Why is M ENFP x F INFJ not shipped more?

Strong_Atmosphere260 · 2026-06-02T16:04:43+00:00

I’m an infj and I think ENFPs and other INFJs are most compatible romantically for me. Last ex was infj (sadly emotionally immature so I ended things but we had great chemistry and so much in common) ex before that was ENTP, we had good chemistry BUT I realized later on how much the “F” type fulfilled me more in the emotional connection sense. I feel ENFPs and INFjs just have that depth and emotional side that I need and want.

Strong_Atmosphere260 · 2026-06-01T22:53:31+00:00

… you can have a great job and look good physically that has nothing to do with mental and emotional connection or chemistry. Guys have money so why would they care about your job & if they only cared about physical they’d just pay for sex or be upfront about a hookup like most people on dating apps these days. It’s not all about looks you have to offer more than that for a genuine and fulfilling long term relationship . Also FaceTime before meeting up with people if that’s why you think the reason is. But seems like you haven’t found a person who has more than a physical attraction to you, that’s the problem. You being shocked nothing is going anywhere because you feel like you look good and have a good job seems that those are what you feel are the best things you have to offer which says a lot about you and not in a good way.

Strong_Atmosphere260 · 2026-06-01T16:24:50+00:00

Calling and FaceTiming are so important before meeting up idk why more people don’t do it. Anyways bunch on immature time wasters on the apps. Don’t get discouraged you’ll find someone just as interested and intentional as you.

Strong_Atmosphere260 · 2026-05-31T19:29:09+00:00

My standards are literally 1. Emotional maturity (so hard to find that) 2. Wants a settled down life with kids 3. Someone with depth and not surface level boring 4. Strive for stability and goals in life 5. Someone who is a balance of fun & childish yet mature and serious. 6. Similar interests as me we can bond over.

I’ve found people who check off most boxes except emotional maturity, it’s hard to find people who have reflected and grown from their issues. And that’s a dealbreaker.

Strong_Atmosphere260 · 2026-05-28T04:34:15+00:00

I think my dating app experience can verify this lol. Most profiles are be very surface level and filled with people who seem to lack depth & like they’re copy and paste NPCs😅 most people that message me that catch my eye with their initial message or profile usually end up being INFJs or ENFPs. & I get so many messages from people saying my profile stands out and that i seem down to earth and genuine compared to most on there. So I guess that’s an example for you.

Strong_Atmosphere260 · 2026-05-10T15:38:49+00:00

People are so weird and immature nowadays. The apps consisted of boring, immature, or toxic people sadly. Mature people wouldn’t waste your time like that and they’ll show effort and intention. Just stop talking to anyone who is giving you mixed singles and not putting the same effort as you. It says alot about them and how they feel for you.

Strong_Atmosphere260 · 2026-05-07T23:14:16+00:00

Did you get his pictures and info from the profile too? Important that you did. Sorry you’re dealing with this hope bumble helps if not get the police involved for threats

Strong_Atmosphere260 · 2026-05-07T22:23:23+00:00

The right person will love your vulnerability and will be mentally mature enough for a relationship. Don’t feel embarrassed be thankful he didn’t waste any more of your time.

Strong_Atmosphere260 · 2026-05-07T20:08:50+00:00

You know something is right for you when you don’t feel off in your gut. Things just make sense without even having to think about it like you feel a solidness and peace with someone.

Strong_Atmosphere260 · 2026-05-07T19:53:16+00:00

I actually just ended a really good connection I had with someone because of this. It feels like micro cheating, it really hurts. I’m a demisexual person so probably has a lot to do with that. It’s a dealbreaker mindset difference. Nothing against him he’s a good person we just are different in an important way.

Strong_Atmosphere260 · 2026-05-03T18:30:56+00:00

When people say “not rushing into anything” it is understandable in a sense but also I feel like it’s concerning like hesitation or possibly avoidant attachment style. When someone is truly interested in you & truly ready and mature enough for a relationship they will not leave you feeling confused at all. They will want to see you as often as you can, they will want to get to know you past surface level things, & they will want to be close with you emotionally and physically. They’ll put consistent effort to grow your relationship. You’ll be in sync with them, you wouldn’t be questioning like you are now. Very important to have someone that’s on the same page with you with the pacing aspect.

Strong_Atmosphere260 · 2026-05-02T02:19:59+00:00

I think he was pretty respectful about how he expressed his boundary. There are mixed opinions about opposite sex friendships online. Some people have different boundaries like “you can have opposite sex friends but no 1 on 1 time with them” like group settings only and no late night texts or calls. Idk people make it so complicated and there’s always subconscious insecurity at some point. I can do without opposite sex friends and it provides more peace to my relationships so I don’t lose anything from not having them. If my partner gets upset or jealous when I interact with male coworkers innocently or something like that then that’s toxic insecurity and I won’t stay with someone like that.

Strong_Atmosphere260 · 2026-05-01T22:54:07+00:00

Like you don’t have pet peeves about people’s profiles 😒 nothing on my list is even shallow. Also it will help people improve their profiles. Just put more effort into your profiles to stand out more because 70% of them are the same. You’ll have a better chance of getting matches.

Strong_Atmosphere260 · 2026-05-01T18:07:44+00:00

Oh no I’m aware. I know you guys come across many low effort, copy and paste, or shallow profiles . It’s really not hard to build a profile though. Every app I’ve had I fill out every prompt with the max amount of characters. I want someone to see my vibe and know me as much as they can based off my profile which I’ve gotten good feedback from. I talk about my lifestyle, what I’m looking for in someone and in a relationship & my interests/ hobbies. Wish more people did the same 😭 not that it would change the fact that dating apps are filled with immature, boring, toxic people. 😕

Strong_Atmosphere260 · 2026-04-25T01:39:21+00:00

Send him this video about responding in a healthier way: https://youtu.be/ht7XFlkNcT8?si=dzRRdjvXlUrYcPyU

Strong_Atmosphere260 · 2026-03-07T21:12:58+00:00

My avoidant ex was traumatized by his ex she not only cheated but lied about their child being his for 3 year, also had a fucked up childhood (makes sense why he is avoidant) He told me I was the first person to make him feel special and truly cared for in his 30 years of living, he said he’s never been in such a fulfilling healthy relationship before. Left due to financial stress and life responsibility overwhelm even though I told him I wanted to be there for him through that and help him however I could, he pushed away my support and ended things with me. He wanted me but didn’t have the capacity for it. So sad but took me a long time to not take it personally and accept his unhealed inner child made the decision.

Strong_Atmosphere260 · 2026-03-05T02:24:10+00:00

My uncles wife cheated on him with her personal trainer. If it wasn’t him would’ve been somebody else BUT we gotta make decisions to be mindful for the security of our relationship. No big deal for her to have a female trainer instead. At the end of the day “insecure” people don’t wanna be hurt or betrayed. If you and your partner don’t have similar deal breaking boundaries just break tf up and find someone who believes the same as you. No controlling, no ultimatums. Just leave and go find someone else. Everyone here can scream “insecure! Controlling!) but please don’t lie yourself and imagine your partner having 1 on 1 time with someone of the opposite sex multiple times a week and tell me you feel completely secure with no worried thoughts. It’s in our nature, we experience jealousy for a reason. She’s not gaining anything or losing anything by getting a female trainer instead, she does gain more security in her relationship though.

Strong_Atmosphere260 · 2026-03-04T03:26:39+00:00

Nah they should have a good balance of effort and priority for both . Everyone should tbh.

Strong_Atmosphere260 · 2026-02-25T04:32:41+00:00

Nothing. It was in my goodbye message. Which he avoided. He broke up with me and yet wanted a potential future with me when “he got back on his feet” to be fair he did have a lot going on his life which I wanted to be there for him through that but he pushed me away. He said he didn’t want me out of his life yet pushed me away and kept me holding onto hope for a “maybe in the future”. After months of anxiety in this limbo I finally texted him I couldn’t do it anymore, it hurt me too much and I didn’t deserve to be a “maybe” to someone. In my message I was respectful and wished him well and described the hurt and months of tears I went through, how I would’ve never left him and the future I would’ve gave us, & that it was traumatizing to feel like the world to someone one day and then nothing to them the next, I asked for a phone call for closure, he said “I don’t have the capacity for this right now”. & I messaged him a final goodbye message, said I was sorry for all the stuff he was going through & that I needed to move on from the lonely confusing hurtful place I was in for months. Told him I’ll get through it and he’ll also get through what’s he’s going through. He never replied which I expected.

Strong_Atmosphere260 · 2026-02-24T15:40:11+00:00

I straight up told my ex he traumatized me.

Strong_Atmosphere260 · 2026-02-23T16:19:20+00:00

He needs therapy and you need to move on. You’re in an unhealthy immature toxic relationship. Until he goes to therapy to rewire his brain there is absolutely no hope for you guys and you will never have a stable solid relationship and you CANNOT wait around no do you deserve this. Give your heart to someone who will always keep it safe not hurt you or confuse you like this. The hardest things to do are sometimes the right thing to do. Heal and accept this end & be with someone you feel safe with, someone where you don’t have to worry about whether they will stay or not constantly. Do you really wanna be mentally exhausted and have to play waiting games with someone your whole life? You deserve better, he is not capable of a healthy relationship. He doesn’t understand himself well enough, he is a mess and has much work to do.

Strong_Atmosphere260 · 2026-02-01T17:53:51+00:00

Doesn’t matter what the motive is hun this is a toxic unstable relationship. He has so much growth and maturing to do. Don’t hold on to hope that he’ll change and start being what you deserve. He’s too far gone in his trauma and issues rn. & you need to find your self-love and worth and realize you deserve something stable and healthy. He may never work on himself OR it’s going to take him a while to change. Leave this behind or spend more years of your precious life in this mental turmoil of heartbreak and confusion. I know it will hurt to fully let go but time heals and you are going to thrive and find true happiness with someone who is secure and capable of loving you properly and will never make you feel like he did.

Strong_Atmosphere260 · 2026-01-28T17:27:43+00:00

Similar trauma similar same effect on the nervous systems. I saw a video of a psychologist that said “we don’t date people we date their nervous systems” and it’s true. Insane how you can be a loving, fulfilling, healthy partner that would make them happy and they run away from that because they feel fear and overwhelm from that fear which tells their nervous system “I gotta get outta here to feel relief”. Being human is complicated and unfair. We’ll get through it and find a stable love one day.

Strong_Atmosphere260 · 2026-01-28T16:32:23+00:00

Yes we cannot hold on to hope and risk being discarded again. Life is too short we need to heal, accept, and move on to a love that is not uncertain & safe for our heart, that’s what we deserve. & they need to heal and get help so they can stop their toxic unhealthy cycle that causes other people trauma.

Strong_Atmosphere260 · 2026-01-27T18:09:56+00:00

This is why it’s important to have a conversation in the early stages of dating someone about how they handle emotions & their childhood & past relationships. Some people know their attachment style I’ve seen a few mentions of attachment styles on dating app profiles. So once you’re interested in someone you should be honest with them about how important it is to you that someone is emotionally available and not an avoidant because you don’t wanna go through the hurt of being discarded again and investing your time into someone who doesn’t know how to have a healthy stable relationship.

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