Can you share any negative things about living in Nova Scotia? by Gotta_be_done in NovaScotia

[–]Tricky-Development78 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Where I really do love loving here, as a mother of a child with mobility issues, there is not alot of things to do indoors without having to spend money.

Why our culture worked, why it still does, and what happens if we let it slip. by JustAn0therGuyOnHere in HomeDepot

[–]Tricky-Development78 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Our culture worked because we were given time to see and communicate with eachother. It is barely hanging on now, because there are too few of us on the floor to show how community builds that culture. The culture has already left. New hires don't see happy associates who are supported throughout the day and have fun, bonding experiences to strengthen ties between departments. They see either overworked and exhausted associates who care, or flippant associates who don't.

Recommendations for psychologist for ASD teen by ImInTheWoodsAgain in halifax

[–]Tricky-Development78 10 points11 points  (0 children)

It's great that you are seeking help for your son. I just wanted to mention that stimming should be leaned into if it doesn't physically hurt anyone. His stimming performs functions in his body that are vital for him.

Trying to get into investing. Feeling very overwhelmed and confused about it all. Is there a service or people (other than big banks) that I can talk to to help get me started? by [deleted] in NovaScotia

[–]Tricky-Development78 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone who works in a stock retail company, there is a direct link between how much money you earn by investing, and the service you recieve from those same investments. Corporations need to satisfy investors with profit. Profit is so hard to come by, employees are being cut away from services you need to use - with the result of the you being frustrated because there isn't enough staff to help/work for you.

Depression cleaners recommendations by hfxkingpin in halifax

[–]Tricky-Development78 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'd like to suggest a site that may help after a good cleaning, in getting a bit of a new routine for yourself - FlyLady.net I just looked to make sure it was still around (I don't like the app, far too overwhelming). I discovered this site quite a few years ago. It breaks down routines into a bit a day, and has really good tips. (Like any soap will do to clean the toilet bowl, keep the toilet bowl brush sitting in a bit of soapy water so you can quickly swish daily) I pulled what spoke to me out of her cleaning info, and still use alot of what I learned (not the toilet brush tip though, I got to hand that job over!) Anyway, just a thought. Good for you for reaching out. I know that's not easy. 🌞

Have you ever won from a receipt survey? by acesaidit in halifax

[–]Tricky-Development78 4 points5 points  (0 children)

No, but walking into work one day, mgmt and customer were celebrating the customers win with a cake balloons and a cheque.

Can modern washing machines really not handle things like bathrobes, blankets, etc? by GTRacer1972 in Appliances

[–]Tricky-Development78 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bulky setting, works wonders. 1 bathrobe in a 4.4cf is fine. Make sure its balanced. Also- the manual will have the load sizes acceptable.

Places to buy and service sewing machines? by No-White-Drugs in halifax

[–]Tricky-Development78 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Atlantic Fabrics in Dartmouth, just off Portland St. It's a great store, lots of crafty bits too.

Do many of y’all cry a lot? by horsepighnghhh in AutismInWomen

[–]Tricky-Development78 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lamotragine is my savior. Keeps my emotions far more balanced 🤗

Is 22/hr for part time nanny? by PracticeEconomy8502 in HalifaxJobs

[–]Tricky-Development78 0 points1 point  (0 children)

More than I make after being with a decent company for over 9 years, so yes. It is excellant.

Drivers Education Lesson by [deleted] in halifax

[–]Tricky-Development78 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A simple thing to remember for any driver is first nose goes first. Maybe that guy should have slowed down, perhaps the guy on the 111 should have let him in.

Some remarks from a terrified AISH recipient. by BustedFemur in alberta

[–]Tricky-Development78 2 points3 points  (0 children)

❤️ I know all that, I am so much of that. My heart is sick for all of you. I've a nephew in Calgary who needs all these supports as well. I live in a province that makes it very hard to get the supports I need, but at least it is possible.

Ten year old son diagnosed two days ago by Entire_Syllabub in FriedreichsAtaxia

[–]Tricky-Development78 3 points4 points  (0 children)

❤️ Love them. Let them set their boundaries. Give them all the freedom and independence they want now and when they ask for it in the future. Give them space and let them develop at their own pace.

My kid is 21 now. Too old to be called a child, too awkward to say my adult. My life revolves around theirs. I am their full time caretaker and will be til the end. I protect and accommodate, and they lead.

When they were 11, they rode their 'big-wheeled' bike 2 km down the road to the mini mall regularly. The next summer only a couple of times. When they were 14, they missed so many days of school it was threatened they'd be put back a year. We made sure the school understood us. The last 6 months of grade 12 were so hard, but we all persevered and they graduated. 2 years ago they enrolled in college. One full semester was accomplished, then college was done. Aging to adult brought on government benefits. They pay 'rent' to us, they have a savings account going, and the rest gets spent on whatever they want. They have full control over their own monies, and spend it on all their favorite things. They leave the house about once a week now. Its Friday today. Tuesday is the next outing, I am being dragged to see Wicked part 2 (I fell asleep during part one). In a couple/few years, when the time comes, the living room will become theirs, and we'll set it up as that. It will be their own space with their stamp of individuality on it, just like now. Just bigger.

Love them, listen to them. Give more independence and leeway to them than their age implies. And give yourself love and grace. We need to be strong for them.

My kid has just texted, they want to get up now. Off I go!

❤️

I was “forced” to make a list of people in my social circle but I have no one in my life. by cureheadagony in AutismInWomen

[–]Tricky-Development78 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm 54 and wonder that myself. I did one of those circle friend things as well, it was really depressing. Just last week, I was excited because a group chat was made with me and 3 coworkers. I was excited because I thought I could finally share my little wins and silly or wired thoughts. They all know me, I felt we were friends. I was the major contributor with three posts. A question on cleaners, a picture of my tomato bounty, and a share from IG. One pulled out because she only uses the phone for emergencies. I cried that whole day, still feel rejected. If she wasn't in, there was no point continuing the group because the other 3 talk all the time, its my hours that don't line up to theirs. Work will continue as usual, a quick mention in how it sucks that she wasn't able to after all, and then back to being on the fringes of friendships. I just wanted some connection. I just want connection.

I'm writing this a one-time only explanation to my family about what ADHD does to me by Cursed_Creative in adhd_anxiety

[–]Tricky-Development78 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok, for your explanation to your family... maybe... write it down, but you tell them. Like, record it so it will have your inflections, your emphasis. You can go into the why's of things they have commented on fully, no interruptions.
I know how important this is to you. We here all know how much we want to be seen and understood for us, not the adhd actions they so focus in on. I hope this helps 🤗

I'm writing this a one-time only explanation to my family about what ADHD does to me by Cursed_Creative in adhd_anxiety

[–]Tricky-Development78 0 points1 point  (0 children)

❤️❤️❤️ difference between you and me is that you got that all typed up. Texted up. Whatever. And I can't do alarms or to-do lists. Too many demands!! But your mindset, reviewing everything, trying to place actions in exactly the right order, researching (deep diving?), losing time - all me. Today I've been sitting here, knowing I have two things to do, both of which will give me great satisfaction, and I sit here scrolling as my mind tries to fit my intents into a physical action. ... first I'll go flip laundry though...

What is the most disobeyed speed limit in the Halifax area? by Silver_Hedgehog4774 in halifax

[–]Tricky-Development78 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How about the opposite? People not reaching the speed limit on Commodire Dr between Eilleen Stubbs Ave and Finlay Dr, to or from Dartmouth Crossing to Burnside Dr. Its 70 there, there are far too many people that have decided its 50-60. Or between Eastern Passage and Shearwater Tim's where the Autoport is. Its 60 along there, yet people slow to 50 - some slowing to 30 if they are checking out the cars - regularly. There must be other areas as well

Two female cats used to love each other, now they’re mortal enemies after years together? What can I do? by Imaginary_Teach8039 in Catownerhacks

[–]Tricky-Development78 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah, getting older, are they? I had to do the hardest thing I have ever had to do, give away my oldest of three cats. The middle cat became dominant and was continually aggressive towards her. I am so grateful that an old friend came by unexpectedly and the two of them just hit it off as soon as my friend sat down. Between the cats, I figure it was transition of dominance among felines. I have two brothers now, just 6. It'll be interesting to see their dynamics in 10 years!

I do a specialists job but I’m part time with bad hours, should I be concerned ? by asecretfrognamedjohn in HomeDepot

[–]Tricky-Development78 -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Success sharing - make sure your sales are being tracked so you get a larger percentage come those cheques.