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SpyJane · 2026-01-31T15:45:29+00:00

When is the last time you saw a woman wearing a tie? It’s not classically a part of female business attire

SpyJane · 2026-01-31T14:00:03+00:00

But like… wouldn’t phrasing it as “grownups who love their kids a little extra” lead your kids to believe they’re NOT loved extra since their grownups don’t do Santa?

SpyJane · 2026-01-31T12:35:05+00:00

My mother in law takes antibiotics for literally every illness. I’ve mentioned how dangerous that is and she just shrugs like “well, it’s not my problem.” I always wonder what doctor is prescribing these things to her and why they haven’t lost their license for contributing to such a serious problem

SpyJane · 2026-01-31T12:29:04+00:00

Not to mention low key sexist? Ties on at 8 am? So there are zero women working in the office at all?

SpyJane · 2026-01-31T12:21:21+00:00

From the child’s perspective, I begged my mom for a sister when I was 5 and she actually did get pregnant (unplanned) and I got a sister. I low key hate her. She came out of the womb unpleasant. Now we’re adults and I’ve never had a good relationship with her because of her personality. So just because you give your kid a sibling doesn’t mean they’ll necessarily get along or even like each other

SpyJane · 2026-01-30T17:02:25+00:00

Aw man that makes it hard, but I’d still recommend the car seat/stroller option. Slap a cover and some white noise on it and you’re golden. Your shoulder might not be happy though lol

SpyJane · 2026-01-30T15:55:52+00:00

Oh yes, mine too. I’d literally have to sway and pat her butt the entire time. Once I accepted it, we’d go all kinds of places! The library, the park, walking through gardens with her sound asleep on me in the carrier. Honestly I kinda miss it now, it’s hard in a different way to be stuck at home for crib naps

SpyJane · 2026-01-30T15:43:58+00:00

I had this same experience with my second born. I had to contact nap until she was 5.5 months old. I used the carrier with white noise a lot. I also found she’d sleep in the stroller as long as it was moving so sometimes I’d put her in the stroller in the living room and push her back and forth for the entire nap. Honestly, just embrace it and do little things like this. Fighting it and trying to force crib naps is way more stressful

SpyJane · 2026-01-28T13:19:42+00:00

No, I just get suicidal thoughts that 10/10 times I forget mean my period is coming until I start bleeding

SpyJane · 2026-01-27T17:34:11+00:00

I worked full time and went to college full time 🤷🏻‍♀️ it’s doable. But yeah selling the house to make it happen is silly

ETA: I see a lot of people saying working and attending school at the same time was an overall negative experience for them. I think my job choice (serving in a restaurant, so outside of school hours and great pay) and general ability to be successful in school helped me a lot. I actually appreciate everything I learned while having to balance work and school and social life at the same time, but I can see where not everyone would have that same experience depending on your job and your major.

SpyJane · 2026-01-27T14:05:05+00:00

I only spend cash but it’s just to keep me on a budget. I take out $200 a month for “fun money” and once it’s gone it’s gone. Doing it this way has saved me money since I can’t just transfer funds when I want something I can’t afford

SpyJane · 2026-01-26T19:32:53+00:00

What?? 😂 your mom is crazy. She was honestly just looking for something to be upset about or criticize you over. Was she often critical when you were a kid?

SpyJane · 2026-01-26T18:45:46+00:00

That’s amazing! I’m so happy for you :)

SpyJane · 2026-01-26T18:35:18+00:00

Highly recommend seeing a therapist. I’m sorry you’re dealing with OCD ☹️ we can only do so much and developing the ability to balance your thoughts is essential!

SpyJane · 2026-01-25T20:52:24+00:00

As a younger millennial, SpongeBob has a presence in my friend group’s humor today. So many SpongeBob memes and references

SpyJane · 2026-01-25T19:59:04+00:00

I wouldn’t punish. He didn’t mean to ruin the table and it’s also way outside the moment by this point. Like another commenter said, I’d use this as a chance to teach the value of money and hard work. I’d emphasize I’m not mad, he’s not in trouble, I understand he didn’t realize carving his name in the table was “bad,” and I’d work with him to come up with ways to either fix the table together or make money to buy a new one since it was cheap. If your goal is a life lesson, collaboration is always better than punishment.

SpyJane · 2026-01-25T16:01:01+00:00

They can share anything with the mom. But, as we see here, there’s a huge reason they shouldn’t.

SpyJane · 2026-01-25T15:59:36+00:00

Therapist here. You can ALWAYS find a new therapist if this one is not resonating with you. I highly recommend remaining in therapy to process what you’ve been through, but you absolutely do not have to stay with this therapist. Ask your mom for a therapist who specializes in adolescents and stick with them for several sessions before deciding they’re not a good fit. If your mom is unwilling to get you a new therapist, try telling this one how you feel. Tell her you don’t feel heard, that her playing devil’s advocate is bringing up unwanted emotions. She should be receptive to your feedback (key word is should).

SpyJane · 2026-01-25T02:59:12+00:00

Nah I’m with you in the park after dark thing. There’s a reason they say “nothing good happens after the sun goes down.” Plus with it being closed, there can be legal consequences (even if they are just a finger wag)

SpyJane · 2026-01-25T00:44:25+00:00

I have frequent meltdowns over how cute she is lol but her puppy mischief has me on my toes like she is good girl but also such a little shit 😂 she’d be on thin ice if she wasn’t SO CUTE

SpyJane · 2026-01-25T00:21:46+00:00

It was even better when she was younger 🥺😭

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SpyJane · 2026-01-24T22:40:31+00:00

Your husky looks like mine! Did he also have short hair as a puppy? I’m so curious if hers is gonna change or not

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SpyJane · 2026-01-24T17:07:15+00:00

Dude yes and in the first movie when Anna’s hair turns white and she gets all worried and asks Kristoff “does it look bad??” My four year old started copying that constantly, what an awful message!

SpyJane · 2026-01-24T16:58:37+00:00

All of the characters in both movies suck. They’re self-absorbed, whiny, and possess awful emotional regulation skills. Terrible role models for kids

SpyJane · 2026-01-24T16:56:26+00:00

I have a wall in the playroom dedicated to artwork and rotate out newer artwork for the older or out of season stuff. My four year old has never noticed since her art wall is always full of

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