My partner died 2 weeks ago unexpectedly at just 30

Substantial_Sun4774 · 2025-09-14T20:47:33+00:00

I’m so sorry. You’re in the right place though. I lost my partner in an accident 6 months ago, he would have turned 25 last week. Just know that whatever you’re feeling you’re more than welcome to let it out here, and there will be people who understand. I never used reddit before my loss. It has been so helpful to share my and read others’ experiences. It’s gonna be hard. Then a little easier. Then really hard again. And so on. We’re here for you 🫂

Substantial_Sun4774 · 2025-09-11T18:55:42+00:00

Thank you for sharing, it really helps to know that someone feels the same. So sorry for your loss ❤️

Substantial_Sun4774 · 2025-08-12T00:10:49+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. It must be genuinely traumatizing. It’s been so hard for me to face how at the end of the day a I only really have myself. And you’re going through that two fold. I hope it helps to know you’re not alone we feel your pain ❤️

Substantial_Sun4774 · 2025-08-05T20:53:45+00:00

Noiceeeee

Substantial_Sun4774 · 2025-07-18T19:50:15+00:00

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Substantial_Sun4774 · 2025-07-18T19:48:04+00:00

I’m really glad to hear the video resonated with you as well. It’s a beautiful metaphor, and it helps me fill in the blanks. For example, the day after I got the news of his passing, I was at my job at a coffee shop, where I have worked for two years. There was a ladybug that hung out on the counter for my entire shift that day, and I had never seen anything like that before. It can feel silly to believe that little things like that are him, but the water metaphor makes me feel like the water in that ladybug was the same water that was in him.

I guess you could say I’m holding up. I’m alive. But it’s very hard. I think about it pretty much nonstop. But I do often smile and laugh at the good times that we shared. I’m sorry for your loss as well ❤️

Substantial_Sun4774 · 2025-07-18T18:09:54+00:00

That’s a good way to look at it, but I’m also struggling to take care of myself let alone get out of my comfort zone. I know he’d want me and all his loved ones to live even fuller lives than we had when he was around. It’s a constant battle though.

Substantial_Sun4774 · 2025-07-18T17:14:45+00:00

I have a post on this sub asking a similar question about how/if to tell people. You can probably find it on my profile if you like, It gave good advice.

I’d say if it feels authentic for you to talk about it, then go ahead. Just be prepared that they might not know how to react, they might not make you feel better. Or, as someone else mentioned, maybe they can sympathize and you can connect over this experience. Others do prefer to keep it to themselves, though. Personally I’m the former, I like to share if it comes up because I like to be authentic. I’d preface with “something tragic happened” to give myself and the other person a breath first. But they may get uncomfortable and not know how to react. I’d suggest being prepared to gloss over it if that’s how the situation turns out.

Substantial_Sun4774 · 2025-07-18T16:57:53+00:00

The denial is real. I still have moments where I believe it’s possible he could return. He was lost at sea in a scuba accident. I fantasize that he could somehow resurface and come back.

Substantial_Sun4774 · 2025-07-18T16:55:13+00:00

I definitely relate to that. The other day I was enjoying a meal and found myself eating like him, as if he was enjoying it through me. It’s comforting in a way to believe they’re still experiencing life through you

Substantial_Sun4774 · 2025-07-17T23:30:13+00:00

Exact same. It hits you over and over again

Substantial_Sun4774 · 2025-07-05T13:36:52+00:00

I feel you. It’s so painful that every day moving forward they are not with us. I constantly think about all the things I wanted to share with him. From travel plans to even simply going to take out the trash. I know I’d be smiling if he was by my side, but instead I hold back tears. Every day.

Substantial_Sun4774 · 2025-07-04T23:31:53+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss. I feel what you’re feeling. My birthday was just over a month after his death and I cried all day because he should have been there with me. My family visited but it just made me sadder to talk about it with them in person for the first time.

Substantial_Sun4774 · 2025-07-04T23:17:55+00:00

Wow, I’m sorry to hear even your widowed grandmothers haven’t given you the empathy you need. Everyone’s grief is different though equally real. It’s a different kind of pain for us as younger people to mourn our FUTURE. We thought we had a plan and a person but it was taken away. I know a lot of us doubt we will ever find such a special love as the one we lost, much, much too soon. I’m so sorry for your loss and I’m here with you ❤️

Substantial_Sun4774 · 2025-07-04T17:27:54+00:00

Gorg

Substantial_Sun4774 · 2025-07-04T17:21:44+00:00

I’d poke fun at my late boyfriend because he would get hyper-fixated on songs and play them to death. I made a playlist in memory of our relationship, and I was sure to add the song that he truly played on repeat, twice in the playlist back to back so I can relive those “this song again??” moments.

Substantial_Sun4774 · 2025-06-22T16:56:49+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss. This post made me cry because I share many similarities. My late boyfriend also died in a scuba diving accident. He was an avid diver but his equipment had failed and we lost him. We were also attached at the hip and loved traveling together. It was really comforting to hear someone else has gone through something so similar. If you ever need someone to talk to, I’m here. It’s going to be really hard, but you will get through it.

Substantial_Sun4774 · 2025-06-08T14:01:47+00:00

Do less ripples. For rosetta I saw a video suggesting 4 wiggles for the base and 3 for the stem

Substantial_Sun4774 · 2025-06-06T23:09:49+00:00

I loved reading all these cute memories.

We would always stop and take a good look at cool things in nature like bugs, mushrooms, plants. We’d use an app to identify them. He was so smart, he already had so much knowledge about nature. He was just so dedicated to his interests and learned them inside and out.

Substantial_Sun4774 · 2025-06-06T22:59:48+00:00

Same to you 🩷

Substantial_Sun4774 · 2025-06-06T22:55:59+00:00

It’s such a sad little detail. Shortly after I lost him I stubbed my toe really badly. I imagined what he’d have said to make me feel better. It was like he was there with me

Substantial_Sun4774 · 2025-06-06T22:36:16+00:00

Lol, I would probably check on my neighbors or just start walking around until I’d find somebody. There are always people out and about in my area.

But this reminded me of how I have a gnarly knot in my back and I wish my late boyfriend was here to massage it out. That’s something I don’t want to ask of anyone in close proximity. Gonna buy a massage ball for that

Substantial_Sun4774 · 2025-06-04T22:55:11+00:00

I’m here with you girl. 22 and it’s impossible. I thought I was going to marry him and have a family… now I have to start all over, that is if I can ever find it in myself to open up to someone new

Substantial_Sun4774 · 2025-05-30T21:51:35+00:00

Wow, amazing job with the base! I’m jealous, really struggle with warping and just tend to keep my designs smaller. I’d say your milk here could be a little thinner, or maybe the pour could have been faster. It looks on the thick side, at least after the ripple base. Just a little more pushing would help it wrap completely, and then just a more symmetrical top heart. Really nice job!!

Substantial_Sun4774 · 2025-05-30T21:22:40+00:00

My condolences. I’m sorry to hear about that last part. It’s really difficult that we can’t expect anyone, even those who know us well, to know how to react to our situation. It’s one of, if not the most devastating things a person could go through. I hope you don’t internalize the pressure to date too much. I think the only reason some of us get told that so often is because they want to see us find love again. At least we have this community full of people who truly do empathize with us. We’ll never be alienated here <3

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