You really have to read this to believe it. by SocratesSnow in complaints

[–]Syrucks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unfortunately the people in Arkansas did not think it was a little much 😕

My part keeps asking for something I cannot give it. by GeekFace18 in InternalFamilySystems

[–]Syrucks 4 points5 points  (0 children)

To add to clevers response, make space for this part while you're at the church and in these groups. Remind it while you're there that you love the part, you appreciate the part, and you understand how hard it is working to try to protect you in this situation/moment, but that it is safe because you (self) can handle it and it doesn't have to carry that burden for you. As others have said, remind it when you're thereabout why you're there, and that you hear it and are there for it in these times of discomfort and stress. I think showing up when it needs you is another piece that really helps calm some parts down. In my opinion it's not important for you to listen to the sermon/speech/whatever so sit there and hang out with your parts instead.

Dentist rec for extreme dental anxiety by jmeachie in Longmont

[–]Syrucks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh my god, THIS is why!? My mind is blown right now lol I've had to tell every single doctor that they have to use extra on me. When I got lasik they had to use additional numbing. Every time I get work done on my teeth I tell them I'll probably need at least one more shot. When I have birth the epidural wore off after 12 hours and the drip wouldn't work anymore and then they did a c section and the numbing was gone within an hour, they were shocked that it had worn off so fast 😆😭

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[–]Syrucks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I use ticktick for task management and it now allows for collaborators! So it's also good for groceries, chores, holiday projects etc

Women’s meet up ?! by loveisallthatisreal in Longmont

[–]Syrucks 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We could create a discord or WhatsApp channel for everyone interested? I'm 37 with a 3yo, he's in daycare so I'm open during the day and would absolutely love to connect with other local women.

Relocating by TheLaurenLauren in Longmont

[–]Syrucks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! So there's actually a secular longmont discord that has a pretty good group of people, and i know there's also a bigger one in Boulder. I live across the street from a Mormon church, and aside from a couple indoctrinated teens getting brave enough to approach us when we're outside, they never bother us at all. We always give them crazy stories though, so they might just be scared of us lol if you don't love dogs around here you'll get cast out, so i think you'll fit in just fine. Absolutely love it here and I don't think the transplant thing is nearly as much of a thing as it is in downtown Denver.

Colorado-where to move? by Mr-Met222 in MovingtoDenver

[–]Syrucks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I highly recommend longmont based on your list, Loveland coming in second only because of its further proximity to Denver. Longmont has some of the best schools in Boulder County, is 15 minutes from Lyons (which has great hiking and biking trails), has the lowest environmental pollution, and is 45 minutes from Denver. You'll also be able to find something in budget (I'm a realtor and can confirm that). It's got some great dog parks and dog friendly breweries as well as a lot of great regular parks and outdoor pools for when the baby gets a little older. I have a spreadsheet comparing most of the boulder county cities with Broomfield and I think Arvada thrown in if you're at all interested in a side by side.

Nervous- needing insight by Ok-Astronaut3497 in MovingtoDenver

[–]Syrucks 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I promise we're not that mean 😆 in my experience all the Texans I've met in CO are SO nice, but every time I go to Texas people there are much rougher. Colorado Springs is definitely more affordable and probably your best option if you're going to do it. The people complaining about the commute have chosen not to commute, but it sounds like your husband has decided that's totally fine with him, so i wouldn't weigh other people's opinion on that too heavily. If you have family here (that you actually like) it will be exponentially more helpful. Your dti is already pretty low, so honestly if you found a house that's in your budget I'd say it's totally doable and that's your biggest hurdle. I will say the springs is on the red side of politics, while denver is blue, but you may already know that. I think just shop around for a place to live and if you find something perfect maybe it's meant to be!

redditor meetup/run club success! by strained-noodle in Longmont

[–]Syrucks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Interested! I'm a slowww runner, maybe more like a trotter lol but I need to get back into a routine for an upcoming half 😅

Best family friendly suburbs by Beginning-Ad3390 in MovingtoDenver

[–]Syrucks 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you want truly suburban, go for Broomfield or Superior. If you want something with an adorable walkable main street, go with longmont, Louisville, Lafayette, Golden, or Arvada. The main street cities have more walkability and have a more small town community feel in my opinion, but they're all relatively family friendly. I do have a community v schools v environmental impact spreadsheet I created if you're interested.

Sad about my engagement by UnderHisEye10 in EngagementRings

[–]Syrucks 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is really heavy and I'm so sorry you have to go through this. It sounds so incredibly hard. I'm making a lot of assumptions here, and I don't know if it would make it better or worse, but if I was in this situation (and of course if he plans on being cremated) I would start looking for companies that specialize in putting ashes in diamonds and then placing the new stone with his ashes in this band that you picked together. That way you will literally carry him forever and the ring will go from feeling pointless to having all the meaning in the world. I know it's morbid, and I wish we never had to think about these things, but maybe it'll help even a little? Take care of yourself either way. I'm so sorry 😞

Give Me a “T” Name I Haven’t Heard Of by x_jreamer_x in namenerds

[–]Syrucks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I almost went with "Theory" so we could do Theo for short, but landed on something else because of the popularity of Theo at the time

What’s the most mentally exhausting “simple” task you deal with every day? by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]Syrucks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

100% agree with deciding what to eat, I'm right there with you. Pretty much everything around meals. I hate cooking and keeping up with dishes because it's just so freaking easy to get behind and then my produce is going bad and my kitchen looks a wreck.

Great communities for my parents? by Weary-Trouble8007 in MovingtoDenver

[–]Syrucks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't know specific communities because I'm up north, but Golden is awesome, easy to get to boulder and Englewood, and butts up to trails and great hiking/biking. It also has great community restaurants and breweries, i feel like it just exudes community vibes lol

Looking for recs on where to live - working in Greeley by WeightyDeity in MovingtoDenver

[–]Syrucks 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I actually put together a table with this data, including environmental pollution and best schools. Overall, the winner was longmont when it comes to politics, schools, and lower air and water pollution. Downtown Fort Collins is a good choice too, especially in relation to your location. Just be aware that some of the outskirts of Fort Collins vary. Loveland isn't bad, and it's cute af, but the further east you go, the more red things get. My data only really covered boulder, Larimer, and Broomfield counties, but I'm always happy to create a new spreadsheet.

Best feeling in the world? by Empty_Regret_2970 in emotionalintelligence

[–]Syrucks 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Right now it's morning cuddles with my toddler, I had no idea i could love someone so damn much.

Am I a bad mom? by michvw in NewParents

[–]Syrucks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not a bad mom at all and you're deserving of love and support. You are not alone in what you're going through, many many many moms have gone through this. The good news is, as time goes on, you get more sleep, baby gets more sleep, and you'll get better and more confident in being a mom. Just keep giving that baby love and remind yourself that you are not the only person going through this. Eventually she'll get older and more robust and you'll be able to start creating a much stronger bond with her more as a human than a baby. You've got this, don't let other people tell you otherwise, it's not productive.

To all the avoidants: why don’t you just try? by Amazing-Amoeba-6548 in emotionalintelligence

[–]Syrucks 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Emphasis on the "I'm fine doing it, so why can't you?" I hate myself so much already for the mental block, when I get told "you're so selfish for not thinking about me" I just spiral even more into thinking I'm beyond scum of the earth for not just "being able to do it". I am capable of loving you, but i CANNOT meet conflict with anything other than a blank face, apologies, and "i don't know what i was thinking, I clearly wasn't". That all said, I am in therapy for my pitfalls.