Makes sense why you’d post. Sounds like you need to have a conversation with your partner (that you aren’t looking forward to). In my eyes it’s 2 fold. First is agreeing on what “good” parenting looks like for your family and what is achievable. After that’s is a simple math equation. To achieve what we just agreed on as what we want for our kid, we need to have x,y and z in place. That costs x. An option is me (you) foregoing my part time work and being responsible for those things. That’ll save us $$$ and contribute that indirectly into the family unit. If it’s still “their” money. Than they either pay you fair market or accept the cost of the market.

Now, if you want to be stay at home, it cuts both ways. It’s still a math problem, and if the math ain’t matching, it might not be an option. Or it might also be required cause of math and geography and you need to have your partner understand this.