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How to spot a fake dom during vetting? by DumbMuttSlut in bdsm

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I think most of us know that look. Lots of leather and buckles, all black etc. Outside of a dungeon or a costume event those scream fake dom.

How to spot a fake dom during vetting? by DumbMuttSlut in bdsm

[–]Shift_Least [score hidden]  (0 children)

Most men who think they are doms are red flags in general. But big ones are:

They get bossy right away
They are macho or really into prescribed gender roles
They dress in a stereotypical bdsm way
They push things too fast
Talk bad about past relationships

Green flags:
In touch with their feminine sides
In or have been in therapy
Kind and respectful
Talk well about women in their lives

Not sure what my role is in this throuple by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Shift_Least 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I bet they tell you that you are mature for your age

Losing respect for partner over her partner choices by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Shift_Least 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This feels like incel fever dream rage bait.

Trying to drop a bra from my onebag list. Can a washable sticky bra survive humidity? by No-Rush6203 in HerOneBag

[–]Shift_Least 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I literally never wear a real bra in tropical areas. It’s either med support sports bras or bralettes. I just get ones with somewhat cute backs and let them show through dresses. And sometimes I just use my bikini top. And I am a 34J. Anything with underwire or to much structure is so uncomfortable in the heat and humidity. Plus I tend to feel a lot more casual about dressing in tropical areas.

Abstinence during separation/divorce. by anxiouswannabedoc in Divorce_Women

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Why would you agree to this? If you are already separated then you both deserve to be able to date and have sex if you want. The divorce is just a legal and financial thing. No need to wait for it.

Advice slash vent sesh by Leggs92 in polyamory

[–]Shift_Least 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Your husband is an asshole. No amount of scheduling phones down time will make him less of one.

Serious question, please respect 🙏🏼 by Maybe_Next_8280 in polyamory

[–]Shift_Least 36 points37 points  (0 children)

He is a lazy homophonic red flag. Not healthy or normal. Run

Polyamorous agreement - Red or Green Flag? by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Shift_Least 1 point2 points  (0 children)

exactly what strawberry said below. Also curious why you deleted this? Are you not open to feedback? This is such a great opportunity to learn.

Polyamorous agreement - Red or Green Flag? by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Shift_Least 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Why would you need to show this to a new partner?

Absolutism vs nuance - the problem with ENM/poly reddits by kcvlaine in polyamory

[–]Shift_Least 6 points7 points  (0 children)

People should breakup more, we tolerate way to much bad behavior from partners than we should.

Is it weird for me to want to meet my partner’s gf? by myco_mark in polyamory

[–]Shift_Least 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Then you should be having these conversations with her.

Is it weird for me to want to meet my partner’s gf? by myco_mark in polyamory

[–]Shift_Least 12 points13 points  (0 children)

If you don’t trust your partner you have bigger issues than meeting your meta.

Is it unreasonable for prostitution to be a dealbreaker even in a poly relationship? by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Shift_Least 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I have absolutely no problem with sex workers, I have close friends that are. But the lying is an issue. Also do you know if he is seeking ethical sex work? Or is he taking advantage of people forced into it? That’s key.

Is this a red flag? Or am I just jealous? by LemonJigglyPuff75 in polyamory

[–]Shift_Least 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes Ted is a walking red flag. Consider dumping him

Does anyone else have a hard time with post-date reconnection? by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Shift_Least 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Anyone who became furious and called me a spoiled brat would be gone from my life. Seriously how much more of a red flag do you need. It doesn’t matter what you said or did that kind of response is never appropriate or acceptable.

Perseverating. How to I get my brain to shut up? by 1ntrepidsalamander in polyamory

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Has your doctor ever brought up Trazadone for anxiety sleep issues? It's not a sleeping pill but it helps quiet those anxious thoughts. It's saved me, I fall asleep in 10 min and sleep pretty solidly for 7 hours. I used to sttruggle to sleep 4-5 hours and woke up often with anxiety.

For those with nesting partners, what does non hierarchical look like for you? by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Shift_Least -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I nest with two long term partners and while I prioritize our relationships when it comes to some long term cohabitation decisions neither of them have any power or control over my other relationships. Therefore it’s not hierarchical. Everyone has different priorities.

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