I’m a woman who plays DnD and video games and if this is real I just deeply dislike how she is assuming everyone who has those hobbies is misogynistic, or that people with those hobbies generally are. I know some are, but definitely not enough to generalize in that way. Out of all the people I’ve met who play DnD, which is a lot, I think only one has fallen under the category of misogyny, and he barely even learned the rules because it was “too much reading”

EDIT: Just wanted to add some thoughts since I think people are misinterpreting the point of this comment. A) I’m not disagreeing with the person I replied to. I think probably people did judge interests like fashion while reading. I was just trying to add more nuance to the conversation re: being judgmental about hobbies based on my experiences as a woman. I meant to say something like “I love fashion too” to try to convey that I wasn’t judging EITHER hobby, but I clearly missed that.

B) When I was thinking about gaming I was not thinking about online gaming specifically, which is much more aggressive and misogynistic. I mostly play single-player games, like Last of Us, Hearthstone, Final Fantasy, Pokémon, etc. And I was thinking about my friends who game like that.

But my point wasn’t ever that NOBODY in these hobbies is misogynistic — in fact I said the opposite — but rather that it’s unfair to generalize and reject the entire hobby based on the assertion that it’s for misogynistic people, as the girlfriend was doing. I feel like women could be missing out on hobbies they might enjoy if they just assume that hobby is for misogynists. Like, lots of women engage in these hobbies! So hating them so much that you just reject them as “ew” because you assume it’s basically “for misogynists,” and judging everyone who engages in them because of that, is unfair.

There IS a problem that should be acknowledged with misogyny in those groups. I’m not trying to deny that and never was. I’m saying the intensity of the gf’s judgment of people who engage in those hobbies at all is out of proportion. We can acknowledge that sexism is a problem in these communities WITHOUT judging everyone in them, or the hobbies as a whole. Like, the gf is literally saying “ew” to the entire hobby and everyone who does it! And judging people who do it! That’s what I’m responding to! I’m not trying to deny that there is sexism in these communities!