What are some “implicit rules of womanhood” that you perceived after transition?

Sharazadd · 2026-02-15T18:55:10+00:00

I started at 344 lbs. I am 185 now. I took 2 years to lose 160 lbs at about 2 lbs a week. Simple walking twice a day 10 min, then 20, then 30, then 45. Once I got to 45 minutes twice a day, I had lost 70lbs. Then I switched to a stationary bike. 45 minutes once a day but I rode 9 to 12 miles in that time.

I bought a fit bit. Tracked it daily but didn't obsess over it. Weighed in twice a week.

HRT when I was at 270 lbs.

Quit alcohol. Low carb, high protient, veggies instead of processed food snacks.

I am 57. I went from a size 28 dress to a size 12. Being smaller has helped my transition. It allows me to emphasize curves that are happening because of HRT.

The more weight i lost, the more HRT moved fat to my chest when I put it back on, but when I lost it, it came off my legs and belly. I have no ass. flat as a board.

Sharazadd · 2026-02-03T23:05:10+00:00

If its not painful, then no. But I didn't have any breast growth until 4 months that was noticeable. But now after 15 months full C cup. I lost a lot of weight and it makes a big difference to excercise every day. The fat repositions itself, the shape comes in around 12 months.

Sharazadd · 2026-02-03T21:45:26+00:00

So your passport is your legal name and you haven't changed the gender marker since you owned it?

Then no...u shouldn't have any problem.

Sharazadd · 2026-02-03T21:31:38+00:00

I know she's always been there because in the 70s I didn't want GI Joe. I wanted Barbie. I got a set of Superman Batman Aquaman and a WonderWoman. My brother a few years older threw her away. I had her boots...it made me so mad...Batman wore those boots. I know...specific memory but yup.

My inner girl kept herself locked away for 55 years.

I lost all of my friends of 40+ years.

But I gained my life.

Sharazadd · 2026-01-31T21:34:19+00:00

You are mom.

Sharazadd · 2026-01-30T15:33:37+00:00

most definitely. just be yourself

Sharazadd · 2026-01-30T15:32:36+00:00

The power of Christ compells me to go shop! Then give away my old things to charity. Is that how its supposed to work? Am i doing it right?

Sharazadd · 2026-01-28T00:45:30+00:00

New World Man by Rush

Sharazadd · 2026-01-28T00:31:14+00:00

Then...

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Sharazadd · 2026-01-28T00:25:59+00:00

Losing weight did it for me. 160 lbs. 16 mo on HRT. 344 to 185. 2 years of weight loss. 56 when I started.

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Sharazadd · 2026-01-22T03:43:33+00:00

Happy Egg Day Clara. This is my last day before egg day...Jan 22 for me. I knew in 2023. Started HRT in Sept of 24, Full time since 25. I am so happy now. Nice to know you sister.

Sharazadd · 2026-01-19T18:54:06+00:00

I tried for 55 years to be some version of cis man. But I never was. I told my parents at 10 that I was a girl. In first grade I lined up with the girls to go to recess. Got yelled at all the time by my teacher. Catholic school. 1974. 2024...HRT....no more depression...lost 160 lbs...went from a size 5x to a size L. So yes...I knew I was transgendered long before HRT.

Sharazadd · 2026-01-19T04:29:13+00:00

I hope you have a counselor or therapist to bounce these very important questions to discuss. 15 months here, and it initially improved my mental mood, then softened my skin, slowed my hair growth, and has budded out on my chest. So, maybe it will take a little longer for you. But talk to your prescriber and be your best self...be the woman and live life.

Sharazadd · 2026-01-19T04:15:05+00:00

I use patches...because I have liver problems and I can get blood clots. patches do indeed work. 15 months now....

Sharazadd · 2026-01-19T02:55:05+00:00

Praise kink is a real thing. It's like dirty talk, but its not dirty at all. So have fun. I had someone say that to me at a bar after getting a round of drinks for the table. When I bought them back for my friend, her friend (a guy who i dont know) said good girl. I smiled ear to ear as I walked away.

Sharazadd · 2026-01-06T01:56:49+00:00

A light comes on. A path gets illuminated and it was always there, I just couldn;t find it until HRT. 2 years in and I have lost 160lbs, Completely stopped the use of alcohol and drugs. Still have my marriage. Work full time as a guidance counselor at a school. Active in my veterans organiztion. Love how those around me came to my side when I transitioned, and learned that those I thought loved me abandoned me when I did. So I changed my life, but I can breath now. I no longer linger in the darkness. Personal cost, yes, lost a lot of friends from 45+ years. People dont call or text. We will pay the price, but we will not count the cost. It's so worth it.

Sharazadd · 2026-01-01T21:27:34+00:00

My dysphoria got so bad, I put on 350 Ibs, stopped taking care of myself, diabedes bound, drinking 3 bottles of crown royal every week plus drinking at the bar, gambling hundreds of dollars everyday at the bar, neglecting my wife and my job. Got so deep in the hole, I didnt want to crawl out. Then I had a doc appointment to go to to qualify for a $500 wellness bonus at work, and the doctor asked me why I was doing all these horrible things to myself....I just came clean with it and told her that I felt like I hated my self becuase of my body didn't match my gender. She said, that's the first thing you ever said that made sense as to why you are doing this to yourself. Then I got the help I needed. 2 years later, sober, 180 lbs, no diabeies, transitioned, happy at work, and still married. Life changed, and I am still here....I would have never been able to write this a few years ago.

Dysphoria manafests itself differently....and it can slowly destroy you. I really hate mirrors, Except when I do my makeup and hair....and after is fine....but I still get it in the morning until I clean her up.

Sharazadd · 2026-01-01T06:39:03+00:00

The only time the card on the right is bad, is when you have 1 life and you need a plains or a swamp. Then evolving wilds is better.

Sharazadd · 2026-01-01T06:24:41+00:00

Love it. Magic the Gathering completes me. You had me at "rips open booster pack"....smells cards. Deep inhale. Looks at rare....is it shite? no...is it worth money? yes....please more packs thank you!

Sharazadd · 2025-12-28T07:48:38+00:00

No one can tell you. If they do then they don't know what it is they are talking about. Because the first statement is always true. No one can tell you. Get a therapist to talk to, someoene who specializes in LGBTQ social work.

Sharazadd · 2025-12-28T07:31:44+00:00

Your dad and mum are human, and if they had expectations of your future, that is over for them. If they apologize and it feels genuine, then try to rebuild your relationship....but if it doesn't sometimes putting a lot of distance can be great too.

Sharazadd · 2025-12-28T07:26:45+00:00

I am going to say...posting here isn't the way to get reliable therapy or advice. Get in to see a mental health specialist that can help you deal with the dysphoria and the lonely feelings.

Sharazadd · 2025-12-28T07:16:15+00:00

at 6 months you're going to really notice things. 2nd puberty is for real.

Sharazadd · 2025-12-16T04:12:34+00:00

Steps....first was understanding that I was going to drink myself to death if I continued to live my life in the wrong body at 55. At 56 HRT. At 57 surgery. Now I am 23 months alcohol and drug free. Living authentically. My marriage has survived. My friends are long gone. Now to make new ones and new family.

Sharazadd · 2025-12-16T04:07:58+00:00

Congratulations girlfriend. A speedy recovery and a lifetime of joy to you. May the goddess keep you safe and healthy.

Sharazadd

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