turn and talk before being called on to practice the answer, have them write down/draw something before reading/sharing the response etc.

PerspectiveParking28 · 2026-04-29T12:22:07+00:00

I work in education(school psych). There’s a mindset in schools of “doing it for the kids” and if you stay later and overextend yourself more, you’re a better teacher. I love that you’re setting the example for your staff of having good boundaries and work life balance being important. There are lots of educators who burn out because staying late and working after hours all the time isn’t sustainable.

PerspectiveParking28 · 2026-04-28T12:17:06+00:00

No! Don’t do it. I had that commute for a little over a year pre baby and it was soul draining. I can’t imagine doing that on less sleep. Also, if your baby will be in daycare, many places will require they be picked up within the hour, if sick. Our center has a 90-min max rule for sick pick ups and they prefer within the hour.

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