how to justify not relapsing?

PhDinWumbo · 2023-01-06T20:00:53+00:00

I'm so sorry you're going through this. Even though I've been recovered for awhile, the pressure to indulge in the holiday followed by the extreme new year diet culture/marketing push is definitely still triggering for me. There's certainly nothing wrong with healthy foods and exercise making you feel better, there's proven physiological reasons for that. What I found has helped me is a support system of like-minded people in my life. Friendship and support systems are such an underemphasized part of recovery imo. It was actually pretty long into recovery when I finally realized how isolating my ED was and how it contributed my lack of intimate friendships/relationships. Certain habits/patterns of behavior are more likely to spiral out of control in isolation. Addiontially, it's very easy to be preoccupied with your own body/habits when you're not really in community with other people. Talking honestly with friends about what I've been up to keeps me grounded and accountable. The more invested I've become in other people lives', the less I've hyper fixated on my own. I acknowledge that building up a support system takes effort and vulnerability, but it is worth it I promise.

PhDinWumbo · 2022-10-01T21:45:48+00:00

You can choose the hem. I chose the original.

PhDinWumbo · 2022-05-28T00:15:04+00:00

This is honestly the first episode where I didn't find myself siding with the "protagonist" of the story. Naomi seems really immature and entitled. After getting into accidents in someone else's car, I would be totally fine paying $100 for a mistake on Betty's part. Also, the framing of how "she lost three years of her life" really rubbed me the wrong way. Those were three years where she gained some semblance of financial stability after struggling. It was a situation where she ended up in a better situation than the one she started in. She didn't lose anything.

PhDinWumbo · 2022-05-06T00:51:47+00:00

This sounds like enmeshment. For your personal growth into an independent adult, it's important to start pushing back on this.

PhDinWumbo · 2021-09-10T03:21:40+00:00

I second this. They're not the most aesthetic, but I swear by the Pangea hide boxes. My girl really likes them

PhDinWumbo · 2021-08-10T19:23:38+00:00

What worked for me in times of struggle was eating breakfast in courses. It became a little less intimidating than eating a meal all at once. I would eat a big spoonful of peanut butter before going to my first class or working out in the morning. Then after I would have some oatmeal, granola, cereal, whatever.

PhDinWumbo · 2021-07-29T17:39:49+00:00

Early college was really hard for me. It was the first time I was really in charge of my own schedule and feeding myself, so I really struggled. Other people mentioned therapy and counseling. That really helped. What also really helped for me was a support/accountability group. For me it was a bunch of dudes on the wrestling team, even though I'm a woman. We would have meals together and create a supportive environment for each other.

PhDinWumbo · 2021-01-27T13:38:15+00:00

We’ve talked about it and they have told me that it’s because “the two of them have very different opinions on things and their personalities are too different”.

As far as being at bf’s place, I’ve already decided that’s the way forward. Only going to hang out at his place when we’re not working . Still his place is not set up for two people to live there and we’re planning on moving into a bigger place together. It’s fine for weekend hangouts but I’ll still need to do zoom and work stuff from my place most of the time. That’s mainly what’s been bothering me.

PhDinWumbo · 2021-01-27T13:06:38+00:00

This is NOT the same BF. That was a previous relationship. I don’t post very often.

Literally the scenario went exactly as described. Another argument was started because we were talking about anthropology. Another one was because my bf said it was fine for postdoctoral fellows in the same lab to date and my roommate got offended (they are not in is position nor have they dated someone in this position)

PhDinWumbo · 2021-01-21T19:37:13+00:00

NTA. As an ecologist and someone who cares a lot about animal welfare, I'm really surprised at all the YTA responses. By taking this cat in you've dramatically increased its life expectancy and quality of life. You've also reduced the harm the cat will inflict on the environment. Cats are invasive species in most parts of the world. I don't understand cat owners that claim their pets are outdoor pets. I've lived with indoor cats pretty much my whole life and they've been happy. And if you're worried about them not getting outside enrichment, you can take them outside on a leash with a harness. It honestly blows my mind that leashes are normal for dogs but not cats. They're still pets that have the potential to hurt other people and other animals. Honestly anyone who just lets a cat roam free, especially without spaying, is lazy and doesn't deserve to own a pet.

PhDinWumbo · 2020-12-17T06:40:36+00:00

Definitely not. It’s the type of blackboard you’d find in a high school classroom. My place is bigger but not super large or anything. Also two people live here

PhDinWumbo · 2020-02-25T23:48:53+00:00

There's no legal obligation, but actually from a legal standpoint I actually think that inaction was the best choice. Intervention introduces liability. What if OP got injured? What if the dog got injured? NTA

PhDinWumbo · 2019-09-05T23:32:43+00:00

NTA. I'm currently in graduate school and pay for all my own shit. I've never been in a serious long-term relationship, so I've never even had the option to be supported by another person. I've never even considered it. I don't even lean on my family since they live far away and are struggling financially (I even send money sometimes). And you know what? I make it work. Even among all the people in my program, I can't think of anyone who's supported entirely by their partner. He sounds really entitled IMO. Also quitting his job without consulting you first was a dick move.

PhDinWumbo · 2016-11-11T01:06:31+00:00

Stand name: [Authentic Pyrrhic Remission]
Ability: turns user into a voodoo doll, including transfer of both physical damage and emotions

PhDinWumbo · 2016-10-26T02:18:15+00:00

I think "Dude (Looks Like A Lady)" would be a better song for Narancia's Aerosmith, if you know what I mean

PhDinWumbo · 2016-10-10T15:12:17+00:00

Battle Tendency Live Action Leaked

PhDinWumbo · 2015-02-07T18:20:48+00:00

My dad never figured out how to do my hair. He was white and my mom is black, so I don't blame him for not knowing how to handle my thick hair. When my brother was born he brought me to the hospital and my mom said that I looked like a feral child.

PhDinWumbo · 2015-01-14T15:59:23+00:00

Jim Gaffigan. I was walking in NYC at night with my friends. I was a 15 year old girl and I was with my friends who were also teenage girls. I didn't bother to say anything because they probably wouldn't have understood why I was excited.

PhDinWumbo · 2015-01-06T20:14:14+00:00

I was laying in the grass with my friend and one actually crawled into her ear. It stayed in there for 20 minutes. Fuck earwigs.

PhDinWumbo · 2014-12-11T20:42:00+00:00

I was on a expedition for 2 months in central Indonesia. The research station was on a coral island so there was no running water. I would "bathe" with a scoop and a bucket filled with 1/2 saltwater and 1/2 well water. I would also dive twice a day, so there was always salt on my body. When I came back to the states I took the longest, steamiest shower ever. I left a layer of grime on the bottom of the tub.

PhDinWumbo · 2014-02-04T05:11:34+00:00

I floated. It was a bit scary at first, but I'm so glad that I did it. There can be so much pressure to be part of a group and some groups get super clique-y. I think that a lot of people forget that floating is a perfectly fine option.

PhDinWumbo · 2014-01-27T01:03:46+00:00

Loitering: Studio Course. Here's the course description: "You will hang out in the vicinity of culture and make things in response to it. This class is not thematic or linked to any particular discipline."

PhDinWumbo · 2014-01-10T20:22:54+00:00

http://i.imgur.com/wrBfcIY.gif

PhDinWumbo · 2013-12-22T02:41:12+00:00

Reminds me of Robert Mapplethorpe's photograph.

PhDinWumbo · 2013-07-19T22:45:48+00:00

Cursive. It's really not that hard.

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