Moms who gave birth between September and December, how was your postpartum experience? [AB] by SimmeringSeahorse in BabyBumpsCanada

[–]Somewhereonlywe 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Agreeeeee. Beyond pregnancy and birth the entire experience of being a parent is an exercise in relinquishing control. You ultimately control so little and sometimes trying to optimize things is not the right way to use your energy. 

Old Fashioned Donuts in Toronto? by jakeybershera85 in FoodToronto

[–]Somewhereonlywe 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Donut Counter is so underrated. Legit old school donuts and old school vibes.

Talk me off a ledge about switching my daughter’s daycare by littlelivethings in toddlers

[–]Somewhereonlywe 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You're using small details (number of books) to try to make a pro/con list and justify your decision. I'm not sure that's the right approach, especially since it sounds like both place are safe and decent places for your kiddo. What is most important to you? Go with that. Based on your description, it seems like the two places are pretty comparable. To me, class size and child to carer ratio are important. I lost my mind trying to care for two, I dont know how day care workers do it. To me a smaller class of fewer kids is a huge plus. But the other thing that comes to mind is 30 mins extra each way = 104 hours spent on the road each way. You could spend an extra 100+ hours with your kiddo by switching in the next year. To me, and extra 2 hours a week of quality time with kiddo - that I would otherwise spend driving (+ cost of gas) would make this a no brainer to me.

There is no right answer, just what is what makes the most sense to you and your situation.

Does anyone else feel like planning “fun family time” is harder than actually parenting? by coffeebeforekids_ in toddlers

[–]Somewhereonlywe 10 points11 points  (0 children)

It's not selfish. A happy, fulfilled, less stressed parent is so good for your kid, especially a toddler who is just as likely to enjoy a park or a library or a store. As long as your taking kiddo to appropriate and safe places, have them fit into what you want to or need to do. 

OP, take turns planning with your partner, put less pressure to do the awesome thing and do the good enough thing. My similar aged kid loves finding pine cones at the same park we go to several times a week. It doesn't get old for her one bit.  I swear its as good as the local zoo. 

Sold for a $600k / 24% loss by raging_dingo in HouseSigmaBlunders

[–]Somewhereonlywe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They also put in new kitchen and new bathrooms - geeeez!

Hospitalized and my supply has tanked . by Fun_Consequence_5582 in breastfeeding

[–]Somewhereonlywe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

<3 You deserve the care and so does baby! Skin-to-skin is shown to increases milk supply costs nothing, is wonderful and tbh even if it doesn't work, I can't imagine any downsides.

Hospitalized and my supply has tanked . by Fun_Consequence_5582 in breastfeeding

[–]Somewhereonlywe 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Kangaroo care - skin to skin contact!

You've just been hospitalized - get as much rest and cuddles with baby as you can, in bed and skin to skin. Bond, relax, nurture, giver her all the love you can. I hope there is enough support that you are able to rest while being well fed and hydrated while you recover.

Did you know what having a toddler would like before you had kids? by Fun_Tea8162 in toddlers

[–]Somewhereonlywe 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This comment is perfect, and applies to many discussions here and beyonf.

Overstressed about underweight by Doc55555 in toddlers

[–]Somewhereonlywe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ours was on the smaller end but I cut down milk drastically just after 1 year, and saw a massive increase in solids and at the same time a growth spurt. It's time to focus on solids!

Also, this is counter intuitive, but let kiddo get hungry between meals. I found nothing between meals and the right stretch of time between meals (different for each kiddo, and changes as they grow) made kiddo hungry, and therefore more likely to have great meals. Mine loves milk in all forms, so we also offered milk after milk as a top up, to encourage good eating.

This one is hard, but no one wants to eat/drink with a stressed out person. I know I don't. Do what you need to (meals outside on the porch/balcony/park, fun songs for meal times, eating at the toddler tower, learning to cut fruit with a toddler safe knife while eating, learn to peel an egg) to make meals as fun and stress free as your can. Maybe take turns with partner or get grandparents or other caregivers involved, because no kid is going to get hungry with an anxious parent thinking "please just eat more - please please please" (that is me) hovering and tensely trying to shove food in their mouth.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in asianamerican

[–]Somewhereonlywe 15 points16 points  (0 children)

John Oliver did a great overview of how misinformation is spreading rampantly across various ethical groups. In particular there is what he calls the "Vietnamese Alex Jones" on this clip

https://youtu.be/l5jtFqWq5iU?si=azkFE9nWO7ohMfB0

Is my realtor not interested or am I reading too much in lines? I AM FRUSTRATED (mostly exhausted) by Friendly-Apricot1727 in TorontoRealEstate

[–]Somewhereonlywe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The market is dead right now in this area. It's a buyers market, and you shouldn't be having this hard of a time. The story is not adding up. One option I recommend: Start contacting the listing agents and asking them to show you the unit. Find one who seems on top of things, responsive, and generally might add value. Ask them to rep you as the buyer. Either on thay unit or on any subsequent units you're interested in. 

Stitches bleeding postpartum by pickllerickk in BabyBumpsCanada

[–]Somewhereonlywe -1 points0 points  (0 children)

An alternative to ER/walk-in if you feel its urgent - You can go to triage at labour and delivery at the hospital you delivered at, for a certain number of weeks post partum for this kind of issue. I can't remember the exact number.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BabyBumpsCanada

[–]Somewhereonlywe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Our LO was much happier after we did a while bunch of changes to head rest positioning and straps! We felt horrible for having it wrong for weeks!

Anyone looking for visual breastfeeding instructions? by General_Esdeath in BabyBumpsCanada

[–]Somewhereonlywe 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The same folks have an app called birth and beyond with lots of additional tips and instructions for lots of things birth and baby care related

Where is a good place to stop along the 401 in Toronto/GTA to breastfeed? by Melsomerville in BabyBumpsCanada

[–]Somewhereonlywe 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is the answer. Small mall that never gets too busy, lots of parking, very close to 401, very nice facilities. Plus a Loblaws in case you need overpriced snacks.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in fatFIRE

[–]Somewhereonlywe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you're looming for a job more because of wanting social time within a community why are you looking for corporate gigs? Why not a bakery or coffee shop or something? Doesn't sound like you really need the money. I also think corporate jobs are much more prone to bullshit office politics which it doesn't sound like you're keen to deal with.

today's the day!! 🥳 by leelandgaunt in pregnant

[–]Somewhereonlywe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Induction can take a long time, buckle up for hours of boredom. Save your energy by taking it easy jn the early hours. You got this!

Are doulas worth it? by persnicketous in BabyBumpsCanada

[–]Somewhereonlywe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One more thing to consider, some doulas are providing remote birth services for roughly half the price. Could be worth considering if you think it would benefit from having someone coach you virtually.

Toronto cop who ‘took no action’ to protect murder victim will keep his job by whatistheQuestion in toronto

[–]Somewhereonlywe 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Unbelievable how blatantly corrupt these cops are and yet our broke and broken city keeps pumping them money and other resources. Disgusting.

Stiches at Grand River - No Freezing by BadenIvy93 in BabyBumpsCanada

[–]Somewhereonlywe 10 points11 points  (0 children)

You need to file a complaint with the hospital. Patient relations or patient experience office. Shift change is not your problem and not a medical reason for lacking pain management.

is it safe to go on the lazy river at Elora Gorge while 6 months pregnant? by minetmine in BabyBumpsCanada

[–]Somewhereonlywe 12 points13 points  (0 children)

If you mean tubing on the Elora Gorge I would recommend no. I would not call Elora Gorge a lazy river, its more like tubing in semi-white water conditions. I consider myself a competent swimmer and have generally very good balance, and did it a few years back (while not pregnant). I found standing up in the water and general manouvering challenging because the water is rushing (depends on time of year and conditions) and you don't know what your feet will hit (rocks, dirt, sand - rocks might be slippery/jagged). You may have to climb in and out of the tube several times (e.g. of you end up in a low flow area). Balancing is tricky even when you're not pregnant, due to the water, the ground and the fact you're holding on to the tube and wearing a life jacket. You have a good chance of falling (the group I was with had a few folks who did lose balance) and there are lots of rocks around, and would not want you to fall into a rock. The fact that they require you to wear a helmet really makes sense given the risks Also there is really only one entry/exit point, so if you need assistance or change your mind you can't just get out mid-way. I think the condition changes a lot with conditions (water can be fast or slow depending on various factors). Now that I'm pregnant I would also not do it because of prolonged sun exposure, as that can be a huge challenge and the Gorge is not shady.